Psychological neutralization of the past
Psychological antidote to the past
We all have to go through life with a set of life experiences drawn from past years. Based on this experience, certain behavioral patterns and stereotypes arise in our minds and are fixed, which predetermine its attitude in three main directions:
- Our attitude to ourselves;
- Stereotypes in relation to the people around us;
- Our perception of reality.
Past successes help a person to adequately respond to temporary difficulties, which is logically justified, since there is evidence-based self-confidence. But past failures, especially bitter and traumatic ones, require awareness and analysis.
If this does not happen, the person inadvertently pushes the memory of the lesions into the subconscious, which is the basis for many personality disorders, pathological fears and unfolding interpersonal communications. So the past begins to control our present and poison the future.
In order to qualitatively change your life, you need to qualitatively transform your thinking and realize your stereotypes.
It will be possible to do the latter if his past is worked out in a high-quality and detailed manner, and it will be necessary to work through past personality errors in all three areas.
Personality and Time
The most destructive “gift” from the past in the field of self-perception is unforgiveness of oneself. Mistakes are long gone, the consequences have become less acute and more familiar, woven into the outline of the days, and the heart still gnaws at hatred for its own decisions, motivations and soul: a person does not accept himself, does not give himself the right to make mistakes, and is actually in a state of self-denial.
This is the most dangerous “trace”, stretching from the past, which leads to the development of psychosomatic diseases, up to the formation of cancerous tumors, because the body at the subconscious level, as it were, receives a signal to destroy itself. “The mistakes are so serious that I have no right to live on,” – with such an unformed thought, but pursued by its semantic content, a person lives day by day, not realizing that he himself shut off almost all of the “oxygen” for possible happiness.
In order to qualitatively change your life,
you need to qualitatively transform your thinking and realize your stereotypes.
Other people as hostages of the past
In relation to people, there may also be unforgiveness based on the same logical calculations, but even disappointment can be mixed in with a person’s reaction, which originates from irrepressible demands and high expectations.
The fruits of this distorted interaction with the environment are cynicism, emotional cold and alienation, as well as the inability to open up to a deep level to someone. The circle of communication is significantly reduced, and the remaining people become involuntary victims of outbreaks of discontent and pickiness of the injured person.
Only the realization of the truth that no one has the right to hang on others the so-called “moral debts” can illuminate the soul of such a person. No one has the right to determine the life and choice of another person, even if the choice made is evil, vile and irrational.
Freedom of choice is unchanged. Any restriction of freedom by imposed norms and frameworks is a direct encroachment on the human being and has nothing to do with love and respect.
It is these provisions that should be understood and felt by the “skin” in the process of working on the mistakes of the past. Then something will definitely begin to change in the mind.
Errors of the past can distort the attitude to the world around us, pushing the emotional “pendulum” of a person to one of two poles:
- the individual begins to see a hostile zone in the surrounding world;
- the individual begins to neglect the feelings of others as much as possible, as if devaluing the initial human values - psychological nihilism sets in (from the ancient Greek word meaning “nothing”).