You can feel good even in the worst circumstances, and you can feel bad even in the best.
What the CoVid crisis has taught us, in my opinion, is this: that microscopic things can really affect our lives. And not only. Today I want to share with you some other key lessons that I think we brought home, and that we always need to work on:
1. Don’t obsess over the news
I advise you to dedicate a maximum of 3 minutes a day, no more, to dedicate to news about the crisis, war or pandemic. Watching the news too much doesn’t help you at all, although the information is very important. Look at your life, what can you do in your small way to improve? What can you do in your own small way to support your family, those close to you, yourself? We will never have enough news, the system was built to keep interest high.
How much has CoVid been a show in your life? Ask for it. How bad will this war be?
Reduce the time you spend on the news, spend more time on the things that really matter. Meditate 10 minutes everyday, go for a walk, eat really healthy things. Don’t lose hope, ever. A smile counts, even just one.
2. Don’t believe in promises of “normality”
Normality won’t arrive before another 4 and a half years, do 5. What’s happening is heavy, it’s serious, it’s real. Face reality, don’t reject it, it’s rough, it’s raw, it’s true. I already said it at the beginning of the pandemic and I repeat it, a crisis like this lasts 7 years, minimum. What you can do is stop investing your emotions in “empty hopes”, and start thinking seriously about how to develop a much more resilient model of managing emotional energies.
Don’t even feel too guilty, or “responsible,” or that it’s all up to you. Give your best. True, this article and many others sound strange, sound alarmist, never mind. Don’t be alarmed, don’t panic.
You have to find a sweet spot , which means an ideal balance between the acceptance of what is, and the lightness to keep smiling and building for another day, along with everything you hold dear. Keep loving yourself, don’t expect anything from outside, create your happiness in the now.
3. Set aside your hard feelings
The crisis has taught me that some things are not as important as they seem. Internet memes, for example, can be a way to escape, not to look at the world. I’m not talking to you about this though, I’m talking to you about something much deeper, and specifically your grievances with others.
How many friends have you put in your personal death note? How many people have you decided to ignore forever because they “wrong” you? How many are you hating for their “crimes against you”? How many offenses have you simply decided never to forgive again?
Pay attention to these questions, and realize that we have other priorities right now. Don’t use War as an excuse to get revenge on those you don’t respect, or those you don’t think respect you enough. Keep in mind that crises are a pretext for everyone to feel superior, I’m certainly guilty and responsible for it. The human mind is made this way, it tends to give priority to the reasons of the Self, and to the Self, before everything else. All right, let’s accept it, let’s move on. We don’t necessarily have to fall victim to our automatic mechanisms. We don’t necessarily have to follow the first thought we have. We can certainly do more. We can certainly pay attention to far more important things.
4. Train, get ready, keep fit
Eat the healthiest things you can. Eating vegan, when done with a common sense that you certainly already possess, is extremely sustainable. I’ve almost finished 7 years of vegan nutrition, I feel good, I have the abs I wanted, I’m the weight I wanted, I feel like a show, I’m ready for anything, my heart smiles.
Don’t necessarily believe anyone who tells you vegan can’t be done. Some elderly people, perhaps in authoritative positions in relation to public health, for example, are sometimes wrong. The Pope is not God. The Doctor is not Medicine. You can really do a lot in that direction, don’t worry too much about protein or B12, really. Simply, eat well and in abundance and above all stay close to a person who has been vegan for some time.You will learn automatically. Sometimes some vegan people I’ve known have deficiencies. This is due to them not getting enough calories. Even the omnivorous people I’ve known who have similar deficiencies don’t get enough calories. But in the eyes of an inexperienced “expert”, of course, in the first case it is the fault of the vegan.
Diet aside, which will change your life, train. If you’re young, run, do parcour, skate, move. I learned from running a full marathon that you don’t need to overdo it. You don’t even have to run every day if you don’t feel like it. Of course, your heart wants to see you move. And frankly, me too.
5. Don’t waste time arguing with others
This is something I haven’t done in a very long time. Not convincing friends of something that “you understand”, really, is a total waste even of energy and life and everything. Have patience, give others space to live out their beliefs. If yours is correct, reality will directly support you and you won’t need to prove anything, because you’ll already be exactly where you knew you were.
Even better, focus those energies on increasing your understanding. How much can you be persuaded about the things that “you still don’t understand”? If you think about it, you have a huge opportunity there. seize it! Remain malleable to whoever you think can guide you in the right direction. Sometimes we have to take a deep breath, then a sigh again, then step back and say, okay, okay, a little humility is needed, a pinch every day, even for me. Usually, the next sensation is one of wonderful clarity and release.
6. Support your business, quit your job
Money is very important. How much longer are you going to donate your talent to a company that doesn’t have your interest high on their priority list, just for convenience? You’re playing a losing game, and you know it. Enough. Enough. Enough. Stop beating yourself up, basically. If you “know” that the world is unfair, and that everyone is bad and that money “sucks” etc… Maybe you don’t know? Maybe you’ve never known anything else? You can even take offense, I don’t give a fuck. Go away, leave the site, and you complain to mom because Dylan is ugly and mean and she told me my job is worthless and that I’m living in a bubble of illusions.
The truth is that opening your own business is possible and necessary, especially if you are young, and it will reveal an enormous truth about the world: that you can make a lot of money doing what you consider most important, that bowing to the “system” has always been your decision, that money is easy, that maybe giving yourself a chance in this sense is much better than continuing to feel sorry for yourself. If something doesn’t help or blocks you, screw it. You are stronger than everyone, and you will see that even if your family doesn’t agree, even if your state apparently isn’t helping you, even if your company looks at you wrong and doesn’t believe in you, when will the money start to enter, everyone will love you again. Especially me, especially you ?
Do it for me, okay? And write to me, book a coaching call . I’m here.
7. Don’t hate, love
What is really important? The masks? Realistically. And even more than that, do you really want to get on the hate bandwagon? Do you want to hate Trump? Do you want to hate Putin? They are just people. They are only human beings. Caged rats, like any other sentient being. I pray for them, I pray for you.
If I think I’m better than anyone, including the worst bastards in history, then I lose. I lost my chance not to hate. I lost my chance to find some love for myself in that moment and have a different thought. Change that thinking! Give voice to true love, which is not Disney, which is not being imbecile. True love is something that is simply seen. It’s not hard, it’s not hard, stop saying it’s hard. In fact, while we’re at it…
Very easy
Repeat it ad infinitum. Learn Japanese? Very easy. Overcome the crisis? Very easy. Facing War? Very easy. Doing homework? Very easy. Raising my kids? Very easy. Recover from my disease? Very easy. Turn the page? Very easy. Feel good about yourself? Very easy. Live? Very easy.
Believe it, just don’t say it. Live it. Experience the ease of life. And if one day you feel that the weight of things is too great, this site is here to help.
