body language is all about what you intend – or not – to communicate based on your ways and mannerisms. It can be, for example, a gesture, an expression or a change in the tone of voice while you speak to someone (or even when you are completely silent).Its importance is even revealed when we understand that body language can have meanings that we would not like.In a business meeting, for example, or even in an interview, body language can end up “denouncing” something that we were not initially interested in.
How to work body language?
Both to make yourself understood and to understand the meaning of the messages that other people transmit, it is important to know how to use body language to your advantage.
Next, we will explain what activities and attitudes you can undertake to incorporate them into your interactions. See what they are!
Use and abuse of eye contact
In general, looking gives you a lot of confidence and shows that you are paying attention to the person in front of you. So, when communicating with someone, avoid spreading your gaze to other places.
Focus, in turn, exclusively on the person in front of you. And, on occasions where more people are gathered, make it a habit to pass your gaze between all participants periodically.
Remember to direct your face towards the person
Just as the look “says a lot”, your face has a significant participation in body language. With this in mind, it is important to keep in mind that you must direct your body towards those who are interacting with you.
This reinforces the attention devoted entirely to the person. Imagine the neglect that can appear if, when talking to someone, that person is looking at the computer or the screen of the cell phone?
So focus your whole body towards the person in front of you. And, even, it is worth emphasizing that your face is largely responsible for your expressions.
Without taking care of the reaction you have, when you hear something that you like or dislike, you are “saying” something that you should not or would like for your interlocutor.
One way to prevent this from happening is to pay extra attention to their expressions.
First of all, practice so that everything you follow is also reflected in your facial expressions. Friendliness is reflected in a kind smile, attention and surprise tend to raise eyebrows etc.
It is important to know how to use this to your advantage, so that it creates more and more transparency in your relationships and interactions.
Also focus on your tone of voice
One of the great attractions of body language is its tone of voice. In personal marketing , for example, it is reflected in the way you impose yourself, in a meeting or meeting, and is one of the great weapons to truly convey your emotions.
When talking, make sure that the tone of voice accompanies the objective that your facial expression and verbal message are trying to convey. A complete alignment so that your communication becomes more and more efficient.
Pay attention to your gestures
Shaky legs or any other repetitive gesture that has nothing to do with the moment of an interaction can mean that you are not interested or even in a hurry to end the conversation.
And if that is not your intention, you may be sabotaging your own goals with this. Try to control your sketches or use them to have, once again, to do with your verbal message.
In nonviolent communication , this balance is essential for you to generate interest in what you want to communicate. Also, it helps people generate more familiarity and identification with you.
Gestures say a lot and, therefore, you need to start reading which ones have to do with your message. Over time, the habit becomes natural and is easily inserted into your interactions.
The tag also counts
Finally, a good tip is to think of something that has little to do with your body language, properly said: the clothes you wear.
In general, it tends to create a first impression of your interlocutor. Say, for example, that you have a job interview, but arrive at the place in your pajamas. It doesn’t tend to create a good message about you, does it?
Of course, this in itself is not the only limiting factor. But it is worth understanding the profile of who you are going to interact with. If the work environment is uncluttered and reflects your own profile, there is no problem. However, there are situations that demand a common etiquette at the time, and it is worthwhile to be in alignment with these requirements to ensure a greater adjustment with your message.
How to assess people’s body language?
In addition to behaving in a standardized way with your verbal communication, body language can be observed in other people. With this, you gain an advantage to know how the interaction is going.
Next time, try to identify some of the signs below:
- in general, legs and arms crossed show resistance to the ideas being presented;
- genuine smiles are denounced by narrowed eyes. When there is no sincerity, they are hardly inflected;
- identify the person’s posture. The upright body reinforces the interest and attention of those who are in conversation with you;
- constantly raised eyebrows can denote surprise, worry or fear. Assess the situation by reading it according to the course of the interaction;
- contracted jaw is a sign of stress. So, pay attention to this factor if the conversation is tense or can show this about the people with whom you are interacting.
Based on these tips, it is possible to better assess your body language, and also that of others. Only that your intention can be (consciously or unconsciously) sabotaged by you, you know.