You have surely already dealt with a player. Or, unfortunately, several … You know, the kind of man who doesn’t give up until he gets what he wants from you.
He plays with your emotions, shuns serious engagement and doesn’t really like spending one-on-one time with you.
In short, he is immature and uses childish games like “Run away from me, I follow you; follow me I’m running from you ”to make himself interesting.
And, to make you run after him like he’s a god of sex or romance. Well then !
On the other hand, a mature man stays with you until he has received everything you have to offer him.
He behaves like a real adult who is willing to put effort into making his romantic relationship work.
This man is not ashamed to be vulnerable or to talk about his emotions. He does not hide his true intentions.
Despite your disastrous romantic experiences, don’t think that all men are the same!
A lot of women are disappointed with men simply because they have met too many players in their lifetime.
And, honestly, I have to admit: it’s not easy to find a good man these days.
This is why you have to be very careful when meeting a potential partner.
Indeed, you have to be careful of what he says and how he says it. Besides, body language is also very important.
It can tell you a lot about a person’s character. So, if you want to avoid getting your heart broken by another player, here are some things to think about.
What makes a player different from a good man?
Today I have prepared for you a list of the ten biggest differences you can notice between a mature man and an immature man.
A mature man does not shy away from commitment and wants to be completely involved in your relationship. Therefore, he is a good man.
An immature man prefers to keep an emotional distance and only wants one thing: to put you in his bed. That’s why we can qualify him as a player.
So what are the 10 biggest behavioral differences between these two types of men?
1. As the name suggests, the player is playing with you!
A player doesn’t really care about the woman he’s dating. So if he hurts you, too bad for you… (that’s what his twisted mind tells him).
He uses psychological manipulation to get anything from you that he wants and he feels no remorse about that.
A good man, on the other hand, always respects you. With him, you never feel bad because he makes sure to take care of you.
He respects you as a person but also as a partner. He is aware that love and respect go hand in hand.
So in his mind, if he disrespects you, he shoots himself in the foot because he thinks you can’t love him under these conditions.
2. The player is looking for the quantity so he wants to seduce as many girls as possible.
He’s the kind of man who brags in front of his friends because he’s slept with X number of girls. Yeah!
These are only trophies he won but he thinks that represents his sexual skills. As if he were a porn actor!
A mature, good man is looking for the perfect woman for him. He doesn’t date girls just so he’s not alone.
He needs an emotional connection to be intimate with someone. And, his feelings are still genuine.
He doesn’t use manipulation or lying to get what he wants. He remains true to himself under all circumstances.
3. He is therefore always on the lookout for new conquests.
Indeed, he is with you but here it is… He also goes out with other women. It’s completely normal, isn’t it?
Not really ! Quite simply, he cannot control himself. However, he is not ready to reveal this aspect of his personality to you.
He does indeed want you to think he’s the best man you can ever have. Well then !
A good man never gets tired of you. He always tries to get to know you especially when he notices that you have changed something.
He is madly in love with you and since you satisfy all his needs, he does not try to meet other women.
4. The player needs to brag when you are present.
He needs to feel important, but because he has low self-esteem, he feels obligated to brag in front of you.
So when you’re around he tries to always look perfect in order to help you fall in love with him more easily.
But, you have to know he’s doing this for the wrong reasons.
On the contrary, a mature man will be shy in front of you. He is aware that he does not know you yet so he will look for general topics of conversation in order to break the ice.
He doesn’t want to appear extravagant so he’ll just act normally. Besides, he is also kind and attentive.
Indeed, it does not interrupt you when you speak and it absorbs all the information that you give it.
5. The player makes no effort to really get to know you.
He’s a superficial man. He doesn’t care who you really are. And, he doesn’t try to get to know you in depth.
All he wants is sex. And that’s all ! It’s that simple.
A serious man who wants to invest in your relationship wants to know everything about you. Your qualities, your faults, your fears and your dreams.
Even the worst parts of you don’t scare him because he knows they are an entire part of your character.
He wants to see the broken pieces of your heart and doesn’t really care about your past because what really interests him is your common present.
He realizes that everyone has weird backgrounds and stories, but he makes sure to respect every aspect of your life.
6. The player manipulates and promises you wonders.
And, he keeps behaving like that until you finally say “Stop”. He uses every means possible and imaginable to make you look crazy.
It’s the only way he can feel superior to you.
In contrast, a mature man ready to commit is always honest. He never intentionally hurts you.
And, he makes sure you know his intentions. He is genuine about his feelings and he never tries to pass himself off as someone he is not.
7. He will tell you what you want to hear.
Do you want children? Of course ! It’s also in his plans. Whatever you want, he’s always up for it.
And you know why ? To get what he wants, of course. He knows that to have you looking good, he has to stroke you across the grain (excuse my expression).
But, that’s it… He shows himself sweet and adorable when he needs something.
In contrast, a good man shares his feelings only if he really does. He doesn’t push things just to make you like him.
This man is always honest and he keeps his feet on the ground. He doesn’t want to promise you the moon, if he can’t even offer you a star.
He respects you and treats you like you really deserve.
8. The player wants EVERYTHING… NOW.
From the start, his intentions are clear: he wants sex. And, he’s not ready to wait until you’re ready to give it to him.
He always pushes you to do things that you don’t necessarily like, and with him you often feel uncomfortable.
A good, mature man will wait until you are ready for the big steps in your romantic relationship.
He’s not going to force you to do anything just because it’s his number 1 priority.
He knows you need to be emotionally ready for certain things and he gives you all the time you need for them.
9. The player has a lot of secrets.
Her favorite lie? Tell you that he loves you when he’s dating other women, at the same time.
Quite simply, the player is not able to have a normal romantic relationship with one woman.
Why ? You tell me. It’s quite simple, in fact: he constantly needs to prove to himself that he is capable of having all the women he wants.
In comparison, the serious and mature man opens up to you. Besides, if he thinks you’re the right one for him, he even confesses his most intimate secrets to you.
He wants you to be his best friend and his partner so he doesn’t want to hide anything from you.
10. With a gamer, you always feel like your love story is too good to be true.
And you’re right ! When you are with him you always wonder where you are. “Is he going to replace me with another woman, once he gets tired of me?”
Probably ! Between you, the romantic relationship has never really been defined. Everything is free for everyone to interpret.
A mature man who is ready to commit gives you a sense of security. With him, you never doubt: you know that you are worth it and that you deserve his attention.
In this kind of romantic relationship, both partners are aware of the other’s true feelings.
And, you don’t feel like your relationship could implode at any time. Your romantic relationship is stable and balanced.
