Why do people reach out to some people, while others can only suffer from loneliness? Don’t rush to blame the injustice of others – perhaps they are repelled by your bad habits.
The habit of focusing on yourself
Full communication always involves exchange – at least attention. Instead of wondering what’s wrong with you, try to show concern for others: who you can easily help or do something nice for. Just not in the format of a favor – no one asked you for it. As naive as it may sound, doing good deeds from the heart is the most effective way to take a “cold” relationship to a new level. And being fixated on yourself coupled with silence will only scare people away.
The habit of avoiding responsibility
It’s okay to make a mistake, everyone has unfortunate misunderstandings. It’s much worse when you, knowing you’re wrong, try to shift the blame onto others and are unable to openly admit your mistake and draw conclusions. For those who like to shift their responsibility onto others, we have bad news: no one wants to become a scapegoat and communicate with a person who denies the obvious. So don’t expect to have many friends.
The habit of forgetting promises
It is better to promise nothing at all than to promise and forget. A couple of broken promises and trust is gone. Want to improve your relationships with people? Take your commitments seriously, even small ones. Becoming a man of your word is easy: first, don’t agree to do anything you don’t intend to do. This strategy will help you gain the respect and trust of others. Otherwise, you will be known as a chatterbox and an unreliable person who is best avoided.
The habit of refusing invitations
Online correspondence cannot replace time spent together in the real world. If you have experienced a lack of communication, pay more attention to invitations; even the most unattractive ones at first glance may not be so scary. For example, you don’t have to drink alcohol at a party, and you don’t have to run a marathon when jogging. Be yourself and openly talk about your preferences; most often, they don’t interfere with having a good time. And then you see, there will be someone to invite to have fun on your terms.
The habit of arrogance
We all want our achievements to be appreciated and given due attention. At the same time, emphasizing your successes in every possible way is at least tactless, and at most inappropriate, especially when it comes to working in a team. If everyone “advertises” their own achievements instead of doing the work, there will be no time to work. Let truly outstanding results speak for you, and not endless bragging. If you sincerely put yourself above others, people will notice it, so do not expect their favor.
The habit of pestering
The only thing worse than a lack of initiative is over-activity. No one wants to find themselves in an awkward situation. Any proposal only needs to be voiced once – when people want something, they do not delay with the answer and do not look for reasons to ignore you. If you are not ready to hear a refusal and believe that persistence will help the matter, then it will not take long to develop a reputation as a “sticky one”. People will start avoiding you like the plague. After all, everyone will know: once they talk to you, you will not leave them alone.
The habit of “filtering” people
Life experience allows you to decide what is good and what is bad… for you. Don’t apply your personal standard to everyone – on the contrary, communicating with your opposite, you will learn much more than from your exact “copy”. Does it matter whether a person eats meat or what he drinks at a party? Even if it is carrot juice – personal preferences are not an obstacle to communication, do not judge others. The ability to accept and understand other people’s peculiarities will bring you loyal friends.