Voyeurism and exhibitionism: know when it’s healthy

Have you heard of voyeurism? It is a practice in which a person feels pleasure watching someone in an intimate situation. The topic is taboo and quite controversial. Those who practice voyeurism are very decriminalized, as if they were perverts. But, as everything has two sides, I am here to show you that this practice has a good side and can even help your relationship, if done in moderation. Want to know how? So check out how voyeurism can get your relationship out of the rut.

According to experts, voyeurism is more common among men. That’s because they respond more to the vision stimulus. Women, on the other hand, usually need physical contact. Therefore, there are few female representatives with this type of compulsion. However, in today’s text, I will not focus only on that aspect of voyeurism, I will show how it can be used in a moment together.

In today’s text we will cover the following topics:

  • What is voyeurism?
  • Learning model
  • First step towards other sexual activities
  • Voyeurism in the arts
  • How can voyeurism get your relationship out of the rut?
  • Don’t make voyeurism the protagonist of the relationship

What is voyeurism?

The term comes from the French voyeur (the one who sees). Voyeurists (who practice voyeurism) feel sexual satisfaction when watching other naked people, in intimate costumes or performing sexual acts. That is, they take pleasure in seeing situations that people normally reserve for privacy. Most of the time, they observe from a safe distance, for example, through a lock on a door, a special refuge or also through a mirror. The risk of being discovered increases the desire for voyeurism.

The debate between psychologists and sexologists for or against voyeurism is inexhaustible. Although it is considered a paraphilia, experts say that when there is trust, respect and communication between a couple, voyeurism can be a harmless practice that will bring benefits together through the pleasure of watching.

Learning model

Witnessing someone else’s sexual act can also be a way to improve your own performance. Being a spectator of other people’s sex becomes tempting because it stimulates the senses and motivates dormant desires. Currently, this does not imply degraded behavior and some sexologists recommend looking at the sexuality of others as a stimulator of desire or a model of learning. However, this must be done in a consensual way among those involved.

First step towards other sexual activities

In the same way that exhibitionism produces excitement when someone is observed having sex, voyeurism works in reverse: excitement occurs when seeing others making love or performing sexual acts. As you can see, the two are related, and the voyeur can have something of an exhibitionist.

Voyeurism is generally considered to be the “introductory” activity to several different forms of open sexuality, such as trios, swing etc. That is, it is considered as a first step for couples who are attracted to this type of sexuality. He proves voyeurism, likes what he experiences and is already in contact with the world of free and open sexuality, meeting people and places where they can move on to other activities.

How can voyeurism get your relationship out of the rut?

Voyeurism can start simply. Watching sex scenes in an erotic movie can be healthy, if your partner or you need some extra motivation. You can also see yourself while making love with the help of mirrors. This can be very intimate and exciting and it doesn’t have to be something perverse. You can also consider new fantasies together. How about spying on your partner in intimate moments and suddenly “attacking” your partner without mercy?

We all have a voyeur on someone who gets excited watching others having sex. In its most accepted form, the excitement can come from a simple striptease, for example, but there are special places where you can watch other couples. Don’t you think this can be interesting?

Talk to your partner

The first step for any couple is to realize that it is exciting for them to see other couples having sex. Some couples do these activities as a way to end the routine, that is, for them it is like a sex toy, a new element in their relationship. In other cases, it simply arises from the beginning of the relationship and becomes part of your sexuality.

So the first thing to talk about is whether you are both interested in trying a voyeurism session. And the key here is to understand that it has to be something that you both like, and in no way try because you want to please your partner. And, of course, we must also accept if he doesn’t feel interested. But if you both find it exciting, why not try?

Make sure those involved agree with everything

We must always maintain respect for the person with whom we are going to share the experience. It is opportune to ask who will be our partner in this adventure if she agrees to participate, because many like to watch without the other person being aware that she is being watched.

Choose a suitable location

It is always good to be careful with some details when entering the world of voyeurism. Many of these activities may be frowned upon or even illegal in some places, so it is not recommended to practice them anywhere.
We recommend practicing voyeurism only in places where there are suitable spaces such as a swing club or establishments designed for this purpose. There are not many and they are concentrated around big cities, but they can be found.

Have you heard of voyeurism? It is a practice in which a person feels pleasure watching someone in an intimate situation. The topic is taboo and quite controversial. Those who practice voyeurism are very decriminalized, as if they were perverts. But, as everything has two sides, I am here to show you that this practice has a good side and can even help your relationship, if done in moderation. Want to know how? So check out how voyeurism can get your relationship out of the rut.

According to experts, voyeurism is more common among men. That’s because they respond more to the vision stimulus. Women, on the other hand, usually need physical contact. Therefore, there are few female representatives with this type of compulsion. However, in today’s text, I will not focus only on that aspect of voyeurism, I will show how it can be used in a moment together.

In today’s text we will cover the following topics:

  • What is voyeurism?
  • Learning model
  • First step towards other sexual activities
  • Voyeurism in the arts
  • How can voyeurism get your relationship out of the rut?
  • Don’t make voyeurism the protagonist of the relationship

What is voyeurism?

The term comes from the French voyeur (the one who sees). Voyeurists (who practice voyeurism) feel sexual satisfaction when watching other naked people, in intimate costumes or performing sexual acts. That is, they take pleasure in seeing situations that people normally reserve for privacy. Most of the time, they observe from a safe distance, for example, through a lock on a door, a special refuge or also through a mirror. The risk of being discovered increases the desire for voyeurism.

The debate between psychologists and sexologists for or against voyeurism is inexhaustible. Although it is considered a paraphilia, experts say that when there is trust, respect and communication between a couple, voyeurism can be a harmless practice that will bring benefits together through the pleasure of watching.

Learning model

Witnessing someone else’s sexual act can also be a way to improve your own performance. Being a spectator of other people’s sex becomes tempting because it stimulates the senses and motivates dormant desires. Currently, this does not imply degraded behavior and some sexologists recommend looking at the sexuality of others as a stimulator of desire or a model of learning. However, this must be done in a consensual way among those involved.

First step towards other sexual activities

In the same way that exhibitionism produces excitement when someone is observed having sex, voyeurism works in reverse: excitement occurs when seeing others making love or performing sexual acts. As you can see, the two are related, and the voyeur can have something of an exhibitionist.

Voyeurism is generally considered to be the “introductory” activity to several different forms of open sexuality, such as trios, swing etc. That is, it is considered as a first step for couples who are attracted to this type of sexuality. He proves voyeurism, likes what he experiences and is already in contact with the world of free and open sexuality, meeting people and places where they can move on to other activities.

How can voyeurism get your relationship out of the rut?

Voyeurism can start simply. Watching sex scenes in an erotic movie can be healthy, if your partner or you need some extra motivation. You can also see yourself while making love with the help of mirrors. This can be very intimate and exciting and it doesn’t have to be something perverse. You can also consider new fantasies together. How about spying on your partner in intimate moments and suddenly “attacking” your partner without mercy?

We all have a voyeur on someone who gets excited watching others having sex. In its most accepted form, the excitement can come from a simple striptease, for example, but there are special places where you can watch other couples. Don’t you think this can be interesting?

Talk to your partner

The first step for any couple is to realize that it is exciting for them to see other couples having sex. Some couples do these activities as a way to end the routine, that is, for them it is like a sex toy, a new element in their relationship. In other cases, it simply arises from the beginning of the relationship and becomes part of your sexuality.

So the first thing to talk about is whether you are both interested in trying a voyeurism session. And the key here is to understand that it has to be something that you both like, and in no way try because you want to please your partner. And, of course, we must also accept if he doesn’t feel interested. But if you both find it exciting, why not try?

Make sure those involved agree with everything

We must always maintain respect for the person with whom we are going to share the experience. It is opportune to ask who will be our partner in this adventure if she agrees to participate, because many like to watch without the other person being aware that she is being watched.

Choose a suitable location

It is always good to be careful with some details when entering the world of voyeurism. Many of these activities may be frowned upon or even illegal in some places, so it is not recommended to practice them anywhere.
We recommend practicing voyeurism only in places where there are suitable spaces such as a swing club or establishments designed for this purpose. There are not many and they are concentrated around big cities, but they can be found.

follow the rules

Even within a specialized location it is necessary to maintain an education and proper posture. Ask and find out what the local rules are. Some basic ones are:

  • it is not: basic rule of liberal sexual activities. No pressing, forcing, trying to convince with alcohol, etc .;
  • respect all participants: Always use education and good manners, never insult or humiliate anyone;
  • discretion: Do not discuss this activity with other people, who is involved or who is not. Avoid using names or describing participants.

Enjoy the experience

In these places we can look, and, if we want, also be seen. In both cases, the emotion comes from breaking the private taboo, either as voyeurs or as assisted. The whole environment and visions can become a very exciting experience for the couple …

Don’t make voyeurism the protagonist of the relationship

Voyeurism can help you have a good time, but it shouldn’t become the central part of your sex life. If that happens, you will be limiting yourself, failing to enjoy a lot with your partner. Therefore, it should be considered as a single event, which activates your sex life and your libido .

Exhibitionism

Think fast: when you hear about exhibitionism, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Probably a naked man appears, covered in a raincoat, waiting in a dark alley to show his penis to a victim. But I can assure you that the concept of exhibitionism is much broader and that, despite this perverse and satirized image, it can even enhance a relationship. Do you doubt? So let me explain what exhibitionism is and how it can spice up your relationship.

According to research by Princeton University, exhibitionism is one of the most common fantasies in men and women. The expectation of being seen during intercourse increases dopamine production in the brain, which is an essential neurotransmitter in sexual arousal. According to experts, most people are prone to exhibitionism because the experience itself is very attractive and exciting. The possibility of being caught increases the pleasure of orgasm.

What is exhibitionism?

Exhibitionism is a very specific type of paraphilia. Don’t you know what we’re talking about? So, we should start there. This term refers to a series of atypical and powerful sexual fantasies that provide sexual arousal for both men and women. They cannot be confused with sexual fantasies, because they are completely different things.

Although it has been treated in modern history as a pathology, we have already found texts that disassociate some exhibitionist attitudes from the classic image of the perverted man.

Despite being seen as a sexual deviation by some, exhibitionism does no harm to anyone, unless the person is exposed in a public place; then, of course, she can be arrested and accused of indecent exposure. But if she does it at home or more discreetly, there will be no problems.

Types of exhibitionism

We can say that exhibitionism is the attitude of showing your nudity (usually of the genitals) in public. There are a few types, among them:

  • delinquent or criminal: actions associated with violence. It is the case of the perverted man in the raincoat we talked about above;
  • pure: one in which the exhibitionist simply likes to show his genitals;
  • fanciful: when the exhibitionist is simply excited by the idea of ​​knowing that someone is watching his nudity.

Why are some people attracted by this practice?

The truth is that half of the attraction lies in the possibility of being caught in full nudity or during sex. For some people, being caught or simply imagining a similar situation like this is enough to raise blood pressure, burn with desire and jump headlong into the idea of ​​new sexual adventures.

When is it necessary to seek help?

Like all paraphilias, exhibitionism will only be of concern when replacing a sexual relationship, that is, the person cannot reach orgasm in any other way, and when the desire to expose gets out of control. In these cases it is necessary to seek therapeutic help.

How exhibitionism can spice up your relationship

The key to exploring the exhibitionism fetish is, first of all, getting rid of prejudices and taboos. I suggest that you think, speak and understand your own feelings to see if this is what you really want.

All of this must also be shared with your partner, as it is necessary to know if you share the same interests. Only then will you enjoy this new experience with peace of mind.

Be sure of consent

A fundamental factor in this practice is the consent of the participants. When exhibitionism is practiced within a conducive environment, where there is consent from those present, the experience becomes totally different and exciting for those involved.

Everyone gets their pleasure without committing a crime or denigrating anyone, since everything happens by mutual agreement.

Find a suitable location

A good place for this practice are the famous swing clubs. Most visitors go to these places to have group sex. However, there are couples who go to these places to have sex in public. Knowing that there are people around, watching the sexual act, becomes a powerful source of excitement.

Experience games

A couple can practice exhibitionism as a sexual game. It’s a good method of arousal, I guarantee. You can use a vibrator while your partner looks, or one of the two can dance and then undress, or even you can masturbate in front of each other. In situations of sex with a group or three, it may be common for some of the members to go a little further to enjoy the show.

Learn about other practices

Do you know dogging? It is a practice that involves exhibitionism and voyeurism. Usually, a couple has sex or shows up inside a parked vehicle, while some men around them masturbate, participate in the act or just watch. Participants organize meetings, most of the time, late at night and in places with little circulation, such as squares, parks and parking lots.

If you want to try dogging, be sure to take certain precautions to avoid being caught.

Make videos 

Another example of exhibitionism could be home porn videos. It can be exciting to have the footage for you and show it to others. A skype live, so that other people can see sex with your partner, or you masturbating is also an exciting form of exhibitionism.

Just be careful to show this video to those who have complete confidence, otherwise an act of pleasure can become a real headache.

try it

As I always say, while everyone is satisfied, exhibitionism can become a very pleasant and pleasurable sexual practice. It can be a powerful ingredient in the erotic scene, and together with other practices, it can become an interesting, creative and joyful game. You just have to find out how you will practice and then you will be able to enjoy all these pleasures that exhibitionism offers.

 

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