For those who are already in a relationship, this is a reason to spend romantic leisure time together, and for those who have not yet found their partner, we advise you to take a closer look at your surroundings. Coco Chanel said that a man capable of action is doomed to be loved. Every woman has her own ideal in her head, but the image we have drawn in our heads does not always correspond to our expectations. It is so easy, having fallen in love, to mistake wishful thinking for reality. And then, not all men are psychologically ready to create not only a family, but even just a strong relationship. How then to find your Mr. Darcy? We will tell you what traits real men have.
He has his own rules of life.
Pay attention to a man who acts independently, without regard for the opinions of colleagues, friends and relatives. He may be interested in their thoughts, but he builds his life the way he sees fit. He is happy with his choice and does not chase fashion and other people’s approval. After talking to him, you can feel that he has his own philosophy of life, which was formed under the influence of experience, meetings with people and books he has read. This is an independent and self-sufficient person in every sense.
He is an expert in some field
He has his own interests and aspiration for self-development. It is not so important for him to accumulate literacy as to learn new things. Curiosity and openness to new things allow him to be a professional in his field. It is always interesting to talk to him, even if he likes solitude. He is not a recluse, but is focused enough to see things through to the end. Earning money is also important to him, since it allows him to be free in his desires and realize his potential.
He has a great sense of humor.
Still from the film “The Story of Us”
Even if he is a lone wolf by nature who does not like to be in the company of people, you can hear funny stories from him. Moreover, he can make his interlocutors laugh, despite the stony expression on his face. He calmly takes jokes at his expense and can take a punch beautifully. At the same time, he does not make a laughing stock of himself and does not allow others to assert themselves at his expense.
He is not in a victim state.
Still from the film “P.S. I Love You”
Bernard Shaw said that “the most important thing is to put things in order in the soul. We observe three “no’s”: do not complain, do not blame, do not justify.” These are the rules that a psychologically mature man adheres to. He does not blame anyone for his failures, but draws conclusions and moves on. Such a person is happy with his life, and if something goes wrong, he simply changes it. He knows how to ask for forgiveness, but does not seek justification for his actions, especially in front of those who do not deserve it.
He keeps his word
Still from the film “Thor”
If a man makes a promise and keeps it, then he is a worthy person. If not, then his word is hardly worth much. A real man does not live in illusions, but directly declares his intentions. If he decides to do something, he will see it through to the end. Because he is a responsible person and is ready to bear the consequences of the decisions he makes.
Manages your mood
Everyone has bad days, but a real man will put a good face on a bad one. He will act as if nothing has happened, so that those close to him will not even guess that at the moment he is solving some problems. Of course, he needs support, but he will never take his anger out on people. If your boyfriend behaves aggressively towards you, children or animals, you should think about whether it is safe to be with him. Perhaps a person with an unstable psyche will be a threat to you, so it is better to choose a partner who can take control of his emotions.
Doesn’t envy other people’s successes
Of course, he is interested in people’s achievements and strives to one day show himself in his work, but he does not suffer from the fact that someone is superior to him in something. For him, other people’s successes are an incentive for self-development, and not a reason for depression, envy and negativity. He does not devalue the efforts of others and knows how to praise for decent work, because he himself values his work, but he does not get hung up on comparing his life with someone else’s. He simply enjoys his existence. It can be noted that such a person will always support his girlfriend’s plans and aspirations for self-development, and will not belittle her dignity out of fear of being a weak link. At the same time, he will find a way to fulfill his desires, even if somewhere they go against his schedule or affairs.
He admits his mistakes.
You are very lucky if your man knows how to behave correctly in conflict situations. Let’s start with the fact that any disagreements are a reason to improve the quality of life so that you both feel comfortable together. Therefore, a person who avoids sorting out the relationship is actually worried not about you, but about himself. A psychologically mature man is determined to make sure that everyone in the relationship is happy. Therefore, he offers his solution and, if necessary, is ready to admit that he was wrong and ask for forgiveness. At the same time, he does not feel humiliated and insulted: he is simply calm in his soul that everything ended well.
He doesn’t give in to provocations.
A real man is ready to make concessions to his beloved woman, but will not allow himself to be manipulated. He does not fall for cheap provocations, especially if he is forgiven for proving his feelings by buying something. He respects himself and the lady of his heart, so he behaves with dignity. Moreover, such a person will not even get involved in an argument and prove something, and will make it clear by his behavior that you cannot behave like that with him. But, of course, he knows how to please his woman. He does not need a reason for this. If a person is overly generous with gifts, you should think about whether he is simply buying a good attitude towards himself (and does this with everyone, and not only with you).
He knows how to court beautifully
A psychologically mature man knows how to please a woman. And this knowledge is not given from birth and does not come with experience. He simply knows how to listen. He asks questions, is interested and notices everything. Such a person tries to touch the heartstrings of his lady love first, and only then move on to intimacy. Therefore, he has time to get to know his girlfriend well enough to please her and turn her head with his courtship. At the same time, he also makes it clear what he wants from the relationship, tracking her reaction. If a man suddenly discovers an unsightly truth about his girlfriend, then he simply neglected to collect information at the initial stage of the relationship, and therefore failed.