We won’t raise the question of whether it’s advisable to get your partner back who’s no longer with you. Let’s pretend it doesn’t concern us and just focus on the goal of getting your ex back. Here are five mistakes that will greatly reduce your chances of getting back together.
Mistake #1: Involving mutual friends
The temptation to talk to mutual friends in the hopes of hearing words of support is always great. However, mutual acquaintances, without knowing it, can do a disservice. For example, they will try to influence your ex-partner with heart-to-heart talks and persuasion. The last thing you need is for someone to beg for another chance.
Mistake #2: Texting while tipsy
Texting an ex is an activity that requires a certain amount of self-control. Having two Tequila Sunrises beforehand will increase your chances of failure, because you may get carried away by your emotions and write too much. Your job is to be the best version of yourself, and alcohol will not help you with that.
Mistake #3: Blaming and taking offense
It’s hard to keep 33 arguments to yourself that, as it seems to you, convincingly prove how wrong your ex-partner is. So, don’t rush to dump them on him when you meet. Firstly, no one wants to return to a conflict environment, and secondly, a sense of guilt is not very conducive to romance.
A conversation about why you broke up and how to change it is inevitable, but it needs to be conducted with a cool head, after consulting with a psychologist.
Mistake #4: Showing complete indifference
Indifference is a seasoning that, like other manipulation techniques, is good in moderation. Don’t pretend that you don’t give a damn about your ex-partner anymore. He’s not a mind reader and can take your demonstrative indifference at face value. There’s nothing wrong with wishing him a happy birthday or asking how he’s feeling if he posted a selfie from the hospital. Show moderate concern. The key word here is “moderate” (and, of course, mutual, if possible).
Mistake #5: Ignoring Rejection
A common mistake that almost everyone makes. Breaking up is a powerful shock to the body, which sometimes makes us do stupid things: look for reasons to meet, besiege the object of adoration in messengers, and so on.
The ability to pull yourself together and accept a refusal is a useful skill that will save you time and nerves. Give your ex-partner the opportunity to miss you, think about everything, and come to their own conclusions.
In order to get over a breakup as quickly as possible, use a few simple life hacks: stop following your ex on social media, try to get rid of items that remind you of him, and finally, stop spending sleepless nights looking for reasons for the breakup – just stop at the most obvious one.