“The first step of existentialism is to put each man before what he is and to make him take total responsibility for his existence. Man is responsible for himself.”
Sartre
We live in a society dominated by the ideal of possibility. Everything is possible, if only you want to do it. What you are, as existentialism claims, is a consequence of your ability to choose . In this scenario, feeling anguish in front of a choice is natural. It is theanguishwhich comes from the responsibility we have to build ourselves.
Why is it so difficult for us to choose?
Having many options is intoxicating, it gives the impression of having the world at your fingertips. Like when we enter a gigantic supermarket, with thousands of brightly colored, shiny and similar products: the first few minutes we will feel euphoric, then little by little we may realize that we no longer remember what we were looking for. We have lost sight of the reason why we entered the supermarket, what was the need that pushed us there. This happens because the purchasing options we have are too many compared to our brain’s capacity to process them. Leaving the supermarket, perhaps we will realize that we bought products that we didn’t need and that we forgot the bread, which is why we left home to do the shopping.
The first impact of having many choices is a sense of freedom : there is no constraint, no limit to what we could do. Shortly after, however, confusion can set in: what position to take, faced with all my possibilities? The weight of our responsibility crushes us: what if I make a mistake? What if I realize that the choice I made is not for me? Who could I become, making one choice or the other?
Choosing is a difficult activity for anyone. Especially for those who did not have parents who were able to recognize them in their individuality and needs. These people have a damaged internal compass that leads them to choose. They may find themselves asking for numerous advice from the people around them , without ever understanding which is the right choice for them.
Why is it important to ask for help when we have to make important choices?
If you find yourself in a moment of life in which you have to make important decisions for your future , such as moving in together, getting married, having a child, moving cities, and many others, a psychological support program can help you make the best decision for you. The purpose of a psychological support program oriented to decision-making is to create a space free from external or internal influences in which your authentic needs can emerge. Thetherapistwill mirror your experience of each of the possible options that you find before you, so that you can see and explore them. You will explore the desires and conflicts that bind you to each of the possible choices and create the space to listen to what you need at that precise moment in your life.
The orientation interview is another useful tool if you have to make decisions about starting a study or career path. The orientation interview is a consultation that develops your ability to plan the future, in terms that are satisfactory for you and realistic in terms of feasibility. It is an interview that, within a space free from internal and external constraints that can influence you, supports you in the authentic search for your interests. Once identified, it helps you to develop and realize what is most similar to your abilities, aspirations andMotivations. The purpose of the orientation interview is to bring out your planning skills and increase your belief that you are up to the tasks you propose.