There are so many times that a family is destroyed, because the husband has an affair. Infidelity is the most fatal problem in married life. By braving yourself to have an affair, you are tantamount to building a ticking time bomb. Which at any time can explode, causing the household to be destroyed. Haven’t you realized that marriage is a commitment in which you have chosen and decided to live this life with a partner. But why ?? Maybe that is the question of every wife who is cheated by husbands.
When we are faced with trials, where our husbands are having an affair, it is very sad indeed, even a million tears that shed will not be able to erase the pain of being betrayed. Suddenly the sky will become dark, and the world will suddenly become lonely, as if we feel alone even in a crowd.
That’s a little picture when we know that our husband’s love has been split in two. In the momentary anger may arise the intention to leave him, because he feels unable to hold back and endure. However, wives need to remember that there are children who still really need our presence. Isn’t it inappropriate for our children to accept and suffer the consequences of the selfishness of their parents.
Anyway why do we have to lose, and let the usurper win. The wives must be able to join forces to maintain the integrity of the family that we have built and for the sake of smiling children who are happy because their father and mother remain with them.
A wise way to deal with a cheating husband
Self-introspection
Before you blame others, it is better if you introspect yourself. Correct yourself and immediately realize what our shortcomings are, so that the husband cheats. Didn’t Zig Ziglar ever say, that it would be more important to treat our partners right, than to get the right partner. So even though we get the right partner, if we treat it wrong, it will end up being the wrong partner.
That’s what you have to understand. Maybe all this time you have underestimated your husband, never understood what he wants, or his opinion that you have never appreciated. Maybe that’s what caused your husband to look for a new person who might be considered to understand him better, and make him feel more comfortable. For that, be a better person, and always apply mutual respect to your partner. Because in essence we as a couple need each other.
Try to stay calm
By staying calm, maybe you will be able to find a way and find the best solution. Because making a fuss won’t be able to change the fact that your husband is cheating on you. In fact, it will only make the problem worse, because they are both controlled by emotions, which ultimately leads to separation. Of course that’s not what you want?
So try to stay calm, and consider this a trial that you have to face. Keep believing God’s promise, that good people will definitely get the best. Believe me this is our way of life, inevitably we have to live it. The most important thing is not us who cheat and not us who hurt other people, that’s enough.
Looking for Real Evidence
When you hear that your husband has a third person, and you do feel that there is a change in attitude in your husband, of course you have to move quickly, you must be able to seek or find a real evidence, which makes your husband unable to evade it anymore. for his mistake.
Never – ever show anger before you have concrete evidence. Don’t let your husband turn to blame you, arguing that you are too possessive. Because usually, the husbands who cheat will be very good at twisting the facts. So make sure there is concrete evidence at hand.
Understand How He Cheats
If a husband cheats by hiding (behind you), you can see the positive side. That your husband still has love for you and is afraid of losing you, that’s why he did it without your knowledge.
Even though you are still sick, at least you still have hope to improve your relationship with your husband. It’s different if the husband cheats openly, doesn’t that mean that your position has been completely replaced in his heart. So understand that.
Firmly Ask What You Want
After you get concrete evidence as written above, then you show it to him. Only then can you ask him directly what he wants. Here you must be able to show a firm attitude to your husband, give him a choice, preferring a family that has been with him or a new figure who only gives him momentary happiness. If necessary, remind him about the children, who still need the love of their parents.
Make a promise not to repeat
what he did. If your husband admits guilt, and shows remorse for what he has done, you should give him a second chance. Tell him to promise that he will not repeat his mistakes. Even though the pain is still clear, it is better for you to forgive it for the sake of the integrity of your household that you have built for a long time.
Those are some wise things you need to do, in dealing with a cheating husband. Hopefully what I write can inspire you, so that you can finish it wisely. Because only in a wise way will problems be resolved properly, even if they are serious.
Emotion and anger will only make you trapped in regret at a later date. By accepting what happened and trying to improve yourself, and get closer to God, you will undoubtedly get the best.
Make yourself special and worthy to be loved, maybe that will facilitate your path to achieve good goals, in accordance with what you expect. Just a reminder, give your husband lots of love and full attention after what happened, so that your husband doesn’t have the opportunity to repeat his actions.
The integrity of the household is the greatest happiness, even greater than the happiness of having abundant wealth. Just think about it if we have a lot of property but don’t have a family, what for? As much – the amount of money will not be able to get rid of loneliness in the heart. So keep your family while you can. Thank you for reading.
