The following 8 phrases are important to remove from conversations forever. Even if your parents told you so, this family wisdom should not be passed on to the younger generation, so as not to harm.
“It’s for the holiday”
Just 10-15 years ago, many families still kept crystal for a special occasion, which, however, never came. On the one hand, the sets survived, but on the other, they became useless. Perhaps it was worth taking a risk and allowing yourself to throw royal feasts all these years? Putting off good things for later is the psychology of poverty. If a child wants to wear a smart dress or dress pants, do not deny him the pleasure and do not scold him for his “loose lips”. Otherwise, there is a risk of instilling the belief that enduring poverty from holiday to holiday is the only correct life scenario.
We don’t have money for this”
Of course, children do not worry about the household and do not offer to buy you a new vacuum cleaner or do minor repairs. And therefore, children’s requests to buy a new toy are often ignored as nonsense. While you buy everything you need one way or another, the child only hears: “no money.” And at the same time, he gets used to the idea that without millions in the account, it is impossible to get what you want in this world. Of course, you do not need to buy everything. Just do not miss the opportunity to teach your child financial literacy. Explain which toy you have money for now, and which one you can buy a little later if you do not spend the money now.
There is nothing of yours here”
This phrase is far from the most environmentally friendly way to show who is the boss. Parental authority is built on respect, not humiliation. By telling children that nothing in this world belongs to them, you are essentially teaching them hopelessness and the status of a weak-willed victim. With such an upbringing, it will be extremely difficult to learn how to earn money. In addition, a child who lives “on credit” from his own family will try to leave the parental home as soon as possible – are you sure you want this?
“The little one still thinks about money”
Financial literacy is a discipline that should be taught from childhood. But some parents believe that money is not a child’s business. As a result, a teenager who finally gets access to pocket money does not know how to manage it at all. It is not too early to think about money, it is just that the amounts are different in childhood. Give a piggy bank, explain how you can earn money. And many banks also offer children’s plastic cards that are controlled by parents. The experience of realistically handling money will help the child not to make financial mistakes in the future.
You won’t achieve anything like this.”
You may not fully agree with the decisions of your heirs, but you are not a hereditary fortune teller, are you? A child can succeed without your approval. Alas, even a huge life experience will not help to accurately predict the situation in a rapidly changing world. If children make mistakes, let it be an inspiring experience for them, and not a reason to harbor a mortal grudge against you. It is better to take an interest in the motivation of the younger generation – everything will become clear to you, just ask!
“We didn’t live richly, so there’s no point in starting.”
Jokes aside, does your child understand your irony? Not only do you directly suppress the desire for wealth, but you also manage to instill in your child that you live poorly and that this is normal. At the same time, your income may be above average, but the child will learn the lesson and, at best, will be content with what they have, without making any attempts to improve their financial situation.
Where do such requests come from?”
The richest people in the world could work another day, but most of them continue to do business, invest, and give money to charity. Why don’t they just stop? Because they know that there are no limits. Much of what seemed unattainable a few decades ago is now available to everyone. Does your child have big demands? Rejoice! And tell me how to make your dreams come true.
“Money is earned through sweat and blood”
Tell that to TikTokers! The world has changed. And if earlier the way to take a place in the sun was obvious and included higher education, today almost all the knowledge in the world is available for free on the Internet. And, for example, many professionals in other fields can envy the salary of a self-taught IT specialist. You can and should work for pleasure – do not burden your child with your own career failures if you go to work through I can not.