Some couples are found after the age of 50. They like each other and decide to open a chapter of life as a couple at a mature age. But disappointments or disillusions behind them can count as much as some intimate ailments.
Mature love can be as beautiful and fulfilling as it is unexpected. If love comes after 50, it can have the power to erase emotional disappointments , failed marriages, stormy divorces, or even loosen the grip of grief . When two people are after the age of 50, in fact, they are able to feel a more conscious feeling and, at the same time, they are very clear who they are and what they want.
If mutual esteem, affinity and complicity are fundamental ingredients for building any lasting couple relationship, in adulthood there are, however, other aspects to consider: habits that are difficult to abandon (such as life in your own home, alone) , expectations different from those of a young couple, and certainly a different intimacy in an age of physiological transformations, in which some disturbance can become a small obstacle.
This does not mean that mature age we should give up the satisfaction between the sheets only because the menopause may change the intimacy .
But this must not and cannot be an obstacle: even in menopause it is essential to preserve your sexuality. And if there is any discomfort, all you have to do is go to the gynecologist .
Love after 50: the positives
It is true that you need a good dose of courage to get back into the game when you already have a life behind you , perhaps even with children. But love after 50 has so many positive sides that it can be compared, not without fear of exaggerating, to an elixir of youth and beauty . For this reason, no embarrassment or shame in finding yourself in love like little girls: it’s time to get involved .
The “springboard” may be the fact that entering a mature age today can represent the beginning of a second life in which to invest energy and resources without reserve.
Being 50 can have a lot of positives , and that’s no small thing:
- You have gained self-confidence
- You feel freer to say what you think
- You have gained the ability to free yourself from the judgment of others
Love after 50: do not give up intimacy
Any emotional relationship has an emotional, psychological and intimate involvement . In the case of a “mature” love, however, the intimate implications risk weighing on the couple’s relationship if not everything goes according to expectations because of .
Some embarrassment can be normal , especially in the beginning, but the changing body, the skin no longer smooth and a few extra rolls must not take over . Even more so if those intimate disorders that in menopause can be the direct consequence of physiological hormonal changes or of one of the most unknown but frequent pathological conditions of women in menopause: Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy , which affects 50 about% of women at the end of their fertile age .
This is not how it should be: in menopause, intimacy must be preserved . Don’t give it up: you owe it to yourself. Sexual health, in fact, is fundamental for psychophysical well-being and sex in menopause can be better than a medicine .
Physical love after 50 can be very important for the health of the body and mind. You can read these in-depth articles to understand why:
- love helps keep you young
- Sex in menopause: more intense and engaging ?
- Live mature love without taboos
Intimate Disorders in Menopause: How Much Matter in Mature Love
Menopause, a phase in which the body changes and consequently also the female genital system changes , may not be particularly “friendly” to a peaceful and fulfilling intimate life. This can happen for several reasons, often related to each other.
- Intimate discomfort : itching, burning, irritation , can be a consequence of the lack of natural lubrication due to the lowering of the estrogen level . A condition that can also expose you to the risk of infections .
- Vaginal dryness : due to the reduced natural lubrication due to hormonal deficiency, the vaginal environment changes and the walls become thinner and drier , and consequently even more
- Pain during intercourse (dyspareunia) : pain during or immediately after intercourse in menopause can be linked to vaginal dryness which, as mentioned above, alters the elasticity of the tissues. Less elastic, due to mechanical rubbing during intercourse, they can become irritated to the point of undergoing microtrauma and small lacerations. This condition can be one of the causes of frequent losses .
- : even if at the beginning of a new relationship this topic is usually less interesting , it may be natural that in menopause the biological drive towards sexuality is less. However, a novelty, such as a new love story, may have the ability to regenerate drives and desire, confirming how the psychological component plays an important role in this field. In long-term couples, however, the decline in desire can come from various factors. The most frequent are linked to the progressive takeover of a whole series of situations and habits that are not favorable to the health of the couple: children to manage, very demanding work, weakening of feelings, worries and stresses
due to external causes. In these cases, the opinion of a sexologist can be very important to regain the passionate drive.
Other times, however, the decrease in desire could be due to the consequences of the discomforts that menopause can bring to a woman’s intimate life: dyspareunia (pain in intercourse), vaginal dryness and fragility of the vulvar walls can become a real impediment to the intimate relationship. A visit to a gynecologist specialized in menopause problems can clarify whether it is a problem contingent on the period (and therefore temporary) or if they are the symptoms of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy, so it is always advisable to have them managed at their first onset by your trusted gynecologist .
Vulvo-vaginal atrophy : it is very common in menopause, 1 in 2 women suffer from it, yet little is said about it. It is a real pathological condition, chronic and progressive, whose symptoms can have a strong impact on the quality of life (and consequently on the couple). Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy manifests itself with some of the ailments listed above: intimate itching, vaginal dryness, dyspareunia and discharge.
Love after 50 can be even better!
The solution to some difficulties that could discourage you from living a new love peacefully or demotivating you in the approach, is at hand: book a visit to an experienced gynecologist in menopause now , especially if you haven’t been examined for a while. Being followed by a specialist is essential to protect your health and to exclude that the disorders related to menopause are the indicator-symptoms of pathological conditions such as Vulvo-Vaginal Atrophy.
There is a lot that can be done to fully experience your new relationship, but it’s up to you to take the first step. Contact the specialist and speak to him in a sincere and direct way, without shame: only in this way will you help him identify the correct treatment for you, to help you keep the disorders and discomfort associated with hormonal changes under control.