It is obvious. Examine your recent or distant past and see if you can find at least 3 things that recently happened with your girlfriend. (If you remember your girlfriend’s nicknames, that’s a good thing to slip into them, too.) This is one of those dating tips for men that always works. Good things to talk about include:
# 1: fun things you recently did together
Does your conversation remind you of a funny story you have heard in the past? Bring it on – it will enrich the conversation and keep it going a little longer. The positive use of humor has been found to create more satisfying relationships between couples.
# 2: What You Said You Would Do … But You Haven’t Already Done
Does the current situation remind you of a positive experience in the past? Bring it – not only will you lighten the mood, but your girlfriend might also be tempted to offer you an experience or two.
Talk to your girlfriend about the present
I told you it was easy. Now that we have done the past, we just move on to the present. (These are often the best topics of conversation.) Good things about talking about the present tense include:
# 3: what just happened during your day
This one is pretty easy – you just tell him what happened during your day. The more interesting or busy your life, the more there is to talk about!
# 4: How’s her day going
It’s also very easy – you can ask her how her day went. Your girlfriend will love this – it shows her that you are attentive and sensitive to her needs, and patient enough to listen to her if she has to. Understanding that women want to share their day is a big key to being successful with women.
But what if you’re both busy at work? Then texting her quick messages over the phone asking her about her day is a good start, at least until your next meeting.
# 5: I’m feeling this right now
Are you hungry? Tired? Horn? Thirst? Sad? Frustrated? Tell him! Your emotional health is just as important as your physical health, so you will need to take care of it as well. Being honest and open with your feelings, (my daughter loves it when I tell her what bothers me), especially with your girlfriend, will help you stay on an emotional pin even … and it will also strengthen your bond with your girlfriend. Advice for women: listen to your man!
# 6: Sympathize with her… with anything.
She’s probably ALWAYS going through something. This is a gift. Just try to figure out what she’s going through. Getting your girlfriend to talk about how she feels about anything is extremely easy – girls love to express their thoughts and emotions. Remember, when she does, she isn’t looking for solutions – she is looking for sympathy and support. Make sure you give it to him. She will tell her friends that she feels grateful to have found you.
# 7: “I just saw this” conversations
Are you both experiencing something at the same time? Talk about it. Give your opinion, then ask him for his. It’s a great way to start a conversation wherever you are, whatever you’re doing together.
# 8: TV Talk – Efficient
Ah, the TV. It has been called the greatest productivity drain in human history. Fortunately, when you build a relationship with your girlfriend, you aren’t looking for productivity – you are looking for intimacy. Watch TV together and talk about the shows you watch – it’s something you can do for an hour every day. Love and relationships are sometimes built on mundane activities!
# 9: conflict resolution
That’s right – when you have a disagreement with your girlfriend, don’t give yourself the silent treatment. This is a golden opportunity for conversation – don’t waste it!
It takes a confident, level-headed guy to say to his girlfriend, “Hey, do you have a minute? We have to talk about it… ”then find a compromise. Each problem you solve together as a couple will make you stronger in the long run and help lay the foundation for a more productive and fulfilling relationship.
Relationships are not like when you were dating for the first time, problems will come and solving them will make you stronger
Talk to your girlfriend about the future
It’s also healthy to talk to your girlfriend together about your immediate and distant future. Good things to talk about include:
# 10: make plans to go out
You two have goals for your relationship – pick the next immediate goal you have, and talk to her about it. Ask questions, take notes, make a list or a game plan. Few things can beat the feeling that you are “in the same boat” as your girlfriend and working together to make great things happen.
# 11: Chat about how fun housework is
After planning comes the grind. Even discussing who’s doing what in the house counts as a conversation, and it helps you show your girlfriend how reliable you are (and vice versa). This is important – we all need our loved ones to be the most reliable people in our lives.
Topic # 1: Childhood memories
No matter how old we are, childhood will always hold a special place in our hearts.
Recalling specific childhood experiences allows a girl to relate to you
emotionally and it allows her to open up to her own childhood memories…
and boom, you got her talking and contributing to the conversation with
Subject n ° 2: Passions
This is an excellent subject for two reasons …
A) It’s easy to talk about something you are passionate about… by releasing the pressure of having to come up with things to say.
B) You can get the girl to talk about HER passions and communicate emotionally. (Remember to avoid “logical” conversations without emotions)
When you talk about your passions, it is easy to bring emotions to them that allow the woman to talk about HER passions afterwards… and voila, you have now forged an emotional bond.
Later, when she thinks back, she’ll remember how she FEELING being with you.
The next one is easy …
Subject n ° 3: Situational observations
Sometimes it’s hard to come up with things to say with a girl you’ve just met and don’t know anything about.
You don’t have a lot to work on because you haven’t discovered the things that you are tapping into yet.
Except the connection of sharing the present moment in this moment, in the current environment.
For example, you can talk about …
– the type of bar you are in
– the type of food in the restaurant where you are
– the people around you
Here is a fun “first date” game you can play:
People watch and make up stories about the people you see go by.
It puts you and the girl on the same team, creating the “American vibe” you want.
It also gives you a chance to step up and bring up topics of sexuality.
For example, if you see a guy walking with two girls making up the story that they have a threesome tonight
Or… if you see a guy who seems to be on his first date with a girl, say, “do you think he’s going to get fucked tonight?”
And now you’ve brought sex into the conversation.
Subject n ° 4: His ambitions
Once again, when a girl talks about her ambitions, she puts herself in a state where she has to think deeply and emotionally about what she wants.
Plus, by focusing the conversation on her, it allows her to talk about herself and get her to contribute.
Topic 5: Travel
Another topic that gets her to contribute to the conversation.
A) it lifts the burden of having to do all the work in the conversation from your shoulders
B) Talking about travel allows her to display her passions, desires, world views…
Subject n ° 6: Life lessons
Ok now this is a great way to take the conversation in depth.
This is a way to move to another branch of the “conversation tree”.
By asking “what is the lesson if history”
… You bring another dimension to the conversation and set yourself apart from all the other guys she meets.
How to do
Instead of just talking about how you got into a fight in grade 5, add in the feelings running through your mind at the moment and the lessons you learned from the fight.
Now you have provided enough “hooks” that allow the conversation to spontaneously evolve into another topic.
Topic n ° 7: Pop Culture / News
If you get stuck, your thoughts on pop culture or current events can keep a conversation afloat and not fall into ‘awkward silence’ mode.
However, don’t depend on just one topic in this category or you may find yourself stuck on the single topic chat island.
So there you have it – 7 Great Girl Conversation Topics.
These are topics you can use to connect with women or take the conversation to a higher “outfit” that involves flirting and sex.