Too many people still believe that a long-distance relationship cannot work over time.
This means that when we are faced with such a situation, we often find ourselves isolated in our approach : our family or our friends can discourage us from continuing or else advise us not to get too involved emotionally so as not to come out with the problem. Broken Heart.
Obviously, this is far from easy. I can guarantee this to you after more than three years of long distance relationship.
The kilometers between lovers make many everyday things much more complicated . And if you can’t come to terms with the nature of the relationship, it causes a lot of sadness and loneliness.
But all is not black either. This geographical distance makes it possible to better appreciate the interactions that one can have with his or her partner. We cherish these little things that allow us to continue living a true life as a couple despite the miles.
In order to help you live this ordeal as well as possible, I have prepared for you in this article a list of 19 of the best tips that you can find for a successful long-distance relationship .
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1. See it as an opportunity
A long distance relationship is a huge chance to get to know yourself better and to know your partner better. It is a test both for your relationship, for your partner and for you.
But you still have to realize that a long-distance relationship brings you closer than it separates you .
Because if you can come to a happy end to this experience, then you will come out of it stronger and more united than ever. Believe me.
2. Establish common rules
You both need to be extremely clear about what you expect from each other in their long distance relationships.
Define basic rules as soon as possible that no one should break in order to avoid unpleasant surprises.
For example, is this romantic relationship exclusive? Is it OK to date people of the opposite sex? It’s better if you both are on the same page before going any further.
3. Trust your partner
Being away from the person we love can make us feel insecure at times. Despite our love, we can have doubts.
The truth is that at this point you had two options: you can either constantly doubt your partner, because you can never be sure of anything anyway, or you can trust him completely and have a fulfilling and healthy relationship .
Unless your partner has given you a good reason not to trust him, go for the second option and trust him 100%.
4. Communicate regularly and intelligently
In addition to saying “hello” and “good night” to your partner every day, you need to keep your partner up to date with what is going on in your life , even if some things may seem quite superficial.
Do not hesitate to be creative in capturing your partner’s attention by sharing pictures, messages a lot or even short videos every now and then.
By increasing their efforts, you will show the other person that they are loved and important.
5. Be careful not to over-communicate
Despite the distance, you don’t need to chat 15 hours a day for your relationship to move forward.
Live your life, let your partner breathe, putting aside your possible possessiveness. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to compensate for the physical absence that much with more communication .
This is not how it works. Otherwise, you will quickly lose patience. Communicate frequently, but rather than basing everything on it, bring a little variety in your interactions (activities, gifts, dates, etc.).
6. Do not neglect sexual desire in your relationship
Sexual desire is by far one of the most important aspects of any couple. Often, the couple’s sexuality is a reflection of the couple’s health.
However, we are not only talking about “physical” sex, since despite the distance you can also take care of partner’s sexual desire on a more emotional level .
It could be to send sext, suggestive photos or other, as I discuss in this article .
7. Don’t take unnecessary risks
When you know that you are going to do something “risky” for your relationship, for example going out with your friends at night for a drink and a dance, then you should either not do it or let your partner know for reassurance.
Don’t be insensitive to this, as your partner will either be suspicious or extremely worried about you . For him / her, you put yourself in a potentially dangerous situation for your relationship and where he / she has no control.
So be aware of the potential “danger” looming over you and listen to your partner’s objections.
8. Do activities together
Watch a documentary or movie together, sing together, play an online video game, shop together, cook and eat together, and more.
The only limit is that of your imagination. If you don’t know what to do, just ask yourself what you would do now if your partner was with you .
Chances are, you can do it a certain way despite the distance.
9. Share your hobbies
Recommend books, shows, movies, artists and sites you love!
In this way, by reading, listening and watching the same works and contents, you will have many more topics of discussion to address together during each of your exchanges .
It’s a great way to share common experiences while you are physically far from each other.
10. Meet up as often as possible
Reuniting is definitely the best part of a long distance relationship.
After weeks or even months of waiting, you finally have the opportunity to see each other again and enjoy all the little things that “normal” couples forget to appreciate: kiss her, hold her hand, etc.
These are crucial times to recharge the batteries of your relationship and start over several weeks or months of long distance relationship, so take every chance you have to see your partner again.
11. Have a goal in mind
How long are you going to stay in a long distance relationship? What do you want to do next? How are you going to accomplish this?
Here are some questions you should answer together. The truth is, no couple can stay in a long distance relationship forever . Sooner or later we will have to move on and live together, otherwise it will become unlivable to continue like this.
Therefore, have a specific plan in relation to this. What is your objective ? What are the different stages? You must each have this in mind if you ever want to end this long distance relationship.
12. Make the most of your long-distance relationship
Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you have to mope around and shut yourself away.
It’s not all about your partner and your long-distance relationship . You still have your family, your friends, your own goals and passions.
Take time to do more things with the people you care about, to discover new things to do, or to move towards your dreams. A lot of things don’t depend on your long distance relationship, so take advantage of being alone to do whatever you want.
13. Be honest with each other
Talk regularly with your partner about your fears, insecurities, jealousy, doubts, etc.
If you’re trying to cover up anything, then that secret will come up later, and not necessarily in a very pleasant way.
Don’t try to tackle it all on your own. Be open and honest in your relationship . Let your partner help and support you if you need it. It is better to talk about it too soon rather than too late.
14. Learn to control your jealousy
It is not uncommon in a long-distance romantic relationship to feel jealousy from time to time for people of the same sex as you with whom your partner has interacted.
Unfortunately, unchecked jealousy combining both possessiveness, insecurity, anger and doubts can make your relationship explosive .
If you experience this sometimes, learn how to control your jealousy before it controls you. It is not something easy, but it is possible.
15. Exchange your calendars
In a long-distance relationship, it is extremely interesting to know your partner’s agenda in order to know when he / she is busy and free.
This way you know when you can text or call them, rather than disturbing them at the wrong time (class, exam, work, meeting, etc.).
Also try to find out what are the small and large events that are out of the ordinary in his upcoming schedule (trips, exams, interviews, activities, etc.). This is especially important to know if you live in different time zones.
16. Give her a special gift
Whether it’s a pendant, a ring, a perfume or even a soft toy, nothing beats a personal gift that your partner can keep close to them to remember you .
In short, choose something strong enough and personal enough so that your partner doesn’t feel alone in their company anymore.
17. Be optimistic
The point is that in such a situation you have no other choice if you want to be successful in your long-distance relationship than to be optimistic.
It’s obvious that the wait is going to be painful and that you will often feel lonely, but you need to remember that if you are doing all of this it is because the fruit of this adventure will really want it .
Show gratitude to your partner. Show gratitude every day for this relationship and love that is so precious.
18. Do you talk about your families and friends?
Despite the distance, your goal is to be part of the same family and share the same daily life.
This means you can get started today by sharing more about the people who fill your day, like your friends and family .
In this way, you will get to know better the people who are dear to your partner and vice versa. In short, you will gradually build a broader definition of what your “family” and your “daily life” are.
19. Skype as much as possible
In terms of distance communication, today nothing beats the possibility of communicating with your partner using video.
You need to see your partner and your partner needs to see you on a daily basis , so install programs on your computer and mobile phone that allow video-calling for free, and then make it a habit.
