Don’t know what to do with awkward pauses, and witty questions come to you after the meeting? We offer an exhaustive list of date conversation ideas that will bring you closer not only at the dating stage, but also after years of marriage!
Harmless questions
This category of questions is suitable for warming up – do not linger on them too long, the most interesting is yet to come! However, even 10 questions are enough to spend the evening usefully and get to know each other better. We recommend answering them in turn.
Can you name a couple of your hidden talents?
Do you know how to cook/do you like to cook?
What was the most delicious dish in your life and who cooked it?
What type of transport would you use on a trip?
If money were no object, where would you spend your next vacation?
Do you have any secret weaknesses or hobbies?
Did you believe in ghosts when you were a kid? And now?
What do you think about work-life balance?
Can you describe your ideal day off?
Where can we find you if not at home or at work?
Questions for rapprochement
Are you ready to share your innermost secrets, but are not yet eager to reveal your biggest secrets? Answers to questions for rapprochement will introduce you to rather intimate facts of your partner’s biography and will tell you some basic things about him as a person.
How have you changed over the last 5-10 years?
Can you tell me a story from your life that your parents don’t know about?
Is there a person in your life from the past that you miss?
Have you ever disappointed other people?
Do you remember your first kiss/sex?
What was the worst birthday you ever had?
Your #1 fear – what is it?
What did you want to be when you were a child?
Who is your first love?
What was the most daring and bold thing you did in your life?
Questions to know yourself
To effectively build relationships, it is important to know yourself first. Ask the guy to think about the following questions, which, among other things, will clearly show you how confident he is.
How would your best friend describe you to his buddy?
Can you name your signature personality trait?
What character traits make people like you?
What are you ashamed to admit even to yourself?
Is there anything you regret?
What was the biggest disappointment in your life?
Do you believe in destiny?
Can you remember a situation when you should have acted differently?
What quality in people do you value most?
What was the hardest challenge in your life?
Philosophical questions
It’s time to learn not only the bare facts, but also to get to know his way of thinking. Don’t just throw questions at him mindlessly – wait for the right moment and don’t accept monosyllabic answers. Each topic is enough for a whole conversation.
Why are we here?
What is more important to you: honesty or loyalty?
Have you ever lost someone close to you?
If you could know the exact date of your death, would you want to have this information?
Where do you see yourself in 20 years?
Do you believe in second chances?
If you could have lunch with any famous person, past or present, who would it be?
What are you most grateful for in life?
Do you believe in a higher power?
If you could change the past, what would it be?
Questions about loved ones
We are not only what we eat, but also those with whom we communicate. And the influence of family on personality cannot be denied. If the interlocutor willingly answers the following questions, this is a good sign, it seems that you have entered the inner circle.
How often do you communicate with your family?
Who is the closest person to you at the moment?
Who was the closest person, besides your parents, when you were a child?
Do you have any siblings?
Would you like to have a twin?
What is more important to you: your best friend or your girlfriend?
Who would you take with you to a desert island with no chance of survival?
Is a lie for the good acceptable to you?
Who will answer your call at any time of the day or night?
And whose call will you answer without delay?
Funny questions
If you feel like your partner is tired of overly serious questions, try to lighten the mood with funny topics. However, even they are not so superficial – continue to listen carefully and remember.
What animal would you like to become and why?
Can you name/show the five most commonly used emojis?
If you could be any of the famous comedy characters, who would you be?
What’s the most ridiculous excuse you’ve ever made to get out of work early?
If you could make three wishes right now, what would they be?
Do you have a strange talent that you are secretly proud of?
Have you ever been pranked?
If you had to come up with a foreign first and last name, what would they be?
Which of your friends would last the longest in the event of a zombie outbreak?
What’s the dumbest lie you’ve ever tried to tell?
About pop culture
Perhaps knowing the filmography of your favorite actors doesn’t make your interlocutor a highbrow intellectual, but that’s the beauty of pop culture. Discuss the films, books, TV series, and tracks you like — it’s important to be on the same page in this area.
What is your favorite movie?
Whose posters did you have on your walls as a teenager?
Which TV series/book character are you most like?
If a movie were made about your life, which actor would play you?
Can you call yourself a fan of any of the modern stars?
What music albums do you think are truly great?
What genre of cinema has changed your attitude towards throughout your life?
Are there any actors who are torture for you to watch a film with?
What TV series have you rewatched at least once?
How do you feel about bestsellers?
Questions for flirting
Sooner or later, it’s time for questions with a subtext. Don’t rush to them on the first date – you may be misunderstood. However, everything depends on the purpose of the date.
What song do you think is the sexiest in the world?
What did you think when you saw me for the first time?
What is your idea of a perfect date?
What do you think about sexting?
Is it true that men love with their eyes?
What is your favorite genre of erotic videos?
Are you good at kissing?
What excites you?
If you saw me on a dating app, what would you do?
Do you think a girl can take the initiative when meeting someone?
About love
It just so happens that discussing great love and broken hearts is a less slippery topic than overt flirting. At the same time, they are deeper and allow you to assess the prospects of the relationship. The main thing is not to quarrel if you don’t like the answers too much. Try to appreciate the frankness.
Have you ever been truly in love?
What do you think about the “halves” theory?
What is one thing you definitely can’t forgive in a relationship?
Do you believe in emotional cheating?
Is it possible to be friends with your ex?
Are you ready to ruin someone else’s relationship because you’re in love?
What qualities do you look for in a partner?
Have you ever had your heart broken?
What is love?
How do you feel about casual relationships?
Questions about values
Perhaps, at the end of the meeting, you will want to philosophize a little more. Ask questions about values, each of which, if desired, can be discussed for more than one hour. At the same time, test his erudition.
What is more important to you: work or salary?
Which gift do you remember more than others?
What is the meaning of life for you personally?
What advice would you give to your 18 year old self?
What are you irrationally afraid of?
If you could live in another era, which one would you choose?
What do you do when you are home alone?
Have you ever put your own interests above the interests of others?
What is the greatest lesson life has taught you?
If you could make a guaranteed scientific discovery, what would it be in?