It is normal to like sex – you will hardly ever meet someone who doesn’t like it. Even those who never practiced think about it a lot.
After all, it is something normal, healthy and even stimulated by society.
However, when it starts to disrupt your routine, even putting your work and life at risk, it can become a serious problem: satiriasis .
Satiriasis is more than thought; it is the will taking control of your life. Those who go through this condition end up putting themselves in various risk situations, including life, and may even risk the health of other people.
In this post, you will understand:
- What is satiriasis;
- When thinking about sex becomes a problem;
- If harassment is a consequence of satiriasis;
- What to do to solve it.
What is satiriasis?
It is the male compulsion for sex – for women, the disorder is called nymphomania. Both are derived from Greek mythology (“sathê” = “penis”).
In fact, the satyrs were beings with half the human body and half goat, in addition to horns. They lived in the fields and woods and had quite an exacerbated sexuality, especially with nymphs.
Therefore, satiriasis is a sexual compulsion in which the man cannot control his sexual impulses.
As a result, he ends up having disorders both in his personal and professional life. The individual ends up giving in to his impulses, wanting and having sex at any time, without criteria.
Often the man does not realize that this is a problem, because we are encouraged to think that the male person thinks about sex all the time.
After all, how many times have you heard the term “satiriasis”? “Nymphomania” is popular. A woman enjoying sex, especially in addition to the healthy, is considered out of the curve.
How do you know that sexual desire has become a problem?
Sexual desire becomes satiriasis when the individual loses control over him.
The World Health Organization (WHO) classifies the problem, both male and female, as compulsive sexual behavior, listed by the International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems as a mental health disorder.
Before, there were those who rejected the pathological nature of the problem, while others treated it as a common compulsive disorder.
For example, in the United States, the American Association of Educators, Counselors and Sex Therapists understand that sexual behavior can indeed influence an individual’s health or psychological health. And professionals should take care not to treat consensual sexual behaviors as pathologies .
However, since 2013, many scholars from other fields have contributed to diagnosing it as a mental disorder.
In Is your patient suffering from compulsive sexual behavior? (1992), Eli Coleman characterizes 5 types of excessive sexual appetite:
- Compulsive sex and multiple partners;
- Compulsive fixation in obtaining an unattainable partner;
- Compulsive masturbation, even without will or in pain;
- Compulsion for multiple affective relationships;
- Compulsive sex with a single partner.
In the same study, Coleman said that about 5% of the population suffers from excessive sexual drive, being higher in men, who make up 80% of cases .
Although this prevalence is higher than expected, according to American statistics, it could grow even more if it were not for the moral implications, such as embarrassment, shame and confidentiality of those involved.
Look, there are several causes for satiriasis. It comes mainly to fill a void of affection, but also due to the lack of self-esteem , by those who were abused as a child or youth. There are also specialists who see the problem as obsessive-compulsive disorder .
Here are some motivations for satiriasis:
- Filling emptiness, mainly of affection;
- Lack of self-esteem linked to lack;
- Impotence in the face of a drastic situation, such as the loss of a job or a loved one;
- Lack of limits or respect between parents and children during parenting. The individual ends up acquiring insensitivity and seeks in sex the affection he did not have during childhood;
- Even during childhood, living with people with sexual compulsion and exposure to their acts as something common. The individual begins to eroticize everything and to repeat the behavior as a pattern;
- Sexual abuse during childhood, which causes the individual to be exposed to risky situations.
One issue that raised the question of whether satiriasis is a mental disorder or not is the fact that many patients with symptoms of sexual compulsion have no visible evidence of other neuropsychiatric dysfunction.
So, if he has no problems other than numerically unusual sexual activity, would it be correct to think that he has a pathology?
Wouldn’t it be more correct to classify it as an ethical issue or simply a personal one?
Look, the problem comes when sex is no longer a pleasure and starts to bring pain, to disrupt your daily activities, to disrupt various aspects of an individual’s life, to be an obsession that needs to be conquered and satisfied (but it never is) , just like a drug, gambling or alcohol addiction does.
So much so that the diagnosis involves the quality (not the quantity) of sexual intercourse, in addition to the individual’s feeling that he has lost control over his will.
However, the moral nature makes the problem less accepted in society. The days of the man with satiriasis (and the woman with nymphomania) become just to plan how to get sex and, while not doing it, imagine it.
Certainly, over time, the quantity (once a day, for example) becomes insufficient, making him look for more sex and for different people to feel the emotional relief.
With that, the behavior gets out of control, and he is exposed to dangerous and even vexing situations. The frequency, extent and duration of sex also exceed what is desired.
In addition to behavior problems
In addition to relationship problems (since the person demands too much from the partner or betrays him frequently) and professionals, the chances that the individual with satiriasis will be contaminated by a sexually transmitted disease (STD) are much greater! Or worse: he will probably pass the STD.
It is also common for the individual to blame himself and depreciate himself for lack of control.
However, he often does not consider an extramarital relationship a betrayal , just a way to indulge himself.
According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders , 3a. revised edition (DSM-III-R), the 4 main criteria for diagnosing hypersexual disorders are:
- The existence of recurrent and intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual impulses or behaviors that persist for a period of at least six months and fit the definition of paraphilias;
- Fantasies, impulses or sexual behaviors cause discomfort or clinically significant impairment in the social, occupational or other important areas;
- The symptoms do not find a cause in other disorders, as in the manic episode;
- The symptoms are not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (drugs, alcohol or cigarettes) or to the general medical condition.
Is sexual harassment due to satiriasis?
No! First, sexual harassment and compulsion are different matters.
Not every individual with satiriasis is an abuser and vice versa. But the two conditions can coexist in the same person. Harassment is a power relationship, in which the harasser who shows dominance (financial, psychological or social) over the victim.
The person with satiriasis, on the other hand, usually has a consensual relationship, but can also commit (or suffer) abuses. Meanwhile, rape is a very serious and unjustifiable violence, which also has to do with dominance. Therefore, it does not fit as a disorder, but as a crime!
Anyway, what to do to treat satiriasis?
The individual with satiriasis has compulsive, obsessive and impulsive behaviors, see? Therefore, its treatment is similar to that of other types of dependencies.
For mild cases, only psychotherapy can solve it; for the more serious, supplementation with medications is the most indicated treatment.
According to Marco Scanavino, coordinator of the Excessive Sexual Impulse Clinic at the Psychiatry Institute of the Hospital das Clínicas, USP Medical School, 70% of patients with satiriasis also have anxiety and depression.
Therefore, the most indicated is the treatment with serotonin inhibiting antidepressant drugs. In this case, psychotherapeutic treatment is essential, regardless of the severity of the case.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy, for example, helps the individual to control his impulses and maintain healthy sexual relations without necessarily decreasing his frequency (this, of course, depends on the number of times he has sex each day).
The objective of the treatment, whatever it may be, is not to lead the individual to abstinence, but to the pleasurable, controlled and healthy practice!
As you saw, thinking about sex is healthy and normal – a healthy person thinks several times a day.
However, when thinking becomes an obsession, to the point where you can’t connect to anything else, it’s time to seek expert help.
Satiriasis is not just content with thinking: it will force the individual to satisfy his sexual desire.
In the beginning a relationship or masturbation will be sufficient. But as time goes by, nothing will satisfy you!
If you experience this problem and see your personal and professional relationships crumble, look for psychological or psychiatric help!
A professional will be able to identify what the best treatment will be, in addition to adapting it according to the positive or negative result.
Besides, it’s time to not be shy about therapy, okay? As a group or as an individual, she will be crucial to discover the factor that triggered this obsession with sex.When you discover this key point, it becomes less difficult to advance your treatment!