A review of the most important causes of the lack of desire to perform daily activities.If there is a psychological difficulty that has multiplied in recent years, it is that of discouragement or lack of desire, which can also lead to depression.
We live in a hyper-stimulating world, and in turn, we feel more and more discouragement, discomfort, apathy and emptiness . We don’t know what decisions to make and the way out of that endless circle seems never to come. Why do we feel this way? How can we solve it?
Feeling discouraged, apathy or lack of desire at certain times in our lives is natural. However, the fact that it is such a common state is completely counterproductive, it causes us a greater blockage and over time it can lead to depression.
In my case, as a psychologist and coach, I accompany more and more people who seek to get out of this situation in their personal change processes. In all these cases we see that there are 3 fundamental factors that lead us to discouragement, apathy or lack of desire .
The objective that we have in this article is that you delve into what is happening to you, and above all, that you can find tools to start solving it. Everything I am going to tell you is based on my experience as a psychologist who has accompanied people to solve these problems since 2012, in a stable and profound way. Let’s go for it.
The meaning of discouragement or lack of desire
As we speak, feeling discouraged at certain times in our lives is natural. Discouragement implies a moment of rest, distance from what is happening, which can help you gain perspective, increase your openness and come up with solutions. However, too frequent, intense and long-lasting discouragement or lack of desire can lead to a greater block .
Discouragement is an unpleasant emotion, which implies a lack of interest in action and is based on the belief that our actions are irrelevant. That is, we do not act because we believe that it will not make sense to act. Discouragement is also contagious: as our behavior becomes more discouraged or apathetic, this discouragement increases and your own emotional world tends more and more towards demotivation.
Its meaning is to help you gain perspective, and this in itself is positive. The problem is not discouragement, but the way in which you are understanding and managing that emotion , in such a way that you have immersed yourself in that state.
The 3 causes of discouragement and apathy
Discouragement or apathy can be caused by 3 main reasons or a combination of all three. The first and most important thing you must understand is that discouragement is not a primary cause , that is, it does not come into your life spontaneously, but arises as a result of other events, and above all, it depends on your actions.
This is good news, as it means that the solution also depends on you and your personal change.
These are the 3 main causes of discouragement, apathy and lack of desire:
- Reaction to anxiety
When we spend too much time with anxiety (which is a state of fear that has become widespread, which causes us intrusive thoughts, physical discomfort and a constant state of alertness and anguish) our body becomes exhausted, and as a way out it generates discouragement. Anxiety is exhausting and causes us so much discomfort that it blocks our lives. Feeling discouraged as a reaction to anxiety is a common consequence ; hence the famous “anxious-depressive” condition is diagnosed. If this is your case, you should know that the solution lies in facing anxiety first. When you decrease the intensity of anxiety, everything begins to be easier. We achieve this in a few weeks through proper breathing.
- That your well-being does not depend on you
When you get used to your well-being depending on external factors that you cannot control (the behavior of others, how they value you, your situation at work, the results of a project) anxiety, insecurity, and over time, discouragement are generated. . A self-esteem that works is the one that makes your well-being depend, mainly, on you. If this is your case, you already know where we have to start working and applying changes.
- Taking too long without rewarding yourself
Discouragement also comes from the lack of positive stimuli, but they must be non-material rewards or rewards from other people, but natural ones that arise from your own behavior . When you forget about yourself, discouragement will come. If this is your case, we must start working with behaviors that generate that well-being by your own means.
The relationship between discouragement and depression
Sometimes we don’t know if what happens to us is discouragement, apathy or even depression. Depression is actually a state of discouragement that has become stable, so that your energy is low . But we do not arrive at this state quickly, but through a long and sometimes invisible process. For this reason it is so important that you learn to manage your discouragement now, so that it is not stable and does not lead to major problems.
Discouragement and doubts (fear and insecurity)
Discouragement also generates constant doubts. Will I be able? Does it make sense to dare? Doubts are always a consequence of fear and insecurity, whose tool is to block you through questions and hypotheses.
The way to get rid of doubts is not an eternal decision, but to have an action plan that leads you to concrete changes, which will make doubts stop making sense.
How to solve your problem with discouragement in a stable and practical way
The solution to this problem lies in your own personal change , not in magical tools or external solutions. Your own personal change must be focused on understanding and knowing how to manage what you feel, having concrete changes, and above all, that the company is constant.
For this reason, in my case, as a psychologist and coach, I not only accompany with occasional sessions, but every day for any need you may have and with no consultation limit. In this way, we manage to face your difficulties at the moment they occur without necessarily waiting for a session. In addition, we work with weekly tools and sessions, so that it is a profound, complete, practical and stable process of change. My goal is to accompany people in processes where they get what they need 100% and is durable over time.
If that is what you want, remember that on this page you can see the option of scheduling a first session with me, which you can have from home, to get to know each other, see what the problem is in your case, find a stable solution and analyze how I can accompany you in your process.
