Why are some people happier than others, apparently under the same circumstances? Why are there people who seem to always have bad things happen and others who are lucky ? In this post we want to talk to you about the power of positive thinking.
The reality is that the circumstances , the things that happen, the world in general, is the same for everyone , the only difference is the ATTITUDE with which each one faces things and the type of THOUGHTS on which we focus .
Of course, we are not talking about major misfortunes, accidents or the like, here we only talk about the normal day to day life of an average person.
An optimistic person is predisposed to seek the positive things that surround him. This does not mean that more good things happen to that person than to others, simply, it focuses on looking for and valuing them.
An illustrative exercise:
You are in a room and I ask you to find 5 brown things. I leave you a few seconds and ask you: “Okay, now tell me how many things have you found in color … pink?”
Well, you might say: “But that was not what I had to look for! I haven’t seen anything pink, I’ve only seen brown things! ”
Indeed, the mind only finds what it seeks . If you are looking for brown things, you will find brown. If you are looking for the bad, you will certainly find it.
But we are also surrounded by pink things! Why not focus on searching for them?
I do not agree at all with the typical phrase of: “Always expect the worst and thus you will never be disappointed.”
The reality is usually that if you expect the worst, you will probably get the worst.
Focus your life on the positive things and suddenly you will realize that much more good things happen to you. It’s not magic, it’s science. The more you focus on something, the more resources your mind uses to find it.
The more you focus on something, the more resources your mind uses to find it #emprender
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It is one of the great secrets of the mind, luck, success and life in general.
And here is the good news: This personal attitude and way of thinking can be developed and educated . So you have no excuse not to try it and see the results for yourself.
All people who achieve their goals and are successful in life have in common that they take great care of their thoughts and do not allow themselves negative thoughts about themselves or their circumstances.
#Personal attitude is a multiplier of our qualities @MasyMejorCom #Optimism ”#emprender
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Here we show you some keys and strategies that you can apply from now on to start having more positive thoughts and being less negative in your day to day.
- Never generalize by rule
The world is much more complex than black or white, yes or no. Life is full of nuances.
Always ask yourself the why of things, question everything, make constructive criticisms of your surroundings. The “always” or the “never” are not good traveling companions.
The importance of language is vital. And it is very common to make comments like: “I always do everything wrong.”
Really analyze it and you will realize that they do not conform to reality. Do you always do everything wrong? I do not think so.
- Don’t underestimate the good and be grateful
Almost always we tend to highlight the bad things that happen to us and ignore all the good. Are you sure that good things don’t happen to you? If we overlook everything good that happens to us, we are taking away its value. Don’t always see the worst case.
Spend time a day thinking about 3 things you are thankful for in your life. This will force you to look for the good things that are also there and will help you stay positive.
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- Say no to assumptions
Assumptions are almost always unfounded, based on personal perceptions and a single world view. With uncontested information that often leads to misunderstandings that should never have occurred. There is no effective and direct method that allows us to know that an assumption is really as they describe it to us … Well, yes, one, and it is simply to always ask the why of things. Asking is the best antidote to the poison of assumptions.
- Find the equilibrium point
Extremes are never good, since they inevitably lead to authoritarian positions. The midpoint of balance and consensus is always the best option. The mistake of both excess and lack is something we should not fall into. And it is that the exaggeration or the minimization of the problems will lessen our capacity to face them in the best possible way.
- Don’t put yourself in the role of victim
Becoming the victim is the easy, comfortable and quick way out of all our problems. Standardized victimization is something totally detrimental to us and our interests, and it is something that leads to irresponsibility. And it should not be so, we are fully responsible for our actions, and we must assume them for both good and evil.
Get out of your mind phrases like “I am never lucky”, “I will never get what the others”, or “Things never go well for me and for others if” . Thinking like this is toxic and puts you on a lower plane. Do you really want this?
Be proactive and take responsibility.
- Say no to predictions
Predictions are usually confusing and without clear precision. In every prediction there is a huge component of uncertainty, which inevitably leads to anxiety and everything going wrong. So get predictions out of you as a valid way of thinking, since they are not. It acts based on real, verifiable and truthful information. Your actions will gain in consistency and effectiveness.
- Set clear and precise limits to your own responsibility
It is worth that we have to be proactive and take responsibility in our lives, but with a limit. There are thousands of variables that are out of our hands and that we cannot control.
Thinking that everything that happens to us is the sole responsibility of ourselves is something that will make us have a huge feeling of guilt, and what is also very toxic: believing that we control everything, absolutely everything, when in reality it is not like that.
In the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People , Stephen Covey talks about the Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern.
The Circle of Concern are all the things we care about and the Circle of Influence are the things we can do something about. A proactive person focuses on his circle of influence , that is, on solving the things that he can really act on and not worrying about the things that he cannot control or solve.
Why be worried if it rains tomorrow and the plan bothers you? You can’t do anything about it, you can’t control the weather. But what you can do is buy an umbrella to be prepared 😉
- Accept that not everything is perfect
Being optimistic is not thinking that everything is perfect and ideal, that there are never problems or obstacles.
A positive person knows how to accept that things don’t always happen as you expect and you have to assume it. It is letting go of that need for perfection and learning to surf life and adapt to each situation.
Don’t waste energy on negative emotions when you’re wrong or something goes wrong. Accept it and try to figure out what can be done better next time. There is no mistake, but there is a lesson 😉
- Labels are unfair
No one deserves a label permanently for something they did . Everyone is wrong, like you, and it’s not fair to tag for life for one mistake, or several. The labels disqualify the person , and do not get to the bottom of the matter, they are not constructive. We are all polyhedral, but labels have only one face, which is often not the most reliable or correct.
The Assertiveness says you should not judge or label people, but judge the facts objectively.
It is not the same to tell a child “You are a bad child” than “You have done this wrong” (and tell them why and how you can correct it).
- Focus on the present
How much time do we sometimes spend worrying about problems that will never happen? We tend to anticipate events, putting ourselves in the worst case, imagining a thousand situations and problems, which then normally do not come to pass. We only manage to generate anxiety, nerves and stress.
Many times we make problems seem bigger than they are, because we let our subconscious wander and spin around without getting to any point.
Focusing on the present will minimize your worries. For this, the practice of mindfulness meditation is very good, which helps to improve consciousness and to be more present in each moment instead of worrying about future things.
- Surround yourself with positive people
They say that we are the average of the 5 people with whom we spend the most time.
You are the average of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time #emprender
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Analyze your environment to see if the people around you bring you positive things or the opposite. Sometimes we don’t realize how many people are around us complaining and transmitting negativity. Try to get away from them and not catch it.
The more time you spend with people who have a positive mental attitude, the more and more you will begin to think and act similarly.
Connect with people who make you feel good and with whom you have a good time. Do not underestimate the power of laughter, it is one of the best therapies against stress .
And you do you think? Do you believe in the power of positive thinking? Are you normally optimistic in your life? What other keys or strategies would you add? Or if, on the contrary, you tend to look for the negative part of situations more and get stressed easily, do you think you can apply these points to improve? Do you accept the challenge of trying to be more positive for the next 21 days?