How to Heal a Broken Heart (Step by Step)

In this article, you will discover the causes, symptoms, and I will also show you how to heal a broken heart step by step and move on in your life.

This article will also help you improve the quality of your relationships, but also take your life to a new level. At the same time, your health will improve and you will simply be happier, so don’t forget to read to the end.


A broken heart is an unpleasant, painful emotional experience associated with an emotional reaction to a sudden, unexpected, or unwanted loss of a partner, love, or loved one. It is often characterized as intense hurt, or longing for a former and unsatisfied love, accompanied by emotional distress and sometimes anxiety, or other conditions including depression.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be just a breakup in a relationship. A broken heart can also cause the death of a partner, parent, child, or other close person. Despite the fact that many people associate a broken heart with the end of a romantic relationship or the death of a close person, in my practice I have also encountered cases where, for example, the loss of a job led to the same or similar reactions as with a broken heart and the feeling that the world ( life) will never be the same.

A broken heart can cause great inner emotional pain. For people, it often feels like their whole life is over. In fact, in many cases, because the pain is so great and the road to healing seems so difficult, people avoid healing a broken heart. This avoidance can lead to many unwanted side effects such as greater inner conflict, complicated emotional reactions, closing the heart and inability to love and other complications and difficulties in future relationships, or even the development of health complications.


This complex and demanding emotional state – trauma can be caused by many different life circumstances. Let’s take a look at the most common causes of heartbreak:


  • Death or loss of a loved one
  • Gauge
  • Divorce
  • Domestic violence
  • Infidelity
  • Strong argumentsand a toxic relationship
  • Job loss or financial difficulties
  • Jealousy


First of all, we have to realize that every person is different and therefore the symptoms of a broken heart will be different for every person. Even one person can experience a broken heart several times in their life and always the symptoms can differ from situation to situation.

There are many different symptoms of a broken heart such as depression , anxiety , tremors, or physical symptoms such as nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, headaches, low energy, low appetite, insomnia, increased appetite, and more.

Let’s take a look at the most common symptoms of a broken heart:

  • Difficulty sleeping and insomnia –A difficult emotional situation such as a breakup, the loss of a loved one, or the death of a loved one can have a very negative effect on the quality of our sleep. In some cases, there will be insomnia, or a deterioration in the quality of sleep due to not achieving REM sleep. This leads to excessive fatigue and loss of energy, but also emotional irritability and sometimes to health problems.
  • Eating disorders –This can be, for example, an increased appetite and excessive emotional eating or overeating, or conversely a decreased appetite and this can lead to drastic weight loss. In both cases, we can even permanently harm ourselves and cause health problems.
  • Proneness to addictive substances and addictions –It is a kind of compensation for the very loss of love, partner, someone close and it is the easiest way to deal with emotions and the loss itself. Personally, I believe that healing conflicts or broken hearts with addictive substances such as alcohol, drugs and others can be very dangerous because they prevent us from getting to the root of our problems and pain. This prevents us from healing the whole situation, and in addition, we damage our health with addictive substances and create addiction.
  • Losing or Gaining Weight –When I went through a rough breakup a few years ago, I lost 10-15kg a month. I absolutely stopped eating and we had no appetite. We practically didn’t eat at all for the first week or two. Food is certainly a pleasure for many people. And often people compensate for their internal pain by eating, but adding another layer of fat to your body does nothing to protect you from the pain.
  • Psychological problems such as depression or anxiety –Sometimes a breakup or the death of a loved one is not only connected with the loss of a significant person or the love of our life, but also with the loss of the meaning of life. In that case, we feel as if we no longer have anything or anyone to live for and we have no desire to continue in life. In such a case, depression often arises, which is associated with the loss of the meaning of life, but you can read about this in our article on depression. Some people suffer from anxiety and other psychological disorders.
  • Chest Pains –Sometimes it can go so far that we can feel pain in the chest area. This is especially the case with very emotionally sensitive individuals. Any long-lasting or persistent chest pain could be a sign of a heart attack, so it’s important to take it seriously and see a doctor if you have chest pain.


Maybe you’re heartbroken and wondering how to get your ex back . Maybe you’re thinking about how to get him to come back. In that case, I recommend watching our video below, where you will understand the basic principles of separation. Not only will you understand the breakup, but you will also find guidance on how to deal with it and move on in life.

This video will help you improve the quality of your relationships and also help you overcome the pain caused by a breakup. Also, this video will help you heal your broken heart and you will realize that you will not even want your ex-partner anymore, because I will reveal one important and big secret to you. More in the video below.


Broken heart syndrome is a real condition caused by extreme psychological or emotional pain. Intense emotional stress triggers the release of high levels of adrenaline, catecholamines, and other chemicals associated with grief and other trauma.

If intense grief is prolonged, levels of these chemicals can increase and become toxic, causing heart failure. Specifically, the left ventricle swells, reducing the heart’s efficiency in pumping blood. Slowing of blood flow can cause blood clots. Blood clots cause heart failure or stroke. The symptoms of broken heart syndrome can mimic those of a typical myocardial infarction. Symptoms include fatigue, chest pain, and shortness of breath. Broken heart syndrome can worsen underlying health conditions, especially in people who already have heart problems. The added stress can increase the likelihood of a fatal outcome (heart failure).

It is not uncommon for couples who have been married for decades to die within hours or days of each other. Researchers have found that women are far more prone to broken heart syndrome than men. People are more susceptible to broken heart syndrome if the death of a loved one is sudden and unexpected. On the contrary, a long-term illness reduces the probability of developing a broken heart syndrome, because surviving spouses have time to mentally prepare for the death of a loved one and the associated grief that will follow the death of this loved one. Another important factor is that surviving spouses have time to say goodbye to their lifelong companions.

There are also studies that show that a dog can suffer from depression or even die of a broken heart.


Today, even scientific studies show that the broken heart syndrome is real and should not be underestimated, because it can cause, for example, heart failure and other health complications, including death. Therefore, if you have had a difficult emotional situation, or you are under excessive stress, or you have lost a loved one, you have broken up, you have experienced infidelity, do not hesitate to use our online course, the path of self-love, where you will find step-by-step instructions and tools to by simply working and healing your past, processing your emotions, getting stress under control and much more.


You may be wondering if there is a cure for a broken heart? No, it doesn’t really exist. There is no universal way to heal a broken heart. But there are things you can do to heal your heart and find emotional well-being.

I will share with you a step-by-step guide that will help you cope with difficult emotional situations such as a breakup, loss or death of a loved one, etc. It will also help you improve your life including improving the quality of your relationships, live a happier life and your health will improve.

Don’t forget that every pain and negative emotion is there so that we can grow. There is no life without problems and obstacles. Everyone has problems and obstacles in their life. Yes, even celebrities, the most successful and richest people on the planet have their problems and obstacles too. It is thanks to problems that we can learn, gain experience, grow and learn.

Sometimes reading a story like this or a life experience from someone who has been through the same thing as us can help us overcome our conditions and move on.


Now it’s time to share with you some highly effective tips on how to heal a broken heart. I’m not going to tell you the tips you can find everywhere, but I’m going to give you a real guide that will help you cope with a breakup or the loss of a loved one.

If you follow these tips, the whole process of healing a broken heart will be faster and easier. It does not mean that everything will pass immediately. There is no cure for heartbreak that works instantly or quickly. I offer you instructions and tips that will speed up the whole process and help you move forward in life.


The worst thing you can do when someone breaks your heart is to pretend that nothing is happening and suppress your feelings or run away from the pain. Every pain and negative emotion is there to transform us. Through negative emotions, problems and obstacles we can grow. Remember every repressed pain or emotion will come back one day in an even worse and stronger form and cause far greater trauma or pain.

When someone breaks up with you or you lose someone close to you, you will feel a flood of different emotions. It’s trauma. It’s a shock to your system. And as with all types of emotional shocks, you need to be honest with yourself and allow yourself to fully feel your feelings. After all, they are your feelings and they come for a reason, for example, they can help you get through difficult experiences and problems, but only if you release them and process them properly.


In the next few days after the breakup, don’t be afraid to cry, grieve, experience your emotions and accept that the breakup is a certain loss for you. With loss, there are usually five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Everyone, including you, will go through certain phases in their own way, in their own time. During this process, it is necessary to identify your emotions, fully experience them and let them go.

Every separation, loss of a loved one, including death, leaves us with a certain inner pain. In my practice, I have experienced several cases where a person lost a close person in the past and this left him with great inner pain – trauma. This person suppressed his feelings and could not cope with such a great loss and pain. After some time, when he suffocated these negative feelings and pain, other same or similar situations came, which reminded him of this inner pain and repressed emotions, or deepened them even more. After a few years, health problems appeared, including cancer. Illness only shows us that we cannot continue to live the way we live. If we suffocate pain and have repressed unexpressed emotions, after a while our body will get sick.

I believe you don’t want to end up the same. Practically every person who has turned to me with cancer and other health problems has experienced some kind of trauma in the past, or another very strong emotional situation that left a negative impression on him. Not only does such trauma (suppressed negative feelings and inner pain) negatively damage your life, including your health, but it will also significantly negatively affect your future relationships.


Scientists have shown for the first time that the brain is involved in the development of a heart condition called Takotsubo Syndrome (TTS). They found that the areas of the brain that are responsible for processing emotions have a very significant effect on the course of a broken heart and other difficult emotional life situations and can cause health problems such as heart failure, heart attack, or even death. Therefore BEWARE of emotions

Scientists say that broken heart syndrome and cancer are very closely related. And my practice is proof of that. Dealing with a broken heart is much easier than recovering from cancer, so don’t wait any longer and read on.


If you are ready to make a change in your life and want to improve the quality of your relationships, be happier, improve your health including your life, then we have a great opportunity for you.

Therapeutic techniques and step-by-step instructions are waiting for you to help you heal your past, come to terms with and heal your broken heart, heal your inner child, woman or man, but also learn to work properly with negative thoughts and emotions. We will guide you through a deep process of forgiveness and at the same time your self-confidence will increase and you will build your inner worth and learn to accept yourself as you are.

Plus you get guided meditations and visualizations including programming recordings that reprogram your subconscious and much more, including downloadable materials like a workbook and more. You will find all this and much more in our online self-love journey course , which is waiting just for YOU.


First of all, you need to accept the situation as it is. It is necessary to accept all the emotions that are connected with this. An important aspect of how to heal a broken heart is to change the way you look at the situation.

There is no problem, just an opportunity for growth. If we change the point of view and also the attitude towards the situation, then we can completely speed up the whole process and the length of the healing of a broken heart. Often people feel sorry for themselves and put themselves in the role of the victim, but this will only worsen and prolong the whole process.

In the video below, you will find instructions and a simple technique on how to change your approach to problems and obstacles, including a broken heart. Changing the attitude and reaction to the event itself will change the result, i.e. your future life.


Give yourself the time and space you need for inner healing. Avoid talking, meeting, calling, or texting your ex. Remove him from social networks like facebook, instagram and the like so you can take a break. If you follow your ex-partner through social networks, your inner pain can very easily and quickly return and you will experience this suffering again. The more you torture yourself, the longer the pain will last. Sometimes we can see something on social networks where we follow our ex-partner that makes us feel jealous or want revenge and this makes it impossible to heal a broken heart.

Let your ex know that you need some time and space to stop contacting you. Calmly tell him “I need some time to myself. I would appreciate it if you didn’t contact me for a while because I’m working on my feelings and inner healing. ”


Avoid clinging to things that belong to your ex-partner or that remind you of him. Accept the fact that it’s time to let go of these items so you can move on and heal your broken heart.

For example, you can arrange for the person to pick up their belongings. By making space and getting rid of these things, you make room for new things to come into your life.


Focus on a hobby you love. Maybe you love painting, drawing, singing, art, or reading. Maybe you have a hobby like woodworking, knitting, playing a musical instrument, hiking, traveling or playing sports. It is certainly better than letting yourself be controlled by negative emotions, to focus on an activity that pleases you and makes you happy. This can help you relax and focus on the present here and now, otherwise you might get drawn into the past and memories of your past relationship or ex-partner.

Your hobbies will help you stay more upbeat, positive and lead you to different thoughts. An American study revealed that optimists will live longer than those who have a more negative outlook on life.


If you need more help, therapy can be a great resource to give you support and new tools to help you through the healing process of inner pain, negative emotions, heartbreak, or anything else. Using our therapy  and coaching, you will go through a treatment model with measurable goals that will teach you how to change negative automatic thoughts and behaviors that prevent you from moving forward. You will learn how to work properly with negative thoughts and emotions, but also how to process repressed feelings and heal your inner pain that prevents you from happiness and establishing a successful relationship.

Or you can also use our online course below, where you will learn to work step by step on how to heal any internal trauma and pain including negative and repressed emotions. And much more, such as increasing self-confidence and the like.


Avoid negativity towards the opposite sex. These can be programs such as:

  • All men/women are frauds!
  • All men/women are the same
  • All men/women only care about one thing (sex)
  • All men / women only care about looks
  • All men / women only care about money
  • All men are whores and whores
  • All women are whores and whores

At one time I was one of these people who said these sentences and also believed them. This caused me to constantly attract the same women who caused me the same hurt over and over again.

Therefore, it is important to understand one thing. Just because we go through a bad experience or a breakup doesn’t mean that the entire human race or the opposite sex is the same. If we have these programs in our subconscious, we can miss out on amazing opportunities and people who can join us. This negative subconscious programming causes you to keep attracting the same partners over and over again, who will keep cheating on you, causing you heartbreak, and you’ll experience the same inner pain over and over again. All this as long as you do not change your reactions, heal the inner pain and change the state of your mind including the programs in your subconscious.


Join our community of consciousness creators , where you will find tools to easily and quickly reprogram your subconscious. There you will find recordings such as guided meditations, mind programming, subliminal recordings and other tools for all different areas of life.

There you will also find an online course on conscious creation and other tools for creating a life exactly according to your ideas. There you will also find support from other members, challenges and much more.



I often meet people who make one big mistake, which I did at one time, and thus rob themselves of love and happiness. The mistake is that they close themselves off from love. When a difficult emotional situation comes, such as infidelity , separation, or the loss of a loved one, they close their hearts. Sometimes we do it unconsciously because we are afraid to love, lest someone hurt us and break our hearts again and again.

If we close our hearts, we close ourselves off to love and can never be happy in a relationship. We simply live in fear and are afraid to make contact with another person. With a closed heart, we can never fully open up in a relationship with another person and this causes significant problems and early termination of the relationship.

If you want to open your heart, they recommend listening to the video below regularly every day. You can find more information in the description of the video, so I recommend clicking through to YouTube and reading the description, where you will find important information on how to work with this recording.


Like me in my time, you too may have painful memories that you would like to forget. The road to recovery is not always easy. True healing comes only after we heal the dark deep wounds and release the suppressed emotions and inner pain. That is why forgiveness is such an important process in healing.

It is necessary to forgive the person who caused your heartbreak, but also yourself. By holding on to those cruel negative feelings of bitterness, betrayal, anger, desire for revenge, sadness, regret, we will only harm ourselves anyway. While your ex is enjoying life to the fullest, you’re stuck in your past. You are not hurting your partner, you are only hurting yourself.

In the same way, if you lost a close person, it is necessary to say goodbye to them and forgive them for everything bad towards you. Another important part of this process is to forgive yourself for everything towards this person. For example, you may blame yourself for not being able to be with this loved one when they were dying, or you said something nasty to them and then they died suddenly, or you just didn’t spend enough time with them. All of this and more must be let go or we will hurt ourselves and cause pain over and over again. Time is running out and we won’t be here forever. Do you want to worry that long? It’s about choice.

For forgiveness, do not hesitate to use our guided meditation below for deep forgiveness, which will help you forgive another person, but also yourself.


Try a deep breathing exercise. If you start to feel anxious or stressed because of a recent breakup or the loss of a loved one, try to calm down and relax with deep breathing exercises. Find a calm and quiet place where you can do breathing exercises. Then try to slowly inhale and exhale deeply and smoothly for a few minutes.

Or you can try meditation. Meditation will also help you manage negative thoughts and emotions, and at the same time calm you down and bring you to other thoughts. If you don’t know how to meditate, try our step-by-step meditation guide .

Many yoga classes will encourage deep breathing. Start practicing yoga, which focuses on slow and relaxing movements to help you relax. Or another suitable exercise is qi kung.


Find someone or turn to someone you trust and you can confide in what you are going through right now. This way you can get support that will help you heal your broken heart faster and easier.

You can even join a community or a group of people where you will feel good and get support and new friends. Don’t be afraid to spend quality time with your friends. Your friends can help support you and get you in the mood to have fun and think differently. You don’t have to do anything special. Try inviting friends to a movie night, party, go to the zoo or the beach or try a new restaurant.


If you want a supportive environment where you can confide and work on your healing, don’t hesitate to join our community of consciousness creators .

There you will also find an online course on conscious creation, challenges and other educational system including an unlimited audio library. In the future, we will also meet live and organize various events.

It’s also a great place to meet and maybe start a new relationship that’s a few levels up because there are people in the community who are constantly working on each other.



Get a pet. A pet can help distract you from the deep loss of a loved one, breakup, or heartbreak. Pets also make great companions and can provide a lot of joy.

Maybe you can’t have a pet for some reason, but you can definitely visit a dog shelter and take out a dog that catches your eye. You will help yourself and the dog will be grateful that someone devotes time and energy to him.

Make sure you are prepared to take care of a pet before you decide to get one. You will have to allocate time and money to feed and care for the pet.


Avoid destructive behavior. Dealing with a broken heart can be difficult, and you may be tempted to deal with this emotional pain in ways that can seriously damage your life and your health. Try not to do things that could harm you physically or mentally, such as drinking too much, or drugs and other addictions. Also avoid repeated contact with your ex-partner or isolation from others. This behavior will only cause more damage to you and the people around you.

If you start to feel like doing something self-destructive, try reaching out to a friend or family member instead. Spending time on hobbies or writing down your feelings can also help.

If you are thinking about physically harming yourself, or self-harm , don’t hesitate to contact me for immediate help.


Do at least a little exercise every day. Exercise can be a great way to feel better and avoid depression. Try running, workout, fitness, swimming, or cycling. Add 30 minutes of exercise to your day. Sign up for a gym and visit it several times a week.

If you’re trying to exercise, ask a friend to go to the gym with you or go for a run to keep you both motivated.

Don’t forget to spend time in nature, because nature heals and heals. Include at least an hour’s walk in nature every day and miracles will happen. By that I mean spending time in nature without a phone, headphones or online connection to social networks and the like.


You’ll probably have a lot of time now that you don’t have a partner anymore. Therefore, make the best use of this time. For example, start reading, get an education, or learn a new skill and this will increase your self-confidence .

You can also work on changing your life. For example, change your negative habits and replace them with new positive ones. You can work on yourself on your relationship with yourself and your self-love will continue to grow and your life and the quality of your relationships will improve.


by Abdullah Sam
I’m a teacher, researcher and writer. I write about study subjects to improve the learning of college and university students. I write top Quality study notes Mostly, Tech, Games, Education, And Solutions/Tips and Tricks. I am a person who helps students to acquire knowledge, competence or virtue.

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