Many texts have already been written about how to improve sex, and the time after it also plays a big role. It is unpleasant when immediately after sex the partner reaches for the phone or runs to the shower. We share advice on how to give each other a little attention and make intimacy better.
Take time to recover
During sex, our body experiences an intense shake-up. It is a mix of a bunch of different emotions and hormones, not everyone can switch from this state instantly, and even a little joint rest will help to ground.
The basic rule is this: the more intense and prolonged the sex was, especially if you tried some new practices, the more time you should devote to returning to a normal state. In general, this is 5-15 minutes, which will not play a special role in the daily routine, but will improve your intimacy.
Prepare useful little things in advance
It’s great to find out from your loved one what they most often want after sex. Some people like to drink water, or want to eat something sweet. You can bring dry and wet wipes , snacks and a bottle of water to the bedside table in advance. This is a small gesture of care that will leave a pleasant aftertaste.
Just be there
Even the best sex can be ruined by a sudden withdrawal. Don’t pick up your phone or run to the shower right after you’ve finished. Such actions can make the other person feel abandoned and upset. It’s better to spend a few minutes on a light massage, stroking, or hugging.
Open up to dialogue
The moments of intimacy after sex are a good time for a conversation. The dialogue can be different. Perhaps you want to exchange impressions, discuss what you liked the most, and what moments are better to avoid next time.
It is not necessary to discuss sex itself, sometimes partners want to share their feelings and share emotions. Another great idea is to exchange warm words and compliments with each other. All this will increase self-esteem and have a good effect on the next sex.
Help with cleaning
An immediate plus of a few points to the quality of sex is helping your partner clean up afterwards. Pick up scattered clothes, wash sex toys , throw away the packaging from a used condom . This is a small and easy step that will definitely be appreciated. And overall, it is quite fair: we scattered together, and we cleaned up together.
