Words-parasites in speech – a real scourge of thousands of people of different ages. They are used by very young representatives of society, as well as older, living people. Let’s talk about how to get rid of parasite words and how they can be replaced.
On the one hand, there seems to be no harm from using parasitic words. But in fact, all these countless sounds between the words (“ee-ee”, “aa”), interjection (“come on”, “this”), adverbs (“real”, “natural”), unions (“That is, yes”) and other parts of speech are quite insidious. And that’s why:
- Words-parasites in the speech cut the ear of the interlocutor;
- Parasitic words are garbage that makes no sense;
- The speech of a person whose vocabulary is poor is usually replete with meaningless phrases;
- The words “type”, “as if,” “this,” pronounced every minute, can betray the speaker’s excitement and uncertainty;
- If, instead of relatively harmless words, a powerful mate sounds from a person’s mouth, speaking with him is frankly unpleasant;
- Sometimes there are so many parasite words that the essence of what is said is lost.
Most often, parasite words go unnoticed by the speaker himself, but not around.
If you do not know if there are such unnecessary phrases and sounds in your speech, ask relatives for help. Let them point out your “problem” words. Or record your conversation with someone on a voice recorder, and then listen. If, in addition to important phrases, the constant “shorter” and “know” sounds, too, it’s worth starting work on cleaning your own speech.
Parasite words and human character
The words parasites and psychology are closely related to each other. Because the constant repetition of the same word reveals some traits of a human character (sometimes not the most attractive).
- So, if the word-parasiteis often used in speech “simply,” they may judge you as an irresponsible person who does not have an opinion.
- The word “by the way”gives you a personality that requires constant attention.
- “You know” (“hear”)are the words of a talkative person who has prepared a long monologue about himself (his colleagues, neighbors, etc.).
- “In short”is a verbal instrument of people who do not have deep knowledge, they talk about everything, but sensibly and thoroughly about nothing.
- “Actually” (“I believe”)are phrases of people who are not used to respecting someone else’s opinion other than their own.
Think about which of the above words are present in your daily speech? Want to be thought of as a talker because of the constant “hear” in each sentence? Words-parasites and psychology, as it turned out, are not so far from each other. Therefore, do not let me judge you by the said interjections.
How to get rid of parasite words in a conversation
Before embarking on the warpath with your own language, find out how often and which words you need to eradicate.
Determine on your own or with the help of your relatives which word should be banned.
1. Take time to read classic literature.
Unfortunately, now more and more people prefer to spend free time in social networks. And there are so many interlocutors who make three mistakes in one word. These countless “I say those” and “types” can migrate into your speech. At least from time to time (for example, on weekends) read the great Russian authors: Pushkin, Chekhov, Turgenev. When reading, pay attention to the construction of sentences, how rich the Russian language is actually without “shorter” and “e”.
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2. Find a passage from a book you have never read.
Read it once or twice, and then try to retell in your own words. It is advisable that someone close to you be present. If you are stewing, sit in front of the mirror and tell yourself what the book said to yourself. Repeat the exercise until a parasite word is left in the retelling.
3. Perhaps the words parasites you utter during excitement.
If you have an important conversation, think over your speech in advance. What do you say first, at the end. What questions will have to be answered. When emotions go wild, take your time to say “well” or “this.” It’s better to be quiet for a while, and then continue the conversation.
4. Take help.
Ask your spouse (friend, colleague) to stop you each time during a conversation as soon as he hears a “bad” word. So it will be easier not to miss unwanted phrases.
5. Bring the elements of the game to the purge of speech.
Arrange with someone close that you will be fined for every spoken word-parasite. Exchange a large bill (for example, 500 rubles) for coins in denominations of 5 or 10 rubles. Give a coin to a friend or relative each time you say “this is the most” or “honestly”. Believe me, this is a good way to get rid of parasitic words. You are unlikely to want to exchange another bill for coins again.
6. After the parasitic word has been uttered, say “woof” or “be-ee”.
Naturally, at home or in a circle of friends, warning others about the pursued goals. You will soon get tired of such speech transformation into a puppy or a lamb. And you will begin to speak clearly, without unnecessary prepositions and adverbs.
7. Determine which of the famous people you enjoy.
Who would you like to take an example from? Suppose you are close to a famous actor, politician, musician. Search the web for an interview with him. Listen to how clearly this person expresses his thoughts. And then imagine if a word in his speech would have sounded “well, that’s what they say.” Try to listen to smart and comprehensively developed people.
8. Do not rely solely on your memory.
Make yourself a small reminder in the form of a note on your desktop or greetings from an alarm clock on your phone regarding parasitic words. A short record of “damn”, “well”, “yeah” will be enough. This will be your reminder, allowing you not to forget about the inadmissibility of cluttering up speech with harmful and meaningless phrases and individual words.
9. Treat work on eliminating unwanted phrases with a bit of humor.
If you are considering how to get rid of parasite words in speech, do not expect to do it in one to two days. Even if you sometimes say in a friendly conversation, for example, “type” or “come on,” this is not so scary. Constant vigilance can lead to the fact that in society you will generally be silent.
Replacing parasite words
Sometimes harmful jargon can be replaced by other words that are more pleasant in meaning and sound. If parasitic words are present in your speech, their possible list and their replacement are presented below. However, it’s better not to replace empty sounds and words with complex sentences and clever speech turns.
Even the most harmless phrase, which is pronounced a hundred times a day, can annoy the interlocutors and prevent you from expressing your thoughts correctly.
Parasite words, list and their replacement:
1. Words borrowed from other languages (“okay”, “hi”, “furstein”, etc.)
can be replaced with the same words, but spoken in your own language – “good”, “hello”, “understand”.
2. “Fashionable” words (“respect”, “sense”, “kapets”, etc.)
it is better to replace with more detailed phrases that reflect your impression of what you saw (heard). For example, instead of the phrase “you got a cool essay, respect to you”, say: “Your essay was interesting to read, you’ve done well.”
3. The phrases and words “e-mine”, “damn it,” “hedgehog cat” are veiled curses.
If something out of the ordinary happened, speak out clearly and clearly. For example, “damn it, how I got tired of everything”, replace it with “how saddens me that I have to spend the weekend at home again due to bad weather”.
4. Sometimes parasitic words are diminutive-affectionate “hare”, “cat,” baby.
If you are addressing a 2-year-old child, it’s not so bad, but it’s better to call an adult by name. At least in society.
5. The words “so,” “type,” “as it were,” “shorter”
it is better not to use it at all, or replace them with other phrases and prepositions (adverbs, conjunctions, nouns, etc.). Instead of “Not, in short, I won’t go to the party, I’m sick,” say, “I will refer to the disease and I won’t go to the party.” The phrase “hear, Marina, I’ll go to Misha tomorrow, it’s like his birthday” is better to correct in “Marina, I’m going to Misha’s birthday tomorrow”.
6. Long “uh” or “mmm” between phrases
better replaced by silence.
How to get rid of parasite words is now clear. Start work on your speech, do not let the person you see in you is a person with a limited vocabulary. Remember, sometimes it’s better to think and then start talking.
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