Living together sometimes doesn’t resemble the honeymoon period, and at some point your loved one may seem like a complete stranger.
Don’t despair if it’s not too late to get closer: we offer several effective options.
When a couple lives different lives, becoming roommates, eventually there comes a point when there is nothing to talk about, because it is easier to remain silent than to immerse your partner in the context. Instead of starting a serious conversation about the relationship, try regularly asking how their day went, and do not accept monosyllabic answers. Exchange what happened during the short separation – what food you tried, who you argued with, what idea came to your mind. Motivate your partner to share their impressions of the day in return.
Listen to the recommendations.
Perhaps the mention of a book, movie, TV series or music album wasn’t even a direct recommendation to you – all the better. Write down the names of projects that interest your man and get to know them when the opportunity arises. Perhaps you’ll discover new points of contact and understand your partner better. In the end, he’ll be pleasantly surprised that you’re attentive to his preferences, show interest and are ready to keep up the conversation. Discussing pop culture products is one of the easiest ways to get on the same page.
Go back to the roots.
You can get to know someone better even after years of dating by traveling back in time. You won’t need a time machine — just tickets to their hometown (or a taxi to their childhood neighborhood). As a last resort, you can explore your significant other’s hometown remotely, using online maps. Ask your partner to describe their life growing up — favorite places, maybe a special dish at a cafe they wanted to order over and over again. The idea is to understand how this experience shaped your significant other, and not just out of idle curiosity.
Prepare dinner.
Perhaps everyone has a favorite dish. Use this information to your advantage – arrange a special evening. The main thing is not to overdo it – candles and rose petals can only emphasize the gap between you. Warn that you plan to cook something delicious, and specify what time dinner will be on the table. You can decide in advance what movie you have long wanted to watch, or, for example, agree that over tea and cakes you can calmly decide where to go on vacation. The more time you spend together in a comfortable environment, the better.
Ask him for advice.
It is pleasant for any person to realize their own value in the eyes of others. In addition, when you ask your partner for advice, it allows them to better understand what worries you and what problems you are facing. At the same time, you do not complain, but are ready to act – this is important. No matter how the roles are distributed in the family, it is important for a man to feel needed. And the habit of discussing problems allows you to remain open to each other even when you return home in a bad mood.
Throw something tasty into your pocket or bag.
This method may seem a bit childish and frivolous, but adults can enjoy sweets no less than children. By the way, the surprise does not necessarily have to be sweet – the main thing is that it can be used during the day, immediately after discovery. It can be not only a snack, but also a drink – a can of juice, for example, or a packet of protein shake. Do not be afraid to look silly – this manifestation of care and attention will not go unnoticed.
Join forces for a common cause.
Perhaps you have long wanted to do repairs yourself, thought about volunteering or even a family business – the main thing is that the project equally inspires both of you. A kind of team building will never hurt in family life – in the process of work, you will have to find an approach to each other and join forces for a worthy result. As an option – join a sports club, but keep in mind that it is advisable to play for the same team.