Happiness

Unhappy or happy people make only his thoughts, and not external circumstances. By controlling his thoughts, he controls his happiness.
Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

Not every person can clearly explain what happiness is, even for himself. But despite this, we all want to be happy and how we can strive for our happiness. We understand that being happy is good, that this is a condition in which you really want to live, everyone is happy and you feel easy and calm, and just enjoy life. Therefore, we are attracted by such a state, we want to find it and stay in it constantly. And although this is most likely impossible, to be happy all the time, but still, most of the time, in my opinion, a person should feel happy, even if everything is not good in his life. It seems to me that I discovered for myself the secret of happiness, thanks to which I came to a state of peace and peace of mind that has been accompanying me lately. Now I am helping other people who feel bad find this state. And in this article, friends, I will share this secret of happiness with you, so that you too enjoy life and suffer less.

What is happiness

Let’s traditionally begin by defining the concept under discussion in order to harmonize our ideas about it. Simply put, happiness is the absence of pain and suffering and the presence of joy and pleasure. But this is a simplified approach to understanding happiness. If we delve into an understanding of this state, we can say that happiness is a feeling of satisfaction and bliss, which depends on many things and often turns out to be unstable. A man is so arranged that no matter how good he is, over time he gets bored and he again experiences dissatisfaction, which means that he feels miserable. Therefore, I believe that happiness is also the ability to enjoy, if not everything, then much that is in your life. This is a state of gratitude to life for just having it. Whatever it is, our life, the main thing is that it is.

One has to understand a lot in life in order to see happiness in that in which many people do not see it. Living, breathing, watching is happiness. To rejoice at sunrise is happiness. Hearing the rustling of leaves and birdsong is happiness. Admiring the stars is happiness. Touching the snow with your hands is happiness. Pleasure, satisfaction, comfort is happiness. You can list endlessly all those things that make us happy, provided that we value them, or rather, we recognize their value. But to come to this I realize, oh how difficult. But we will do it, we will pave our way to happiness.

Interest

You know, I was once very lucky when I was still very young. I don’t know how and thanks to what, but I came to understand that in life you have to deal mainly with interesting things, reach out for interesting things, because interest is a very good motivator, a very useful motivator, thanks to which you can be quite active, hardworking, persistent and with this happy. Later I realized that it’s also possible to love uninteresting affairs and make them interesting, a person adapts to everything, gets used to everything and, what is especially important, he can love everything, well, or almost everything. But initially it is important to focus on interest, not on obligations, not on a sense of duty, and others there are “necessary”, but on what you like, what’s called for, the soul lies. If we start from this, then the person will remain curious, inquiring about the mind, purposeful, dreaminess, passion in the eyes, thanks to which he will be interested in living and striving for something. But is it not happiness, all the time for the sake of something to live, enjoying what you are doing?

Our life can be any, absolutely, we do not have any special life paths designed for each individual person. There are simply bad paths leading to suffering and pain, and good paths that lead to satisfaction. And these two areas may have many options, you can enjoy many things and suffer from many things. Therefore, what you will devote your life to, your happiness will be connected with that. Or misfortune, if your choice is bad. But I think that most people understand what is important in life, what it makes sense to devote to. Then they will surely experience some kind of happiness, doing what they like. Whether it will be complete at the same time depends on what the person chooses. Here it is impossible to depart from the traditional, eternal values ​​that nature itself is orienting us to. And this is family, children, friends, in a word, people, dear to us people. People are more important than anything else, I think so. But other things also have their value and also make life interesting, beautiful, joyful.

Therefore, if you devote yourself to family values, you will have one happiness, and devote yourself to work, career – another. Maybe you devote yourself to some great idea that is valuable to you, then any success in its implementation will make you a happy person. Everything has its own happiness. It is only necessary to go to what the soul lies. But I repeat that I believe that family, children, good friends you can rely on, work that promotes self-realization of a person and does not prevent him from paying attention to his beloved people, these are precisely the values ​​that nature defined for us as the main ones. And this makes sense, they are associated with life, with its maintenance and continuation. Everything that life gives, supports and develops, all this is very valuable and if you devote yourself to it, you will inevitably be happy. And to devote yourself to this, need to develop interest in these values. We have it by nature, but it is not intelligent enough, let’s say so. Therefore, a person needs the right upbringing, the right training, so that he understands what is important in life and what is not, what is the joy of this or that way of life, for which you need to sacrifice some joys for the sake of others. In general, the ability to be happy should be taught by educating people on the issue of life values ​​and priority. And those are based on our innate needs. Let’s talk about them. The ability to be happy must be taught by educating people on the issue of life values ​​and priority. And those are based on our innate needs. Let’s talk about them. The ability to be happy must be taught by educating people on the issue of life values ​​and priority. And those are based on our innate needs. Let’s talk about them.

Needs

So, needs. A very important part of our life. You want to agree with me, you want not, but I believe that a person is happy when he satisfies his needs. And on them our whole life rests. We are constantly focused on meeting our needs. Nature has laid in man the desire to achieve goals related to his needs. If a person reaches them, he feels great satisfaction, joy, feels pleasure, this is his reward for success in important matters from the point of view of nature. If these goals are not achieved, a person feels discomfort, dissatisfaction, pain, both physical and mental. So if you feel unhappy, think about which of your needs are currently unsatisfied and how relevant they are, let’s say, to you. Keep in mind,

People often do not understand which of their needs they should currently meet. They always want more and what they don’t have. This is one of the reasons for their constant dissatisfaction, because of which they feel infrequent. If you constantly think about what you don’t have, and not what you have, happiness will always be somewhere there, far, in the future, and not here and not now. Think about what a person needs at all? Do we need to eat something in order to survive? Necessary. Do we need to sleep? It is necessary. Do we need security? Necessary. Propagate [sex drive] do we want? We want to. Well and so on. We have many needs, there is even an opinion that they are endless, like our desires, I don’t know this, so I won’t share this opinion, it’s more important for me to understand something else, which of his needs should be satisfied first of all, which secondly, and so on. Then the person will not miss the main thing, chasing the inaccessible. Because in my opinion it is unreasonable when, for example, a person is malnourished, but at the same time wants to attract attention by buying expensive things, trying to seem like what he is not. What will he get from this, attention, respect, recognition? And what good is such joy? It’s better to take care of yourself, to become someone, and then to draw attention to yourself, not sacrificing your health, but somehow surprising, delighting, interested people. Or here’s another example when, instead of education, people spend money on entertainment, and then they are surprised that they live poorly. Well, as they wanted, being not valuable enough and therefore demanded in the labor market or lacking the necessary skills in business, other types of activities in which a person cannot succeed without a good education, get the very cream just because they want it? This does not happen. A person must be in demand, useful, needed to be highly valued and adequately rewarded. Therefore, it is important to strive to satisfy those needs that are adequate to your current situation. Health, knowledge, communication with people, communication with the opposite sex, in these matters there must be order, so that he is in other matters. And when in everything order and a person succeeds in different areas of his life, of course, he will be happy. We are all happy when we succeed and we get what we want. in which a person cannot succeed without a good education, get the very cream just because they want it? This does not happen. A person must be in demand, useful, needed to be highly valued and adequately rewarded. Therefore, it is important to strive to satisfy those needs that are adequate to your current situation. Health, knowledge, communication with people, communication with the opposite sex, in these matters there must be order, so that he is in other matters. And when in everything order and a person succeeds in different areas of his life, of course, he will be happy. We are all happy when we succeed and we get what we want. in which a person cannot succeed without a good education, get the very cream just because they want it? This does not happen. A person must be in demand, useful, needed to be highly valued and adequately rewarded. Therefore, it is important to strive to satisfy those needs that are adequate to your current situation. Health, knowledge, communication with people, communication with the opposite sex, in these matters there must be order, so that he is in other matters. And when in everything order and a person succeeds in different areas of his life, of course, he will be happy. We are all happy when we succeed and we get what we want. to be highly valued and rewarded accordingly. Therefore, it is important to strive to satisfy those needs that are adequate to your current situation. Health, knowledge, communication with people, communication with the opposite sex, in these matters there must be order, so that he is in other matters. And when in everything order and a person succeeds in different areas of his life, of course, he will be happy. We are all happy when we succeed and we get what we want. to be highly valued and rewarded accordingly. Therefore, it is important to strive to satisfy those needs that are adequate to your current situation. Health, knowledge, communication with people, communication with the opposite sex, in these matters there must be order, so that he is in other matters. And when in everything order and a person succeeds in different areas of his life, of course, he will be happy. We are all happy when we succeed and we get what we want.

And here is another important point. Happiness is important to be able to fix. There are many moments in our life when we feel happy, satisfying our simplest needs. Take, for example, a person who suffers from thirst, he simply cannot bear it, he only thinks about water, he wants to drink so much that he is ready to give everything for a glass of water. And imagine you give him this glass. While he will drink it, quenching his thirst, for some time he will feel like the happiest person in the world. Do you agree? Happiness will come to him at this time and you just need to fix it in order to feel the full value of this moment. It will pass quickly, as soon as the thirst recedes, other thoughts and other desires associated with other needs will take over our heads. This is natural, it happens with everything. But there will be a moment of happiness, right? So they need to enjoy. Because everything else that is in our life that is connected with our needs will be unstable, we will not be able to enjoy anything forever. It all ends sometime. But there are such moments when happiness with us, in us, is a lot in the life of every person. They must be appreciated, remembered, noticed. Then you will realize that little things deliver the same happiness as great successes. The only difference is the time during which you will feel happy. And now let’s move on to what I call the secret of happiness, which I realized, more recently. It is precisely connected with what I just told you in my lines. when happiness is with us, in us, a lot in the life of every person. They must be appreciated, remembered, noticed. Then you will realize that little things deliver the same happiness as great successes. The only difference is the time during which you will feel happy. And now let’s move on to what I call the secret of happiness, which I realized, more recently. It is precisely connected with what I just told you in my lines. when happiness is with us, in us, a lot in the life of every person. They must be appreciated, remembered, noticed. Then you will realize that little things deliver the same happiness as great successes. The only difference is the time during which you will feel happy. And now let’s move on to what I call the secret of happiness, which I realized, more recently. It is precisely connected with what I just told you in my lines.

The secret of happiness

What is our secret like this? In fact, I already opened it a few lines above, saying that we must be able to live those moments of happiness that regularly occur in our lives. Now we will only delve into the understanding of this ability. Look, friends, our brain always works in such a mode that it either picks in the past, in memories, or strives for the future, in dreams and desires. But the present, the very moment in which we are, our brain is very rare, we just do not live happy moments totally enough to appreciate them. That is good for a man from something, but he partially enjoys it if his mind is wholly or completely in the past or the future. It is important to be able to concentrate on the present, throwing away all unnecessary thoughts, so that the joy that is in your life here and now is fully felt by you.

And we always have something to enjoy, always. This, too, must be able to do, accept all the good that life gives you. Then you will always have these moments of happiness that exist here and now. Learn to enjoy what you have. And be thankful for that. So as soon as I learned to do it, to be happy with what I have and to fully focus on the current moment, I felt incredibly happy. This ability must be practiced, firstly, constantly thinking about what you have good in life and enjoying it, and secondly, loading yourself with thoughts about the current moment so that they don’t go anywhere, neither in the past nor in future. Since the brain cannot but work, let it work with what is here and now. As in a song where it is sung that there is a moment between the past and the future, it is he who is called life.

Do not get me wrong, I’m not talking about being content with little, not thinking about anything else and not wanting anything, it’s not about limitations, it’s about accepting what you already have, about the ability to fully enjoy what is available and about the ability to focus on this. You do not need to do this constantly, you do not need constant happiness, sometimes you need to suffer so that there is motivation for action. The main thing is to understand that happiness here, with us, you just need to begin to experience it. Pacify all your passions, do not quench them completely, namely, pacify them, forget about them for a while so that they do not bother you and with a feeling of gratitude in your soul for what you already have, rejoice at it. Just calm down for a while, take a look at your life, how much is good in it, what you can enjoy, I’m sure that is not enough. Focus on that. This is your life it is already happening to you, you live and you have a lot of good things right now, at least life itself, rejoice at it. Thanks to this, you will plunge into a state of peace and tranquility, you will be satisfied that you accepted everything that life has given you or what you yourself have achieved in it, you need to live this.

Another important point is related to the way we see for ourselves the opportunity to become happy. There are two most common concepts of happiness that people hold. According to the first concept, happiness must be sought, and according to the second, build. I add a third – you can simply see and accept happiness, rejoicing in what is. All three concepts have a right to exist. We have to look for something or someone in life, for example, a suitable person for a serious relationship, because whoever fell into this role should not be taken so as not to suffer later. But we need to work with something, for example, all with the same person we found, we connected our fate with him, seeing in him important virtues for us and which, despite this, will never be ideal, no matter how much we would like to. Therefore, we must try to build relationships with him in such a way so that they are comfortable for both partners, somewhere yielding, somewhere negotiating and pushing their interests, this is the construction of happiness. Relationships are work, they will never be so perfect that you can just enjoy them without any problems. This does not happen. Well, according to the third concept, it is imperative to rejoice at what each of us has, forgetting for a while about what is missing and what else needs to be received. The same partner, when everything is fine with him, is sure to give pleasure, and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy. somewhere negotiating and pushing their interests, this is the construction of happiness. Relationships are work, they will never be so perfect that you can just enjoy them without any problems. This does not happen. Well, according to the third concept, it is imperative to rejoice at what each of us has, forgetting for a while about what is missing and what else needs to be received. The same partner, when everything is fine with him, is sure to give pleasure, and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy. somewhere negotiating and pushing their interests, this is the construction of happiness. Relationships are work, they will never be so perfect that you can just enjoy them without any problems. This does not happen. Well, according to the third concept, it is imperative to rejoice at what each of us has, forgetting for a while about what is missing and what else needs to be received. The same partner, when everything is fine with him, is sure to give pleasure, and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy. so you can just enjoy them without having any problems. This does not happen. Well, according to the third concept, it is imperative to rejoice at what each of us has, forgetting for a while about what is missing and what else needs to be received. The same partner, when everything is fine with him, is sure to give pleasure, and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy. so you can just enjoy them without having any problems. This does not happen. Well, according to the third concept, it is imperative to rejoice at what each of us has, forgetting for a while about what is missing and what else needs to be received. The same partner, when everything is fine with him, is sure to give pleasure, and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy. it surely gives pleasure and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy. it surely gives pleasure and you need to enjoy this pleasure, and not think about how to improve, change, educate this partner. Here is this eternal concern about the imperfection of something or someone, well, absolutely not needed. If you plunge into it, you will never be happy.

There are strong biases in favor of each of the concepts, because of which people cannot come to a happy state. The bias in favor of the first concept forces people to constantly seek their happiness, completely not thinking about its construction. This is the easiest way of thinking on this subject, when you just need to find happiness. Because of this, people absolutely do not want to work on problems, whatever they concern, the same work or relationship. If we talk about relationships, people who seek their happiness do not take them seriously enough, in this matter they rely only on their feelings, not analyzing the situation at all, the person they get to know and enter into a relationship with, they don’t think about the prospects of relations with him, they don’t even think about the reasons for their sympathy for him. They’re good and that’s enough to take their feelings seriously, they even talk about love, although what kind of love there can be in an immature relationship, except that it is just the same green and frivolous. And of course, such relationships based only on feelings do not last long. Because feelings are not constant, they change over time, especially under the influence of various factors, for example, the same problems that are inevitable in any relationship. And if a person is not used to working on himself, on relationships, is not used to negotiating with a partner, solving problems with him, then it is easier for him to simply escape from these problems, to another person with whom it will be easy and interesting at first. So you can run all your life and not run to anything. People think that somewhere there is an ideal partner for them that they just need to find. They don’t think about their shortcomings, because of which they may have problems with people, are not going to work on them in order to correct them and increase their own value, they are looking for the easiest way to avoid difficulties when you just run from all the bad to the supposedly good. This is a strong bias towards the search for happiness. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you. they don’t intend to work on them in order to correct them and increase their own value, they are looking for the easiest way to avoid difficulties when you simply run from all the bad to the supposedly good. This is a strong bias towards the search for happiness. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you. they don’t intend to work on them in order to correct them and increase their own value, they are looking for the easiest way to avoid difficulties when you simply run from all the bad to the supposedly good. This is a strong bias towards the search for happiness. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you. they are looking for the easiest way to avoid difficulties when you just run from all the bad to the supposedly good. This is a strong bias towards the search for happiness. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you. they are looking for the easiest way to avoid difficulties when you just run from all the bad to the supposedly good. This is a strong bias towards the search for happiness. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you. Nothing can be found in this way. Happiness needs much more construction than search. Happy is not the person who finds all the best, but the one who takes the best of what is available. And also the one who does the best for himself. Therefore, if it’s not with every person you can become happy, then at least with many people it is possible if you do not just choose the perfect option, but work on relationships and build happiness together with the person who needs you.

If the bias goes towards building happiness, then people can endure simply terrible things, such as poor work, an unsuitable living environment, lack of freedom, an inhuman partner who does not need them at all, and so on and so forth. There can be a lot of bad things in life and if you put up with it, then, of course, it will be difficult to experience happiness. It is not for nothing that part of our life is a struggle, we cannot put up with everything, sometimes we need to fight for a better fate, for love, for happiness. So you can’t sit idly by. In general, the problem here is that a person cannot decide on changes when they are simply necessary. Instead, he [she] tries to establish hopeless affairs, restore dead or tyrannical relationships, seeks positive in complete and absolute negativity. This fight against windmills never leads to anything, it is useless to lead it. You just have to admit that sometimes life needs changes, not everything can be fixed, not everything can be built or maintained. Sometimes you need to burn all the bridges, there is no other way to find happiness.

Well, the bias towards the concept that I propose, when a person is immensely glad that he has and enjoys this, can lead to the fact that he will lose motivation to achieve something more. A person may become too satisfied with his life and will not want more and better, but in life you still cannot stand still, you have to strive for something, this is both interesting and useful. That is why I say that we do not always need to feel happy, happiness is wonderful, but it can relax. It also motivates people to take action; for the sake of preserving their happiness, people are capable of much. But without negativity, without suffering, without pain, life will be inferior. A person, in my opinion, should suffer, not often, not too much, but should. If all the time to rejoice at what is, To be happy about this constantly and not see anything bad in your life, you can stop in development and achieve nothing more. These may be biases in the direction of various concepts of happiness, because of which people do not feel happy.

But usually people are in a state of constant dissatisfaction, they are not happy with something all the time, they are not satisfied with what they have, they cannot enjoy it. Therefore, I believe that this is what needs to be learned. It is unlikely that a person will go to extremes if, with a sense of gratitude for everything that he has, he will experience happiness from enjoying it. That’s why I’m telling you, think more about the joys in your life, about life itself, about a great gift, about your achievements that you have come to be who you are. After all, all this is wonderful, all this is valuable. No need to compare yourself with others, evaluating your life, other people have their own destiny, their own capabilities, and you have your own. Concentrate on yourself, on your life, on everything that fills it, drop all thoughts about problems and concerns, about the peaks that you would like to achieve, but you have not yet reached them, take a break from the negative, forget about it for a while. There will always be something that you do not have, there will always be problems and some kind of suffering, some kind of pain, for this is how life is arranged, it cannot have an ideal stable state, always something is not what we would like. You cannot control life, no one can do this, it is too complicated to be completely under our control. But you are quite capable of controlling your thoughts, your attention, directing it to what makes you feel happy. And since you can do it, then you need to do it. Rejoice at what you can enjoy, immerse yourself in this joy, think only about it, it is much easier than changing the world and people, for the sake of your happiness. there will always be problems and some kind of suffering, some kind of pain, for life is so arranged, there cannot be an ideal stable state in it, always something is not as we would like. You cannot control life, no one can do this, it is too complicated to be completely under our control. But you are completely capable of controlling your thoughts, your attention, directing it to what makes you feel happy. And since you can do it, then you need to do it. Rejoice at what you can enjoy, immerse yourself in this joy, think only about it, it is much easier than changing the world and people for the sake of your happiness. there will always be problems and some kind of suffering, some kind of pain, for life is so arranged, there cannot be an ideal stable state in it, always something is not as we would like. You cannot control life, no one can do this, it is too complicated to be completely under our control. But you are quite capable of controlling your thoughts, your attention, directing it to what makes you feel happy. And since you can do it, then you need to do it. Rejoice at what you can enjoy, immerse yourself in this joy, think only about it, it is much easier than changing the world and people, for the sake of your happiness. to be completely under our control. But you are completely capable of controlling your thoughts, your attention, directing it to what makes you feel happy. And since you can do it, then you need to do it. Rejoice at what you can enjoy, immerse yourself in this joy, think only about it, it is much easier than changing the world and people for the sake of your happiness. to be completely under our control. But you are completely capable of controlling your thoughts, your attention, directing it to what makes you feel happy. And since you can do it, then you need to do it. Rejoice at what you can enjoy, immerse yourself in this joy, think only about it, it is much easier than changing the world and people for the sake of your happiness.

Some people tell me that they have absolutely nothing to rejoice in, that their life is so terrible that there is simply nothing good in it. But I do not believe in it. It can not be. No matter how terrible life is, absolutely everything cannot be bad in it; some joys must be in it in order to warm a person’s soul. Life is not so cruel to people to completely deprive them of their joys. And then, it is valuable in itself. Of course, there are times when life is unbearable, for example, due to serious illnesses, and it is easier to part with such a life than endure it. I understand it. But these are not such frequent cases so that because of them it would be possible to abandon the idea of ​​happiness that I proposed, right?

Thanks to work, I manage to communicate with a huge number of different people. And I can tell you that regardless of the level and quality of life, regardless of material well-being, social status, opportunities, people can feel miserable. They are unhappy exclusively in their own heads; it is not reality that causes them suffering, but their thoughts about it. Even a very difficult life is not a reason to feel miserable. Because the very fact that she, this life exists, already allows a person to change something in it, improve it, influence something. And when there is something or even a lot in it, how can you not love her, how can you not enjoy her in order to feel happy? It is only thoughts that can be so bad that they will cause a person suffering. You can always see problems in everything, negativity, something bad, terrible, which will cause each of us to suffer. But why do this, why suffer, when you can see the good in your life and pay all attention to it, forgetting for a while about the bad past and the future not come? Happiness needs awareness, acceptance, gratitude. Perhaps it could be better, always something can be better, so what, what can, that now all the time I have this thought in myself, to suffer from it, to feel dissatisfaction, resentment, anger, hatred? Understand that with such poisonous thoughts you can live forever. No achievements will save a person from such thoughts, but he himself can do it at any time. in acceptance, in gratitude. Perhaps it could be better, always something can be better, so what, what can, that now all the time I have this thought in myself, to suffer from it, to feel dissatisfaction, resentment, anger, hatred? Understand that with such poisonous thoughts you can live forever. No achievements will save a person from such thoughts, but he himself can do it at any time. in acceptance, in gratitude. Perhaps it could be better, always something can be better, so what, what can, that now all the time I have this thought in myself, to suffer from it, to feel dissatisfaction, resentment, anger, hatred? Understand that with such poisonous thoughts you can live forever. No achievements will save a person from such thoughts, but he himself can do it at any time.

Deserve happiness

Dear readers, think about whether a person should deserve his happiness or should it come to him just like that, because he wants it? Or, if you don’t come, should awareness of happiness itself happen? Think about how right for this world, how people should get something valuable. How would you understand the possibility of gaining happiness, you need to decide for yourself whether it should be deserved. And justify your answer before reading further. So I know a lot of people who treat others so badly, especially those who treat them well and even love them, that I can’t understand why such people should be happy, why such a reward should be given to them in this life. After all, if they themselves make others unhappy, why should they be happy? I believe that no matter how happiness comes to us, and in which each of us would not see him for himself, but here there may be different opinions, a person should deserve it. Well, something really valuable cannot just fall on our heads, even if we really want it.

Let’s take the same egoists about whom I know a lot thanks to my work and who, according to them, really want to become happy. I believe that these are very scary people who are dangerous to love and who are scared to get used to. After all, these are immature people, infantile, who do not care about everyone except themselves. They do not respond to good with good, as a rule, and they do not know how to love, even themselves, although they themselves do not think so. Spitting in the soul of others, stepping over the hearts and souls of people, for the sake of their infinite and often meaningless desires, they themselves lead to suffering. And when they suffer, when they experience pain, they think that they are simply unlucky, although they should. They do not understand why they suffered this or that suffering, although they were led to them by their own reckless desires, in the satisfaction of which they saw their happiness.

Egoists never think about who they themselves made to suffer because of their recklessness, their arrogance, greed and shortsightedness. These are people who spit in the well without thinking about tomorrow. They just want something, and they see no reason to deny themselves this, restrain themselves, limit. They want everything from life, and at the same time they miss and lose a lot. They don’t have an understanding that everything in this life cannot be obtained, sometimes it is necessary to abandon the base and primitive values ​​in order to gain more elevated and important things. But it’s difficult for them to come to such an understanding, because this, I repeat, is not mature people who have not grown to the stars, therefore are content with the ground into which they are buried with their noses. Giving them something bright and pure, the same kindness, love, care, respect, is like throwing beads in front of pigs. They are not able to appreciate it, including to my own regret, for everything is exalted beyond the bounds of their understanding. If it were otherwise, they would not be selfish.

Egoists are a source of pain and suffering. Therefore, they themselves deserve more suffering rather than happiness. For in most cases, it is precisely suffering and pain that can at least teach them something. For example, to value a good attitude towards oneself, and not to see this as an opportunity to use a person. Happiness, the most complete and real, is a high spiritual value that you can’t buy, don’t take away, and even more so you won’t get it just as many selfish people would like it to. He must be earned. Otherwise, it will not be value. After all, valuable things in this life rarely lie on the road in the dust.

Some of my colleagues call egoists monsters and monsters who have neither soul nor heart. I do not share this opinion, at least sometimes you might think so. I think that all the same, such people have a soul and a heart, but they are completely not mature, therefore they do not even understand what true happiness or true love is. These people need to be pulled up to learn to better understand life, to appreciate what is in it and to see happiness in more important and valuable things, and not in indulging your egoism. It is very difficult to do. But you need to try, especially if you live with an egoist. For if you do not do this, you will live like a volcano, because egoists do not reckon with anyone or anything. They can abandon everything and everyone for the sake of some pleasure, including for the sake of the love they invented. They leave the wives and husbands who have done a lot for them, throw children, friends, relatives, just to once again satisfy their desire, at all costs, throwing everything on the altar of pleasures. That is why such people cannot be happy, their happiness is temporary, like the happiness of a child who has begged a toy in a store, he can throw it at home in a corner and forget about it.

To deserve happiness means to grow up to it, if this does not happen, happiness will be simple and temporary, not as serious and comprehensive as that of understanding, adult and responsible people who know the value of many important things in life. Sometimes, you just need to accept happiness when someone gives it to you, and not wipe your feet on it, being forever dissatisfied and unsatisfied. In this sense, it is not difficult to earn happiness if you are wise and know the measure in everything, otherwise it will always elude you. Selfishness helps people get something that makes them happy for a while, but it also forces them to lose a lot, sometimes much more than they gained through it. Therefore, the fate of the egoist is loneliness, and the suffering associated with it. Not all lonely people are egoists, but almost all egoists find themselves alone, which for man is a real hell. They remain with those whom they have always truly loved — with themselves.

Take care of your happiness

And lastly, happiness must be protected! Whatever it is for you, whatever you find it, take care of it with all your strength. In this life, losing and destroying is always easier than finding and building. How many broken hearts, how many wounded souls, how many bitter tears I have seen in my life, working with people, their grief and their problems that arose because people did not value what they had, did not cherish it. Resist the temptation to constantly seek your happiness elsewhere, in the future, everything alien and inaccessible always seems to be better than what you have, but this is in many cases an illusion. Instead, take a closer look at what’s next to you, what you have. This may be enough to make you happy. But the desire to get more can deprive you of everything, because it blinds, making it difficult to see the value in what is.

We are so arranged that we are always drawn somewhere, we think that all the best is somewhere there, in other places, in the future tense, and not with us, not near, not here and now. And therefore, we do not protect what we have. And having lost, weep bitterly. We ourselves wound our hearts, we will execute ourselves when we do not cherish, value, accept, or thank. Do not bring it to this, do not offend your happiness, do not hurt your beloved people, do not throw those who are close to you, who you need, do not betray love, friendship and other bright feelings. This is all your happiness, keep it like the apple of an eye. Anyone can resist the temptations, anyone can cope with fears and insecurity, anyone can overcome the many different difficulties that life sends, so as not to allow them to ruin their happiness.

Protect your happiness from other people’s attacks, as well as caustic destructive words that people so often poison all good and bright. Remember that happy people are always envied, and envy can make people real monsters, ready for anything to destroy someone else’s happiness. Unable to find, build and maintain their happiness, they want to kill someone else’s, without realizing that it will not give them anything, will not fill their life, will not bring joy to it. But they do it, driven by the evil and pain that consumed them. Avoid these people if you cannot help them, do not let them to the most sacred that is in your life, do not listen to them, do not believe them. Happiness is fragile, if you do not protect it from evil, it will break, splitting along the way your heart and the hearts of other people who were happy with you. If you are happy, you will never be left alone. Someone always crawls into the life of happy people, in our happiness, dear readers, evil crawls to spread oneself to the good, bright, pure and great, to destroy all our bliss. You are a strong and great person, if you can resist this, and the reward for this will be the best happiness that will lift your soul to heaven. Well, if you know that you are a weak person, it is better to avoid everything that can lead you astray, avoid temptations and fears, and they will not overcome you. It’s okay, not all of us have been given the strength to cope with evil, both within ourselves and in the outside world. Ask God to give you these powers, and while they are not there, try your best to avoid temptations and fears, this will be your best defense against them. to extend ourselves to the good, the bright, the pure and the great, to destroy all our bliss. You are a strong and great person, if you can resist this, and the reward for this will be the best happiness that will lift your soul to heaven. Well, if you know that you are a weak person, it is better to avoid everything that can lead you astray, avoid temptations and fears, and they will not overcome you. It’s okay, not all of us have been given the strength to cope with evil, both within ourselves and in the outside world. Ask God to give you these powers, and while they are not there, try your best to avoid temptations and fears, this will be your best defense against them. to extend ourselves to the good, the bright, the pure and the great, to destroy all our bliss. You are a strong and great person, if you can resist this, and the reward for this will be the best happiness that will lift your soul to heaven. Well, if you know that you are a weak person, it is better to avoid everything that can lead you astray, avoid temptations and fears, and they will not overcome you. It’s okay, not all of us have been given the strength to cope with evil, both within ourselves and in the outside world. Ask God to give you these powers, and while they are not there, try your best to avoid temptations and fears, this will be your best defense against them. which will lift your soul to heaven. Well, if you know that you are a weak person, it is better to avoid everything that can lead you astray, avoid temptations and fears, and they will not overcome you. It’s okay, not all of us have been given the strength to cope with evil, both within ourselves and in the outside world. Ask God to give you these powers, and while they are not there, try your best to avoid temptations and fears, this will be your best defense against them. which will lift your soul to heaven. Well, if you know that you are a weak person, it is better to avoid everything that can lead you astray, avoid temptations and fears, and they will not overcome you. It’s okay, not all of us have been given the strength to cope with evil, both within ourselves and in the outside world. Ask God to give you these powers, and while they are not there, try your best to avoid temptations and fears, this will be your best defense against them.

And still, friends, please do not forget that even the most terrible and treacherous external enemies of our happiness are not as terrible as our own recklessness, because of which we can lose a lot that makes us happy. The most terrible enemy of our happiness lives within us. It is the hardest to defeat. People often drive the last nail themselves into the coffin of their own happiness, becoming an enemy to themselves. In order to defeat this enemy, you need to keep your irrepressible desires in your hands, not allowing them to overcome their own minds, not allowing them to destroy all that is good in your life and that makes you a happy person. Greed, boredom, resentment, anger, hatred, temptations – these are all he, your internal enemy, these are feelings that overshadow the mind and lead a person into the abyss. They are always inside us and guide us,

To changes that are dangerous for a person, he can be pushed as a too bad life, when one is already unbearable and just needs to change something, and too good, in which he has neither worries nor troubles. In the second case, idleness alone can cause wild boredom, which forces people to seek adventure at their fifth point. These adventures can bury the happiness that a person already has, but which he never learned to enjoy. It turns out that such seemingly important value as free time can become the worst enemy of happiness. Because only a few can competently dispose of them, devoting it to study, physical exercises to maintain health and other useful things. Most people spend this time on entertainment, including harmful ones, chasing more and more unusual sensations and thus creating problems for themselves. These problems indicate that a person is doing something wrong, because God speaks to people in the language of life circumstances, sending them all kinds of suffering when they do wrong to direct them on the true path. But not all people understand this language. But he is very simple: doing what God needs, Life, you get some kind of encouragement, reward, and going against his intentions, you get pain and suffering. If you are attentive to such patterns, you can be a fairly happy person who does not make silly and unnecessary mistakes that rob us of all the good. But he is very simple: doing what God needs, Life, you get some kind of encouragement, reward, and going against his intentions, you get pain and suffering. If you are attentive to such patterns, you can be a fairly happy person who does not make silly and unnecessary mistakes that rob us of all the good. But he is very simple: doing what God needs, Life, you get some kind of encouragement, reward, and going against his intentions, you get pain and suffering. If you are attentive to such patterns, you can be a fairly happy person who does not make silly and unnecessary mistakes that rob us of all the good.

We all have feelings that drive us and there is a mind that should control them, if this control is not there, feelings will quickly destroy us. You can’t live only with feelings, you can’t. We humans, we have a mind, so we must use it to understand our happiness, and not just feel it. Understanding gives a person more, much more than a temporary flash of feelings, no matter how strong it may be. This confirms my own experience and the experience of many people who generously shared with me their understanding and feeling of happiness, for which I am infinitely grateful to them. Before, without knowing much and not having experienced much, I did not understand very well what happiness was and how to achieve it. Now I know that happiness needs not only to be found, but to be seen, accepted and preserved. It’s not somewhere in the outside world, it is with us, in our head. And I really want you, my dear readers, to know about this too. Maybe you do not agree with this, so just think about my vision and understanding of our human happiness. Suddenly, it will give you something good and help you in something.

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