True signs of toxicity will help you figure out who in your environment is poisoning your existence. Or maybe these points are about you? Then it’s time to get on the path to correction before even your closest ones turn away from you.
They play the “drama queen”
All the tragedies of the world happen to them all the time, and no one can understand what they are going through – at least that’s what they say at the slightest opportunity to attract attention. “Drama queens” know full well that negativity is catchy, they exaggerate their problems and collect others, gushing with the dirtiest news and rumors they can collect. The thirst for pity from such personalities is visible from a mile away, they feed on your emotions as well.
They don’t know how to praise
Have you ever noticed that for some people, saying nice things to you is an impossible challenge? Sure, they might squeeze out a little praise, but they’ll always season the positivity with a caveat that you “have room for improvement,” “you should try harder next time,” or something along those lines. Between completely ignoring your merits and such pseudo-praise, you’ll often want to choose the former. But toxic people simply can’t see the world any other way — you’ll never be good enough for them.
Familiar
This personality trait is most clearly manifested in relation to service personnel, but it is worth remembering that people who are rude to a waiter or a courier usually do not really respect those who seem to them to be of higher status, although they carefully hide this. Even if a toxic person allows himself to be familiar without malicious intent, negativity always haunts him, because others simply do not like being around those who sincerely consider them worthless.
They are deceiving
It’s hard to be a pleasant person to talk to when you’re constantly lying. Sooner or later, the deception will be revealed, and if they don’t turn away from you, they’ll simply stop trusting you and taking your words seriously. When a liar keeps lying to convince someone that they’re right, the toxicity is off the charts. If you regularly encounter this kind of behavior from your loved ones, it’s time to rethink your social circle before you become completely disillusioned with friendships and relationships.
They don’t admit their mistakes
Unwillingness to admit that you are wrong is another common trait of intolerable personalities. The real reason is often perfectionism, which does not justify causing suffering to others. It is impossible to have a normal dialogue with such people, and an argument turns into a real nightmare, because the opponent seems to be blind even to the most reliable facts and obvious arguments. If it is impossible to stop communicating with such a person, just do not waste time on useless discussions.
Selfish
Such people always care only about themselves and in absolutely any situation they seek benefit. This approach seems natural to them, so egoists often consider the dislike of others to be undeserved. And in the most neglected cases they enjoy the misfortunes of others, because this is an opportunity to amuse the ego with a sense of their own superiority. Keep in mind that it is not your job to correct egoists. And earning their sympathy is a laborious task.
Incapable of forgiveness
Toxic people see no contradiction in seeking forgiveness but never forgiving themselves. Such individuals always blame other people, circumstances, bad luck – anything but them. At the same time, they deny their offenders the luxury of blaming external circumstances, reveling in their control over their feelings.
Waiting for a “special invitation”
They don’t like to answer questions (especially the first time) and don’t offer help. In situations where their participation is needed, they’ll prefer to wait for a “special invitation”, even if the need for them is obvious. This makes such people feel needed and is most evident at work, where they are never on the list of favorite colleagues.