Our inner monologue can tell us a lot about the state of our relationship with our partner. Experts tell us which of our frequent thoughts and feelings can be signs of serious problems in the relationship.
In a healthy relationship, partners feel relaxed and at ease with each other. Everyone can just be themselves.
If you often feel tense with your partner, constantly afraid of making a wrong move, then there are clearly problems in your relationship that are most likely being hushed up. In such a state, it is very difficult for us to show our best qualities – both in relationships and in other areas.
It is advisable to deal with this problem as soon as possible. It is important to establish a healthy and constructive dialogue with your partner , try to identify hidden problems and understand how they can be solved.
2. “I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY HIS (HER) MOOD CHANGES.”
Mood swings happen to everyone. In healthy relationships, partners usually have a good sense of when and why the other’s mood may change. In such a couple, each understands and knows how to regulate their own emotions (and thus, indirectly, the emotions of the other). Normally, our brains learn from childhood to build emotional connections with others through mutual trust.
In unhealthy relationships, mood swings between partners seem sudden and frightening. In this case, it is extremely important to learn to better understand each other’s feelings, otherwise the situation in the relationship may only worsen over time.
3. “I FEEL LIKE WE ARE DRIFTING APART.”
In a dysfunctional relationship, there is alienation and uncertainty. Of course, the level of emotional closeness can fluctuate from time to time in any couple. But if you constantly worry that you and your partner are drifting apart, it may be a sign of relationship problems.
4. “I AM NOT SURE OF HIS (HER) FIDELITY”
In a healthy, strong relationship, both partners feel like they are “in the same boat.” There may be slight hints of jealousy, but in the vast majority of cases, they have no reason to doubt each other’s fidelity.
Constant worry about your partner’s possible infidelity is an unhealthy state. It depresses us and prevents us from living, working, and communicating fully. Remember that healthy relationships should give us energy, not take it away.
5. “I THINK IF I CHEATED, SHE (HE) WOULDN’T CARE.”
If we have a close emotional connection with our partner, any betrayal (such as cheating) is felt with the strongest emotional pain. But if you understand that your possible infidelity would not cause your partner strong feelings, this shows that you are not really very close to him. We instinctively want to protect a close connection from any dangers and encroachments.