Self development

Do you, dear friends, know that one of the most exalted needs of a person is self-development? I am sure that you know, or in any case, feel this, and therefore have shown interest in this topic. Yes, this is indeed a very strong need, from birth inherent in all people without exception. It is thanks to self-development that many people make sense in life and achieve simply outstanding results in various fields. And this is not surprising, because self-development is a person’s work on himself, with the goal of making himself better, if not in all, then in any case in many ways. And the better you become, the more you can do in this life to succeed in what is important to you. And in general, to engage in self-development is very interesting. Friends, I want to confess to you that to people, which show interest in such things as self-development, self-improvement, self-knowledge, self-education, self-education, self-discipline and other similar topics, I have deep respect. I am pleased to work with such people and for such people. Because I also want to become better than I am now. I always wanted this, and always worked in this direction. Let’s do it together now. And for this, let’s see how it is possible and how to engage in self-development in order to get not only benefit from this process, but also great pleasure. I always wanted this, and always worked in this direction. Let’s do it together now. And for this, let’s see how it is possible and how to engage in self-development in order to get not only benefit from this process, but also great pleasure. I always wanted this, and always worked in this direction. Let’s do it together now. And for this, let’s see how it is possible and how to engage in self-development in order to get not only benefit from this process, but also great pleasure.

First of all, I want to say that the fact that you are reading this article is already a great achievement for you. The point, of course, is not in the article itself, although I will try to make it very high-quality and useful for you, it is in your interest in this topic. After all, self-development begins from the moment when a person pays attention to himself in order to identify himself in this world, to realize his strengths and weaknesses, to determine what he wants to become. This is a process of self-knowledge, the purpose of which is to find a person himself in this world. And you already did it, you, firstly, found yourself, and secondly, you decided that the one you understand by your “I” needs to be changed, and not just to change, but to improve. This is a good beginning, this is the right beginning – this is the beginning of self-development. Anyone, if he draws attention to himself, sooner or later he may find in himself some, even not so much flaws, we all have enough of them, how many, let’s say, not very well-developed qualities, which he considers to be poorly developed because which compares itself to other people. After all, everything is known in comparison, well, or almost everything. We cannot know how developed we are without comparing ourselves to other people.

But you don’t need to tell yourself that you are worse than other people to want to develop yourself if it doesn’t just motivate you to work on yourself, but rather suppresses and forces you to give up. You just want to become better, inspired by the virtues of other people, without thinking about your own shortcomings. Let them, other people, especially successful people whom you sincerely admire, serve as a good example for you of what a person can become. This instills in you the belief that you can become so, and even better, because you are also a person. And at a certain stage of his development, a person begins to compare himself not with other people, but with himself in the past, using this as a motivation for self-development. So it all starts with the fact that you pay attention to yourself and think about what kind of person you are and what you want to become. You did this by starting to read this article. But you need to move on, you need to realize the meaning of self-development, so as not to do this business, so to speak, blindly.

The meaning of self-development

Let us ask you a question – what is the point of self-development if in the end we all come to the same end, regardless of the level of our development and the results achieved in life? This question, I know, many people ask, talking about their lives. In fact, there can be no such pronounced sense in self-development, as, indeed, in everything else that we do in our life, based on the above position. The end, we all really have one. But if you think about it, then most likely the whole point is that we simply do not know about this meaning. How do we, for example, know why our Universe exists at all, why we appeared in it and how, in the end, our existence will end? All these are such questions that any person can run into when discussing the meaning of anything.

But I believe that self-development in itself can become the meaning of your life for you, in this life. Why not? Why not use this life in order to squeeze out everything you are capable of in it? Indeed, there can be no sense in not doing this. Right? What is the point of not engaging in self-development? What is the point of being lazy, going with the flow, being mediocre, afraid of everything, not dreaming of anything, doing nothing, not striving for anything? You don’t know this meaning either, right? Nevertheless, some people choose one path in their life, and others choose another. And everyone lives his life as he sees fit to live it. So maybe just make this choice – either in favor of self-development, or in favor of not having to deal with it?

Desire to develop

Now let’s think about another, also very interesting question – why do we want to do something, for example, to engage in self-development, but do not want to do something? Where do our desires come from? Self-development is an independent development, where independence is of key importance. But this desire to develop ourselves gradually comes to us gradually. At first, any person learns and develops under the influence of external coercion, that is, with the help of other people who help him, so to speak, to take the right path in life. Unless, of course, they help him in this. It is other people who serve us as an example of how a person can live, showing us either a good or a bad example. After all, a lot in our life depends on this, you must agree, including the desire to develop.

If a person shows interest in the process of constant development, more often thanks to other people, less often contrary to them, and becomes addicted to him, then he will be able to continue to teach and develop himself in the way he needs, and constantly, throughout his life. Therefore, it is so important, it is very important to surround yourself with such people as possible, which can be a good example for you to follow. It is from their influence on you that your attitude to such things as self-development will largely depend. Of course, we all have our own heads on our shoulders, but it depends very much on our environment what thoughts will prevail in it.

Let’s take, for example, such a type of activity as reading, which contributes very well to the development of a person – helps him to acquire new knowledge, develops his thinking, makes him more intelligent. You need to get addicted to reading, you just need to love this thing, and then you will never stop doing it, you will never stop reading. You will always and everywhere try to read something, to take your time, to learn something new. You will develop yourself through reading. So with self-development in general, things are. It is only necessary once to fall in love with this matter, this process, and then you will never stop loving it. Because developing yourself is pleasant and interesting. This process gives much more pleasure than, say, smoking, drinking alcohol, gambling and other, let’s be honest, nonsense, which some people do. So you just need to accustom yourself to self-development, only once make the necessary efforts in order to become addicted to this occupation, if other people have not helped you with this, and then in the future the desire to develop yourself in you will only grow stronger. Even if the usefulness and interest of this lesson is not yet obvious to you, and you still do not feel pleasure from it, it already takes possession of your mind, letting you know that you need to do this, you need to develop yourself. Because other people do it, and they like it. So you may like it. and then in the future the desire to develop yourself in you will only grow stronger. Even if the usefulness and interest of this lesson is not yet obvious to you, and you still don’t feel pleasure from it, it already takes possession of your mind, letting you know that you need to do this, you need to develop yourself. Because other people do it, and they like it. So you may like it. and then in the future the desire to develop yourself in you will only grow stronger. Even if the usefulness and interest of this lesson is not yet obvious to you, and you still don’t feel pleasure from it, it already takes possession of your mind, letting you know that you need to do this, you need to develop yourself. Because other people do it, and they like it. So you may like it.

At the initial stage, it is quite acceptable, and even necessary, for the reason indicated above, for someone to help you fall in love with self-development. Someone who you trust, who you like, who you will listen to, if he starts to advise you something, should become a guide for you in a truly amazing world of people who with great pleasure are engaged in self-development and self-improvement and receive from this Activities are a fabulous delight. After all, what is self-development, from the point of view of human activity, is the acquisition of new knowledge, skills and abilities, this is the physical development of the body, this is the development of thinking, this is the ability to manage your inner world and everything else that is associated with improving a person, or all that is in man, it will be more correct. Absolutely obvious, that for such work on oneself, a person may need a mentor, teacher, adviser who will help him take the first steps in this difficult task. Indeed, to engage in self-development means to use all the means you have to improve yourself, including other people.

Motivation for self-development.

Let us now look at what motivation for self-development in our life can be, if we proceed from the influence that external factors have on us. The most, I think, the most important thing in self-development, from the point of view of motivation, is emotions. It is they who, as a rule, inspire us to this very self-development. Emotions release our energy, making us, at a minimum, want something very much or not want, depending on what kind of emotions it is, and as a maximum, to do something. And anything can cause them, at least, as mentioned above, other people, at least circumstances, at least our own thoughts. And while it doesn’t matter, in fact, what kind of emotions force us to engage in ourselves, the main thing is that we, under their influence, really do something. Pay attention to what turns you on, which forces you to move, to learn something, to strive for something. All this can be a good motivation for self-development for you. So study yourself. Something must worry you, something very good or very bad. Or both. You can either want to get something, achieve something, come to something, or get rid of something – from work, from unpleasant people, from hard life, from your own shortcomings that poison your lives, well etc. Sometimes, when a person has no desires at all, when he cannot even set a goal for himself, because he doesn’t know what he wants, he won’t be hindered by a little worsening his life, in order, firstly, to stir up himself, but secondly, to realize the values ​​that he already has and does not want to lose, and to preserve which he needs to meet certain requirements. In other words, Look for an opportunity to arouse strong emotions in yourself, so that they motivate you to self-development. In general, life often throws us such problems that you can’t relax with what’s called, therefore, it seems to me that many people have a motivation to become stronger, in the broad sense of the word.

We are constantly controlled by either negative emotions or positive emotions, the only question is how we react to them. Some people suppress negative emotions, so they do nothing, no matter how bad or uncomfortable they feel. And others, even very strong positive emotions, cannot be forced to do something, because either it is difficult for them to cope with their laziness, or they simply do not believe in their own strengths, in that they can achieve something. And there are simply people who are indifferent to everything, who do not care how they live. All these character traits have their own reasons – both depression and laziness, and indifference to everything. So, any of these problems can be dealt with. This is the psychologist’s task – to help you understand yourself. The main thing is that you are “alive,” that is, show a great interest in life and be active. If you feel very bad, you should want to make you feel better. And do not justify your suffering by the fact that other people can be even worse than you. And if you feel good – you should want to make you feel better, you should strive for something that will give you great pleasure. You need to train yourself to strive for victories in order to develop yourself with passion, with a sparkle in your eyes, with interest. It draws people in – the buzz from success, from achievements, from victories – this is a very powerful drug. And most importantly – this is a useful drug that does not kill, but improves a person. You need to train yourself to strive for victories in order to develop yourself with passion, with a sparkle in your eyes, with interest. It draws people in – the buzz from success, from achievements, from victories – this is a very powerful drug. And most importantly – this is a useful drug that does not kill, but improves a person. You need to train yourself to strive for victories in order to develop yourself with passion, with a sparkle in your eyes, with interest. It draws people in – the buzz from success, from achievements, from victories – this is a very powerful drug. And most importantly – this is a useful drug that does not kill, but improves a person.

At the same time, I want to emphasize once again that it is important to be able to use any emotions to motivate self-development. Someone moves better when he is in pain, someone when he really wants something, that is, for someone a good motivator is a whip, and for someone, a carrot. I recommend that you do not spend too much time studying all of your psychological characteristics – pour in the tank exactly the fuel that allows you to work well and fly with all your strength up. That is, motivate yourself by being closer to you. If bad emotions force you to do something with yourself and for yourself – let it be bad emotions, do not worry – motivate yourself with fear, resentment, anger, aggression, as you prefer. If it is greed, vanity, curiosity, then use them to motivate. Or maybe you just want to leave something behind you in this world, something that will allow you to receive great satisfaction from your life, as from a life in which there is a meaning. The main thing that you see is for the sake of what or because of what you will develop yourself, will do yourself better, will learn new things, acquire new skills and abilities, get rid of your shortcomings and weaknesses. The main thing is that you do not care how your life develops.

The benefits of self-development

In order to engage in self-development correctly and maintain sufficient interest in this process, you need to notice the benefit that you get from it. Therefore, in self-development, it is very important to fix the results achieved when you notice real qualitative changes in yourself and certain successes in your life. Since we are so arranged that it is difficult for us to do something without seeing positive results from our activities for a long time, it is extremely important to notice even the slightest changes for the better in ourselves and enjoy them. Then you will not stop and do not stop to engage in self-development. Interest should be constantly heated, a person should see the meaning and benefit in what he does. How to record the results? This is not a simple matter, I’ll say right away. It all depends on what goals you pursue when you develop yourself. Sometimes a person wants, well, there, say, to get rich in a year, but after a year of active work on himself, he may not have visible success in this area. No matter how many books he reads, whatever he learns in a year, whatever skills he develops in himself, his financial situation may remain the same, or it may improve, but not significantly. Why? Yes, for many reasons. Because to achieve this goal it may take more time, because the rest of the world also does not stand still and no planning in it is guaranteed to bring a person to the desired result, because, in the end, he can do something wrong, he may be mistaken and therefore not have the result he needs. And in general, not everything and not always in this life turns out to be done the first time. Therefore, success comes to people not immediately and not to everyone, but mostly only to those who are persistent enough to be worthy of him. So if something doesn’t work out for you, then this is not a reason to give up everything and stop striving for your goal, stop developing yourself. It’s just that the results that you can achieve in a certain time may be more modest than you expected, but they will be necessary.

I advise you to keep a diary and regularly write down in it all the changes that you observe in yourself and your life – this will help you see the many positive changes in your life that will occur due to self-development. If you are learning something, learning something, training something in yourself, then any changes in this direction need to be recorded or fixed in some other way. Suppose you want to lose weight and go on a diet for this – start writing down in your diary how many kilograms you have lost in a week, a month, two months, half a year, a year. Also try to describe your emotional state in as much detail as possible in order to notice progress in this direction. Let all your work on yourself be before your eyes. In other words – record, take pictures, record all changes on video, that happen in your life thanks to your work on yourself. Usually we do not change very quickly, therefore, we do not always notice these changes and it seems to us that we do not get any benefit from self-development. For example, if you start actively reading smart books and articles, then you will not immediately notice changes in yourself. It will seem to you that you are still the same person as you were before, while in reality you will become more smart, more knowledgeable in some important issues, more flexible in your behavior, more effective in solving various problems and tasks, you will become make fewer mistakes and you will often make the right decisions and so on. All this is very difficult to notice, but it is possible and most importantly necessary, very necessary. After all, the trouble of many people is that they want everything at once, without even realizing that they’ll get everything, whatever they want, they will quickly lose all interest in life. Therefore, some people are so difficult to notice their progress. They notice only very strong changes, and such occur very rarely. So keep a diary and write down everything that happens to you in order to see the results that you have achieved thanks to self-development.

But the question is: does it follow from the above that self-development must always have a clear and precise goal? No friends, it should not. There may not be a clear goal, for the simple reason that a person may not know about all goals, developing certain qualities in himself, gaining this or that knowledge. But at the same time, he may be close to them, engaged in self-development. There are many examples in history of how some activity, which initially seemed senseless, made a person who was engaged in it, if not great, then at least somewhat successful. It may also be in your life. You can learn something without fully understanding why you are doing this. And then your knowledge can be very useful to you. Well, let’s say you are studying a foreign language, without an explicit purpose to go somewhere, where you can communicate with other people on it. But at one point, you can see an ad in the newspaper saying that a very large company needs a well-paid job, a specialist who, in addition to a good knowledge of his profession, also speaks the language you studied. And at this moment your knowledge may be very useful for you. That is, I want to say that it does not always make sense to get any knowledge to achieve a specific goal, and you can do the opposite – adjust your knowledge to some interesting goal that you recently learned about. Therefore, the main thing all the same, I believe that you have an interest in self-development, that you devote enough time to it, and to benefit from what you have learned, mastered, developed in yourself — you can always find an opportunity. that a very large company needs a well-paid job, a specialist who, in addition to a good knowledge of his profession, also speaks the language you studied. And at this moment your knowledge may be very useful for you. That is, I want to say that it does not always make sense to get any knowledge to achieve a specific goal, and you can do the opposite – adjust your knowledge to some interesting goal that you recently learned about. Therefore, the main thing all the same, I believe that you have an interest in self-development, that you devote enough time to it, and to benefit from what you have learned, mastered, developed in yourself — you can always find an opportunity. that a very large company needs a well-paid job, a specialist who, in addition to a good knowledge of his profession, also speaks the language you studied. And at this moment your knowledge may be very useful for you. That is, I want to say that it does not always make sense to get any knowledge to achieve a specific goal, and you can do the opposite – adjust your knowledge to some interesting goal that you recently learned about. Therefore, the main thing all the same, I believe that you have an interest in self-development, that you devote enough time to it, and to benefit from what you have learned, mastered, developed in yourself — you can always find an opportunity. which you studied. And at this moment your knowledge may be very useful for you. That is, I want to say that it does not always make sense to get any knowledge to achieve a specific goal, and you can do the opposite – adjust your knowledge to some interesting goal that you recently learned about. Therefore, the main thing all the same, I believe that you have an interest in self-development, that you devote enough time to it, and to benefit from what you have learned, mastered, developed in yourself — you can always find an opportunity. which you studied. And at this moment your knowledge may be very useful for you. That is, I want to say that it does not always make sense to get any knowledge to achieve a specific goal, and you can do the opposite – adjust your knowledge to some interesting goal that you recently learned about. Therefore, the main thing all the same, I believe that you have an interest in self-development, that you devote enough time to it, and to benefit from what you have learned, mastered, developed in yourself — you can always find an opportunity.

Of course, you need to deal with planning and setting goals, life should not develop chaotically, otherwise you may get confused in it. But understand one very important thing – when planning and setting goals, you go along the path already trodden by someone, because you strive for what you already know and using those methods that have already been developed by someone. This is good, but it may not be enough for a person who is not interested in everything known. Some people need a different meaning, a different motivation, in order to develop themselves, and in order to find this meaning, they need to engage in self-development for the sake of self-development, without any plan and specific goals. You can combine self-development for the sake of the goal with self-development for the sake of interest, when a person learns about everything he wants to know about and what he needs to know about, thereby maintaining an interest in working on oneself. In other words, figuratively speaking, it is necessary to maintain a bonfire of passion for self-development by any means. Because even though I wrote at the very beginning of the article that having fallen in love with this business, you will never stop doing it, but you can still lose the taste for an active life if you initially worked diligently on yourself not by your own will, but due to necessity, or in other words, due to the impact of other people on you.

Self-development results

What can be your results in self-development? In fact, the most diverse, from prominent, to barely noticeable. But at the same time, believe me, they are always there. And these results will definitely make your life better. I know many people who are engaged in self-development and adhere to different strategies in this difficult, but extremely useful business. They pursue different goals with varying degrees of success. And I can say for sure – they all receive a certain reward for their efforts. Someone just starts to think better, more efficiently, more practically, someone learns a new skill and, having found it, changes his work to a more interesting and profitable one, someone in his business becomes a very good specialist and people start to appreciate him highly, and someone it becomes healthier and more cheerful while working on your body. We always have a place to grow. There is something to strive for. There is something to achieve success.

I believe that one of the important goals of self-development should be the desire of a person to make his inner picture of the world as relevant to reality as possible. After all, the better we understand the world around us – its structure, functions, laws, the more opportunities we will have to make it more perfect. For example, an engineer, understanding the laws of nature, can use them to create various devices that will make people’s lives better, easier, more interesting, more fun, more comfortable. A specialist who is well versed in the psychology of people can help them become happier and more cheerful, he can teach them to love themselves and life, so that they receive satisfaction from it. And other specialists create drugs that save many people. Well and so on. In other words, knowing this world, thanks to development and self-development, we get the opportunity to change it. And even if we do not always change it for the better, we still have no doubt that this needs to be done. So the more developed a person is, the more master of his life and even of this whole world he feels.

So, friends, self-development is really great. Engaged in it, you will not live your life in vain. Therefore, do not waste time in vain – develop, learn, acquire new skills, set ambitious goals and look for ways to achieve them, the whole world at your feet – live in it as a person, that is, be active. I do not urge you to do something specific, psychology, for example, to study or something else, I can only offer you this. And you yourself decide what you want to succeed in, what you want to learn to do, what you want to know, understand, realize. Self-development is therefore self-development because a person decides how and in what direction he develops. The main thing is to improve yourself, guided by the principles I have described, and everything in your life will be fine. I suggest you friends develop together – I will write interesting articles for you on topics that are useful from my point of view, and you will read them. And in this way we will learn this world, mainly, of course, from the perspective of psychology, yet I understand it more, but we will certainly touch on other topics. What do you say, do you agree?