1. When you leave an abuser
If you have decided to leave a destructive relationship and are preparing a way out, lie like crazy. Your main task is to lull the aggressor’s attention to start saving money, collecting things, establishing connections with people who will help you emerge from this abyss.
It is especially worth holding back if you want to sort things out at the end, although victims of emotional abuse usually have neither the strength nor the desire to do so. The aggressor’s reaction is unpredictable if he understands that the victim is getting off the hook. And it is better to be alive and well than right and honest.
2. When your partner asks: “Have you ever loved someone more than me?”
Unless you’ve agreed in advance to absolute, 100% honesty, say no. Let’s say you’ve had a stronger feeling in your life than the current one. Who will feel better if you tell the truth?
Having confessed your true feelings, you will take the well-hidden skeleton out of the closet and seat him third at the table.
So leave it in the closet and don’t be shy about lying. Unless, of course, deep down you’re planning to return to your previous love – it’s dishonest to hide such plans from your current partner.
3. When you are preparing a surprise
According to Murphy’s Law, the person for whom a surprise is being prepared will have all of their senses heightened, a third eye and the ability to see through walls will appear – in a word, there is a great chance that they will understand everything ahead of time.
Therefore, you will most likely have to not just lie on the fly, but weave a web of lies to keep the surprise a secret. Make sure the lie is not offensive, otherwise you risk losing your other half before you get to the big day.
4. When you leave a generally good person
The tomatoes of your love have faded and withered, and you are packing your bags. Your ex is probably wondering what went wrong. Don’t rush to dump the whole list of misdeeds on him. Are you sure that the reason for the breakup is his shortcomings? Or is it just convenient to justify your departure by blaming your ex-lover for all the sins?
People leave good people too. “We didn’t get along” is not just a standard reason for breaking up.
5. When you give a compliment to lift your partner’s mood
Let’s say your girlfriend has caught a cold and from a glossy beauty has turned into a beauty with a swollen nose and red eyes. The phrase “You look great” is not a lie at all, because the girl has a mirror, she knows the truth. It’s just another way to tell her about your love .
6. When it’s not your secret
All property acquired during marriage is considered common property, but your friends’ secrets do not count. You don’t have to make up a fake story filled with details, just answer “I don’t know” to an awkward question about your friend.
