First, we have to admit that sometimes, even when we love someone, we can make mistakes. However, most of these mistakes happen after one of these ten things that he would never do if he really loved her.When you really love someone, that person always comes to your mind before your own pleasure or “happiness”; but when your feelings are not strong enough, or doubts are starting to come, you come first. Experts say that there are 10 things that, if we avoid them, are not just a sign that we love someone, but that will lead us to have a more stable, lasting and happy relationship.
10 things you should NEVER do if you really love your wife
- Keep part of the truth or camouflage it
Secrets (of any kind) in marriage are the magic potion to destroy it. It doesn’t matter what you are lying about, or how small the lie is, or the information you are not revealing to your wife. If you hide things from him, you are on the wrong path.
Couples lie or hide things as stupid as when they left a tip in the restaurant, and yes, it doesn’t make sense, but we still do that and it’s just a way of taking the first step towards a bigger mistake.
- Breaking trust
Your partner must be your best friend and what she tells you must be 100% confidential and must die with you. We have all felt, at least once in our lives, the disappointment of entrusting something to someone that it will be disclosed to others, which can be irreparable. If you love her, what she entrusts to you must stay within your hearts.
- Losing your temper in front of people and shaming them (this also has to do with the love you feel for yourself)
Believe me, I know what it’s like to be dazzled and have to fight with yourself not to react, regardless of who is and where you are. But when it comes to the person you love, you should NEVER react irrationally and lack respect. If you love her and love yourself, control your anger or words; when you embarrass the person you love or lack respect, you are also disrespecting yourself (everyone will remember the friend or family member who embarrassed your wife at a party).
- Stop taking care of her
One of the great reasons why human beings like to be together and why we get married (besides the need to procreate), is to protect and care for someone other than ourselves. Protecting, caring and caring for your wife are signs of being in love with her, the opposite is the indication that you really don’t love her.
- Convert caresses into a reward because she ‘did something for you’
The couple’s intimacy and physical affection must be given free of charge, simply because it is part of the love that exists between the two. If you do not feel the desire to be with her or to give her a hug or kiss without her asking, it is nothing more than a sign that your feelings for her are not of love.
- Disrespect your family
As bad as her family seems to you, or even thinking that they do harm to your wife, they should never lack respect. They will always be her family and she cannot divorce them, but you can. As a husband, you must protect her, but that does not mean that your family members may lack respect. It’s more or less like the phrase my grandmother used to say: “Do what I say, not what I do”, if she wants to disrespect her own family, it is her choice because it is her family, but if you love her, you should never cross that line.
- Transform your achievements and your lives into competition
So they say that competing is healthy, and I believe it is, but in the right place, at the right time and with the right person. Wedding competitions, NEVER! If you love her, you must motivate her to overcome herself, face new challenges, and make it clear that she will be there to encourage her to reach her goals. If you don’t love her, her achievements will bother you, if she earns more than you, it will embarrass you. When you’re in a relationship, your achievements add up to points for the same team and no matter who accumulated them.
- Leave it with full load
The marriage is not 50 and 50, the marriage is 100 and 100. She is not in charge of everything or half, both are in charge of making their “matrimonial company” work. If she can’t do something that was in her charge, there you are to solve it, to take her place and relieve her. If you love her, the burdens will always be yours, if not, you will only play your own game.
- Put yourself in situations that you know can end badly
If you have read any of my other articles, then you are familiar with the phrase my grandmother used about “never flirting with temptation”. The fact of marrying someone does not mean that, as if by magic, we cancel our tendency to admire something that is beautiful, the important thing is how we do it and what we do about it. Don’t put yourself in situations where you spend time alone with co-workers you find attractive (of course, you wouldn’t want to know that your wife does the same at work). If you love her, you will get out of these situations as quickly as you can, if not, what will “get out” will be the limits.
- Never recognize your mistakes
When you love someone, recognizing that you have made a mistake is one of the most sublime ways of showing that you love the other more than yourself. On the contrary, if your pride is greater than your desire to ask for forgiveness, remain in love with your own ego.
Love her as if your life depended on it, forgive her as if you were the one who made the mistake, forget as if your love for her was only able to keep the good, take care of it as if it were your life who was in danger, caress her as if her breath depended on her heat, respect her as the most delicate flower and don’t put her at risk for a second of madness.