Do you want to know what to do and what not to do to seduce a man ?
Read on to discover the 3 dos and 3 don’ts to attract the man you want in your life.
“ Real men go crazy for girls who can say no. Stupid men settle for easy ones .”
Marilyn Monroe.
Seduction is an important topic in personal growth , just as relationships are one of the foundations of our lives.
I have already hosted guest posts by seduction experts in the past , but to be honest I have been a little… unfair! Unfair towards that category that represents more than 50% of the blog’s readers: female readers .
So I decided to make amends for this grave wrong by asking Ilaria Cardani , author of LaPersonaGiusta.com , to write an article on female seduction for EfficaceMente. Ilaria accepted and you can read the result below 😉
What You Need to Know About Female Seduction
There is a natural attitude of men that most women do not know or prefer to ignore: if a man is not attracted to a woman, it is useless for her to try and make an effort with tricks and strategies to conquer him and convince him to love her and bind himself to her.
Some tricks and strategies not only don’t work, they make things worse .
But what does this mean? So you mean to tell me that it is not possible to conquer a man ?
On the contrary . It means that, if you want to conquer him, it is useful for you to know how to communicate and how to set up the relationship with him, avoiding putting into play those instinctive strategies that all women use and that are not only not useful, but are very harmful .
I would like to give you some advice to avoid getting into some of the most classic painful and frustrating sentimental situations for the female gender in the near future.
Because – and this is an important warning – almost all women adopt attitudes that put them in these situations, but they don’t even realize it, they are not aware of it!
How to conquer a man
Women, in general, develop some specific repetitive strategies that they think will serve to capture the interest and attention of a man and instead are destructive. These are weak strategies . I will tell you about 3 of the most important ones.
The 3 things not to do to seduce a man
1) The “corruption”
The first of the weak strategies is “ corruption ”. That is, pleasing in every way the desired man in the hope of making him capitulate.
What happens in this case?
It happens that the woman does everything she can to be nice , kind , present and always “on the ball” for the man she desires. She gives him little gifts, makes herself desperately useful by doing him all kinds of favors and trying to help him solve his problems without asking his opinion or permission (terrible!).
In short, she does everything to show him how much she thinks and cares about him .
And how indispensable it could be to his life.
Well: if there is a man you like and he doesn’t reciprocate, keep in mind that if you please him in every way , not only will he NOT feel more attracted, but he will distance himself, even to the point of not being able to stand you .
Because when you start caring about him and talking to him about what you feel, you create a negative tension .
He will feel an unbearable sensation of “pain in the ass” and heaviness and you will lose him forever.
There must be tension between a man and a woman (and why not!), but there must be a positive tension , on the level of desire and sexual desire, and the weak strategy of “corruption” goes exactly in the opposite direction.
2) The “conversion”
The second weak strategy is “ conversion ”, that is, trying to seduce him with persuasion , leading him to convert (literally) to the religion of which you are the goddess or, at least, the priestess.
By the way: trying to convert your men is the favorite – deadly – sport of women all over the planet! Stop it and tell your friends to stop it !
When do you enter the “conversion” attitude?
You get into it when you start telling a man you like (and with whom you are not in a relationship) everything you feel for him and how much you would like to hang out with him , be close to him , do something together (terrifying!).
And you do it in the (very false) hope that sooner or later he will “ enlighten ”, convert and fall at your feet proclaiming to the four corners of the world all his immense love for you…
The problem is that many women are convinced that this is a necessary and indispensable step to conquer a man .
The truth is that this step certainly leads you to the hardest of rejections .
Men know how to recognize when they feel attracted to a woman and, for them, attraction generally has nothing to do with yearning, suffering and “suffered” sentimentality. For them it is above all a positive and exciting vibration (Andrea: I confirm! ;-)).
If you are “heavy” with your words and your clingy attitude, you create a negative tension, which men hate and run away from.
3) The “concession”
The third of the weak strategies (the weakest of the three) is: giving yourself sexually , that is, using the lever of sex for the sole purpose of making him fall in love with you.
It is an incredibly useless tool, unless you want to create a mountain of false illusions and great suffering for yourself.
And do you know why? Because the more you have sex with a man you like, the more you bond with him with deep feelings.
And you think it’s the same for him, right? No dear, that’s very wrong. It’s exactly the opposite .
Because you are confusing “chemistry” with feelings. Men can sleep with a woman and be intimate with her without feeling tied to her in any way (you’ve heard that one before, right?).
There is nothing wrong with this, either in and of itself or on their part.
It’s their way of experiencing the relationship and sex with a woman.
It’s up to you to keep this in mind and know how to behave and it’s always up to you to know that for him it’s just about sex and that neither with time nor with consistency will he bond with you if he doesn’t feel genuine attraction.
Not only that: if you ask him for a greater emotional and/or formal commitment, expect your “beloved lover” to run away as fast as he can .
Now: Do you know why none of these three strategies work ?
Because these strategies come from a very specific position of yours, which is a position of fear and weakness .
They communicate that you feel fragile and needy when it comes to everything that concerns men and relationships with them. Even if you may not perceive it.
And men perceive the state of fragility and fear strongly, even if only instinctively perhaps, and they just can’t stand it.
But there are other strategies, which are typical of women who have self-esteem and who know how to seduce naturally .
These are strategies that convey to the man a confident and strong approach to life and that make him “feel” that he is dealing with a tough and determined woman .
Able to build the life he wants. These are strong strategies. I will also present three of these to you.
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The 3 things to do to seduce a man
1) Take your distance
The first of the three strong strategies is: stay away and/or distance yourself from a man who is hesitant towards you, whose interest in you is fluctuating or ambiguous.
He can’t figure out or tell you how he feels about you? He’s a little interested, but that’s not enough to move him? Great!
Detach yourself, distance yourself , take care of something else (but for real, not pretending). Don’t worry, this attitude of yours will immediately clarify your ideas: either to him or to you or to both. And it will provide you with useful indications of behavior.
2) Date more men
The second of the strong strategies is: meet as many men as possible and date several men at the same time .
You’re free, right? So why would you want to get stuck on just one person who, moreover, isn’t dying for you?
Dating multiple men at once allows you to make comparisons, broaden your horizons, and keep your self-esteem high. With all that that entails.
3) Observe the men
The third of the strong strategies is: observe men , learn to understand them and learn to communicate with the one you like by intercepting his emotions.
Take control of your emotions, do not offer attention, affection and sex out of place and out of time, but take a male point of view (with love and without criticism) to tune in to the man you are interested in and to arouse in him that positive and exciting vibration we talked about before.
I thank Andrea for the kind hospitality on his beautiful blog, which I read regularly and appreciate for its personal, balanced and very practical approach.
Warm greetings to all who read (including men, of course!).
Cordially,
Ilaria Cardani
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