Imagine a sexual experience that gives you mind-blowing orgasms and, in addition, provides a deep knowledge of yourself, in addition to several other benefits. It seems impossible, but believe me, it happens in real life. It is the yoni massage , an oriental treatment that seeks to connect the woman to her inner sensual nature, resulting in a feeling of complete well-being, satisfaction and contentment. Are you interested? So come with me and I’ll tell you all about this massage and how it can help you in your sex life.
In today’s text we will talk about:
- The Yoni Massage
- Orgasm is a consequence
- Who is it for?
- Why should you practice?
- Yoni massage for the couple
- How to do yoni massage as a couple
- How to do the yoni massage alone
The Yoni Massage
I usually read a lot about oriental treatments and I always find their concept of sacred sexuality very interesting. It is an age-old idea that is not very common here in the West that treats a woman’s body – particularly her vagina – with a sense of adoration.
Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina and loosely translated means “sacred space”. In tantric philosophy, the vagina is seen as a place of the greatest love and respect. Yoni massage is a practice designed to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure and to explore the sacred side of our sexuality.
Orgasm is a consequence
The first thing you need to know about yoni massage: the goal is not orgasm. It is a consequence of the experience that women go through during treatment. Through yoni massage, you will feel more and more pleasure that will become waves of multiple orgasms. You can practice the massage alone or with a partner, either as masturbation or as foreplay.
Who is it for?
This massage allows you to slowly explore your body in a more sensual way. It can also help women who already have orgasms to achieve multiple orgasms . It can help in the healing process of women who have suffered sexual traumas in the past because approach and technique make them feel loved, loved, worshiped and honored.
Yoni massage helps women learn to trust their partners and enables them to regain control over their own sexuality. Anyone can benefit from the yoni massage. All women, regardless of sexual history, benefit from getting in touch with their own excitement and learning to trust their partners with their most intimate spaces. Men benefit from becoming familiar with their partners’ bodies and sexual responses and learning to touch women in a generous and honorable way. Yoni massage is not gender specific, and partners of all sexual orientations can benefit from the bond and trust it provides.
Why should you practice?
Practice strengthens your connection to your yoni (your vagina) and allows you to start loving it in a liberating way. Why is it important? You may not be aware, but your yoni can store old memories and traumatic experiences, manifesting in numb and painful areas within you.
Massaging these points can help you release and set aside old traumas, trapped emotions and confusing past experiences that can still prevent you from opening completely.
Yoni massage for the couple
You need to be able to trust the most intimate part of your body, so the key to yoni massage is that the woman is always in control. Your partner’s job is to listen to your verbal and non-verbal cues. It is up to the partner to ask questions, observe body language, breathing patterns and facial expressions and encourage women to express themselves. In turn, the woman needs to be open and honest with her feelings and communicate fully with her partner.
Open communication serves two purposes: teaching the partner about the woman’s sexual response and enabling the woman to take control of her sexuality. In doing so, the woman will understand that, even in the hands of another person, she still has control over her sexual response. That she can open up and trust her partner to respect her needs.
How to do yoni massage as a couple
The yoni massage must be done in a comfortable and safe space and the area must be free of distractions and interruptions. Play soothing and relaxing music if you wish.
Before starting, the couple should look into each other’s eyes while engaging in deep, relaxed and synchronized breathing. This is a type of “tantric foreplay” in which the couple forms an emotional and spiritual bond. Both men and women must remember to continue breathing deeply, slowly and with relaxation throughout the process.
When both are ready to start the massage, the woman is lying on her back with a pillow under her head and another under her hips to raise her pelvis. She bends her knees and spreads her legs to expose her yoni. The man should sit comfortably between his legs with his legs crossed.
He should start by massaging other parts of the body to encourage you to relax. Gently, but firmly, massage your legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing in the direction of the yoni. Then massage the pubic bone area and then move to the inner thigh area. This movement must be done at least nine times. Then, with the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of Tantra), apply an oil or lubricant pouring just enough so that it runs down the outer lips and covers the outside of the yoni.
Then, gently rub the oil on the yoni’s outer lips at least nine times. With your thumb and forefinger, you should gently squeeze each lip of the yoni, sliding your fingers up and down the entire length of each lip. Then, repeat this process carefully with each inner lip of the vagina.
The next step is to caress the clitoris in circular movements, clockwise and counterclockwise. Then squeeze the clitoris between your thumb and index finger. Then, slowly and very carefully, insert your middle finger into the yoni.
During the massage, the woman may have powerful emotions and cry. If she has an orgasm, the massage should continue. More orgasms can occur, each gaining intensity. In Tantra this is called “riding the wave”. Many women can learn to be multi-orgasmic with yoni massage and a patient partner.
The man should continue to massage until she tells him to stop. Very slowly, gently and with respect, he must remove his hands. The yoni massage creates a space for the woman to relax and enter a state of high excitement and feel great pleasure.
After the massage
A yoni massage can last a few minutes or a few hours. In the end, both partners can experience a range of emotional and physical sensations and need time to recover from the experience. He should finish the massage slowly and gently, allowing his partner to relax and enjoy the after effects of the massage. You can also cover it with blankets to keep warm, and warmth is highly encouraged.
How to do the yoni massage alone
Start by touching your body
Use the oil and slowly pay attention to your breasts, your belly and your inner thighs. When you feel ready, move your hands to the vulva. Start with long, slow strokes on the outer lips. Lubricate your fingers if you want. Move them from the top of the outer lips, through the vaginal opening, along the perineum and over the buttocks. Use these long, precise movements with firm, comfortable pressure whenever you experience anxiety, distraction, or a lot of headache.
If you experience pain, numbness or tension
Stop for a moment in the painful or numb area. To release the pain point, take a deep breath and press the spot lightly while you release your breath. Again, go slow. Do not press too hard; press hard enough to feel the release. While doing this, keep breathing and push the pelvic floor muscles a little bit, as if giving birth to a baby. Again, all of these movements are gentle, but firm.
If you have painful memories
Some of us have traumas stored in our yoni, even those of us who have not been abused or assaulted. Sometimes there is just an accumulation of energy, or maybe we had a lot of sex when our heads were ready, but our bodies were not (often this is felt as a burning sensation in the yoni). If you have painful memories, know that the work you are doing can heal what needs to be healed.
If you feel pleasure and ecstasy
Keep going slowly. Do not rush into your personal pleasure or masturbation. Take a deep breath, continue to make sounds, move your hips. You can have an orgasm, of course, but do your best to relax with this massage, instead of wanting to climax right away. Very slowly, make your way into your vagina.
Calm is the secret
Feel very slowly with your fingers. Feel the bottom, the right side, the top and the left. Move your fingers slowly to the bottom (the side that is closest to your butt), with plenty of lubricant. Feel the sensations. Where is there pleasure? Where is there pain or numbness? When you find numbness or pain, pause, breathe and press. Just like a back massage (just don’t go crazy with intense pressure – imagine that you are lovingly massaging a person you love deeply and, after all, that’s right!).
Work your way up and around your vagina, going as far as your fingers can reach, or as far as you are comfortable. For some women it can be a little strange to feel inside the vagina. It may seem strange, suffocating, this is all normal. Try not to judge while playing. Much of this feeling of estrangement is based on the deep shame that women generally feel around their genitals.
- Working with the clitoris: many of us experience pain around the clitoris. When touching it, use the same techniques. Go slow. Breathe, move your hips, make sounds. Use plenty of oil.
- Working with the G-spot: To find the G-spot, bend your first two fingers like the letter C and slide them into the vagina. You will feel a piece of soft, spongy skin behind the clitoris. You can massage it by making a movement with your curved fingers. Vary between fast and slow movements. You can also tickle the clitoris simultaneously or put pressure on or above the pubic bone.
Ending with self-love
Close your exploration with one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly. Breathe deeply and recognize and honor yourself for the time and effort you put into self-healing. If you have time, do something for yourself, like taking a hot, relaxing bath.
Treating your body as sacred may sound strange, but it can be a good way to overcome some sexual problems and even get out of the relationship routine. Let go of your fears and prejudices! The yoni massage can help you in a process of self-discovery and you will still get many free orgasms. Talk to your partner about the idea of trying this practice or start an individual journey of self-discovery. In both cases, you will only win.