Handcuffs are so sexualized that using them in sex is probably one of the first ideas that comes to mind when partners decide to spice up their intimate life. And it’s not a bad one.
Firstly, it helps to introduce a note of submission and dominance into the process, which can give new emotions. Secondly, it allows you to change habitual patterns of behavior. Partners who have been together for a long time usually have a well-established process: movements to erogenous zones are brought to automatism, the body knows every next step.
How to use handcuffs in sex.
There may be several scenarios, but they are generally clear. Fixing the hands does not allow you to go the usual way, so one partner has to be a little more active to compensate for the stiffness of the other.
To make this experience enjoyable, it is better to remember a few rules in advance.
Get the right handcuffs
Usually, the first thought that comes to mind is metal handcuffs, like in detective films. But such “bracelets” are dangerous, they can cause pain and leave bruises and abrasions. If this is not the goal, it is better to choose other options – you are not detaining a robber, but trying to get pleasure.
Pay attention to those trimmed with fur, soft fabric, leather or silicone. Ideally, the cuff size can be adjusted.
Come up with a stop sign
It is needed even if you do not intend to hurt each other, because sometimes it happens unexpectedly. And when some ways of interaction are blocked, it may not be immediately clear what to do. For example, in a normal situation one partner could gently push the other away, but with hands tied this will not work.
In addition to handcuffs, you can add a blindfold, noise-canceling headphones or a gag, and this can even lead to the person becoming somewhat lost in space. Therefore, it is important that he has the opportunity to give a clear, unambiguous signal that he is uncomfortable and wants to stop.
Discuss possible scenarios
Only one partner’s hands are tied, and the other can give free rein to theirs beyond measure. For example, push them to new practices that the other participant may not like . At some point, instead of enjoying themselves, they will start thinking: “What the hell is the partner doing there?!”
Therefore, it is worth discussing at least taboo practices: this will definitely not happen. And if no one likes surprises, you can discuss all possible scenarios.
Find a suitable place
If you want to not only fix your partner’s hands, but also tie them to something, not everything will do. For example, a bed with a sturdy metal headboard is ideal. If the headboard has a drawer, its handle should never (never!) be used as a crossbar for tying. It only seems that your partner will lie still in handcuffs, and the drawer is too heavy to move. The risk of it falling on your head is not just non-zero – it will happen with a high degree of probability.
Select position
For foreplay, this is not so important, but as soon as it comes to penetration itself, it turns out that not every position is available to a partner with limited mobility. Especially if he is additionally handcuffed to something else. Therefore, it is better to think in advance how the bed party will end, and take this into account when using handcuffs.