Whenever you see fear, compare it.
Use a very simple criterion: when you see that fear is present, compare it and you will always be on the way, you will grow, expand, you will come close to the moment when your ego will fall.
Its whole mechanism works because of fear and the absence of the ego is enlightenment; it is not something more that is added.
A simple principle: remember, anything that scares you, totally afraid, is a clear indication of what you need to do.
You just have to do the opposite of what fear suggests, don’t become a follower, fight against it.
The moment you decide to fight your fear, you are on the path to enlightenment. “
It is very rare to come across fearless people: being judged, making mistakes, speaking in public, not being up to par, are just some examples of the most common phobias that often limit us and prevent us from exploring new aspects of life, forcing us to stay in our safe zone .
Fears are sometimes able to paralyze us , literally.
Fear, of course, is not always a negative element, because it allows us to take the necessary precautions when we are in situations of potential risk .
But it certainly becomes a factor to consider carefully when phobias take control of us, drastically limiting our freedom , the infinite possibilities and the riches that life offers us daily.
Here are five simple and practical tips that you can try to keep in mind when you face a fear.
1. Be aware that we are all afraid of something.
The people around us probably don’t have our same fears, but each of us is afraid of something , there is no doubt.
Understanding this can help us understand that we are not isolated in our fears .
We are not alone, and the fact that we are afraid of something does not make us worse people, but only human people , like all those around us.
2. You don’t have to overcome your fear all at once.
The ideal solution is a small step approach .
It is not at all necessary, to overcome your fear , to face it in a drastic and radical way.
It could be counterproductive.
If you are terrified at the thought of public speaking , for example, it is not a good idea to try to improvise a speech in front of an audience of thousands of people.
Better to act gradually , without haste or rash jumps.
3. Consider your fears as an opportunity for growth.
Try to think about what your life would be like without your fears .
Things would be better, certainly.
Then try to look beyond fear , to try to identify and appreciate the benefits you would enjoy if you could overcome some of your phobias.
You could glimpse a world in which it is worth taking some risks to fully appreciate its beauty.
If you cannot objectively identify the benefits you would get if you overcome your phobias, try to think that fear always represents an opportunity to grow from a personal point of view.
By facing the fears and the difficulties you will come out strengthened , more inclined to face new challenges.
4. Change your approach to your fears.
Sometimes we are afraid of what we imagine will happen if we leave our safe zone .
It is all too easy to convince ourselves that we have excellent reasons to be afraid.
As an essay said, “More important than what happens to us is how we talk to ourselves about what happens to us . “
This is so true that we can imagine all the most dire consequences when we think of something that intimidates us.
But we must be aware that what we imagine is not made real by our thinking .
It is extremely natural to be afraid of what we don’t know .
You don’t know what could happen if you really phoned that person who intimidates you, you don’t know how your boss could react if you really told him what you think.
Try to make a list of what could happen if you acted.
What do you really have to lose if you take the risk?
Viewing that list on a sheet of paper might help you understand how irrational some of your fears are .
And don’t forget to include in your list the possibility that things, when you take a risk, may turn out for the best .
5. Failing is not the end of the world at all.
If there is a fear that truly unites most of us, this is the fear of making mistakes , the fear of failing.
There are certainly some situations where a mistake can have extremely serious repercussions , but this is generally not the case.
Usually the consequences of a mistake are not so harmful to us or to others.
Yet the fear of making mistakes still blocks many of us , limiting our actions, depriving us of exciting experiences and opportunities that could enrich our existence.
Trying, even when you are afraid, can instead open up unexpected possibilities .
And if we are wrong, then it will be an experience from which to draw lessons for the future that will show us what is the right way to go.
If you can’t, try, try again .