It is happening as with all taboos: just a hint and Pandora’s boxes are opened. Here’s what they say on social media, among us menopausal women.
In this post we will talk about:
- Social women’s groups on menopause: sharing helps to overcome discomfort
- Because on social media in menopausal women’s groups there is so much talk about sex
- What is said (and not said) about sex in social groups dedicated to menopause
- Yes to groups of women on social networks to confide and discuss but the opinion of the gynecologist is necessary
- If menopausal sex is difficult, your gynecologist can help you
Scrolling through the most well-known social networks (Facebook among all) and going to browse the groups of women in menopause, you can also check this thing: there is a lot of talk about sex . Of difficulties, of small “hitches” due to dryness or pain , of fears that these difficulties may spill over into the couple’s harmony , of questions about what to do. Shocked? You certainly also know that there are now many women over 50 who surf the Internet and social networks every day .
So even menopause has become an increasingly sought-after topic on the net and the motivation is simple: women, like you, want a comparison, they are looking for answers that perhaps – at times – are afraid or ashamed to turn to the gynecologist . Therefore, the research is aimed at all-female information sites .
There is a lot of talk about it, but how many ladies are willing to talk frankly and publicly admit that menopause changes intimacy ? How many, on the other hand, are those who pretend to continue a normal intimate life giving it to shame and embarrassment overcome? The vast majority! We investigated and took a spin on the net for you.
Social women’s groups on menopause: sharing helps to overcome discomfort
Social groups dedicated to menopause are not always just a “pastime”. If well managed, on the contrary, they can be an outlet for many women struggling with such a delicate season of their lives, as well as a source of valuable information: we are not talking about medical advice, which only the gynecologist or a specialist they can give , but small “tips” to better deal with everyday life.
Confronting with others, in fact, can be a stimulus and encouragement to welcome the changes in the body and mind (but also in love and in the couple relationship) that menopause can bring with it. Finding out that you are not alone but that certain ailments are common to many other women is the best way to bring any problem back to the right level.
Furthermore, sharing also helps not to withdraw into oneself out of shame and excessive reserve. A rather frequent condition that can sometimes be so severe as to cause a situation of isolation and psychological distress in menopause .
Because on social media in menopausal women’s groups there is so much talk about sex
Even if today menopause is no longer a taboo subject, social networks further help to tear the veil on a very delicate aspect at the end of the fertile age: sex. Until a few years ago, the matter was cloaked in a veil of the unspoken that left very little room for analysis. End of the breeding season was equal to closure of the intimacy argument. Of course it never was , even if it wasn’t mentioned.
Beyond personal beliefs, silence on the subject certainly has its roots in the fact that in menopause intimacy can be affected by intimate discomfort and annoyance so much that it becomes more difficult , in some cases it can lead to considering sex a “discourse closed”. This is a big mistake: it is often enough to have the will to solve the problems that day by day lead you more and more to escape from the pampering of your partner. Having a satisfying intimate life in menopause can (and must) : it is enough to take care of your body and your intimacy. To do this successfully, however, it is essential to count on an ally: the gynecologist .
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What is said (and not said) about sex in social groups dedicated to menopause
Behind the anonymity of a screen and a keyboard, it seems easier to deal with certain speeches because there is no real interlocutor in front of you. So many women “free themselves” more easily, they throw themselves into questions they would never have had the courage to ask. It is no coincidence that groups of postmenopausal women often become the only place for heartfelt “confessions” capable of giving relief and stimulating discussion.
Social media therefore become a sort of “privileged observatory” because the only channels of communication capable of breaking the silence on certain issues and having a kind of comfort from the common pain . Not surprisingly, the gynecologist Alessandra Graziottin , one of the leading experts in menopause and sexology, speaks in her texts of a “submerged in pain” that negatively affects the quality of life of the woman and the couple.
Here’s what women talk about most in social groups dedicated to menopause, without ever (or almost) finding the courage to tell their experiences:
- Vaginal dryness
- Pain and discomfort during intercourse (dyspareunia)
- Decreased desire and difficulty responding to the partner’s wishes
- Difficulty achieving pleasure
- Couple crisis and fear that the thinning out of intimate relationships (for many reasons including disorders, pain and desire) could play a role in a possible betrayal or estrangement of the partner.
- This is our page with some stories of women and couple’s life related to the difficulty of talking about intimate discomforts in menopause .
Yes to groups of women on social networks to confide and discuss but the opinion of the gynecologist is necessary
We can talk about these topics, and do it in a homogeneous environment, as a social group of postmenopausal women can really help to relieve the heart of certain discomforts that seem like boulders and then discover that they concern 9 out of 10 women over 50 is the case of vaginal dryness ). Just like the “old” self-help groups, a social community can be a support between peers, between women who feel alone in front of their difficulties and who can find real relief in sharing. Sometimes these groups can play down complicated situations and even elicit a laugh when dealing with certain intimate problems with an appropriate sense of humor.
Everything is fine, then, but on one condition : to find the solution to the inconveniences we have talked about and which perhaps you have also talked about on social networks, you must also discuss with the gynecologist . Never get confused: other women can be your confidants and give you the moral support you are looking for but they cannot in any way substitute for the doctor. The specialist is the only one who can assess your state of health and identify suitable treatments for you .
If menopausal sex is difficult, your gynecologist can help you
There is a lot that can be done to successfully manage the most common discomforts related to menopause, most of the time destined to disappear once your body has settled on its new hormonal structure and body and mind will have found their balance. .
This, however, should not lead you to neglect yourself waiting for “it to pass” because in one out of two cases, some of the most frequent annoyances linked to the disappearance of the menstrual cycle are something more than the physiological consequence of a reduced hormonal production. Vaginal dryness, intimate itching , pain in intercourse and blood loss , in fact, could be the symptoms of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy .
It is a chronic and progressive condition (if left untreated it can worsen over time) that affects 50% of postmenopausal women and causes thinning of the vaginal and vulvar tissues making them more fragile and less elastic