When your child does not want to see someone, understand why

To understand your children, you must always keep intuition in mind, you cannot miss it! Intuition is part of your motherhood and should always be present in any type of communication with your children. There will be times in your children’s lives when you find yourself not wanting to see certain people, whether they are family members or not. Perhaps one of your children tells you that he does not want to see a specific uncle or his grandparents.

Most likely, your first reaction is to try to convince him that he has to see them for whatever reasons. You want them to change their mind so that you can reestablish family peace and maybe even once you force them to say hello and give a kiss or a hug to people they don’t really love. Why force them? For complying with social rules? It is better to understand what is happening to find the best solution depending on each specific case.

When they don’t want to kiss

All children can reach an age when they are more reluctant to give kisses and hugs and do not want to do it whenever they are asked or when “it is the right thing to do”. They may also stop wanting to spend time with certain relatives … But pressuring them to live together and show love when they do not want to, is a mistake that should not be made.

Forcing them to do these things will not make them more sociable, but rather more vulnerable to the development of complacent behaviors, which can put them at risk in the future. Risky situations as dangerous as sexual or even psychological abuse. Therefore, never force a child to give kisses or hugs, if he does not want to do it, simply respect that and then talk to him or her.

Always seek respect

Respect is what can never be lacking under any circumstances. Neither the respect of children for adults nor that of adults for children. Children need to be taught to be respectful but not forced to show love just to please others when they really don’t want to.

In this sense, it is necessary to teach children, from the time they are young, that they have control of the choices and control over their body and in the interactions they have with other people. In this way, they will learn that they have the absolute right to decide what to do and with whom. They will feel that they are in control and that it is not others who decide for them. If you force them to do something they do not want constantly, you will only be canceling their personality with the risk that that entails.

In addition to the importance of respect for others, respect for oneself cannot be forgotten. It is essential to teach children to value themselves positively and that in this way, they are capable of respecting themselves and taking care of themselves no matter what others think or say.

What to do when they don’t want to say hello

If your son or daughter doesn’t want to greet others, you must first respect their decision not to. But then you need to talk to him or her to find out what is happening for that type of attitude that he or she shows. If he tells you that he is not comfortable around a particular person, you have to believe him and find out what may be happening.

Maybe nothing is happening that you have to worry about, but maybe it is. What is necessary is that you know what happens if your child is in an uncomfortable situation or if he feels vulnerable for any reason. In this sense, your intuition will be a powerful tool to detect if, for example, your child is suffering some kind of mistreatment or abuse.

You are the home of your children

Your children must trust you above anyone else in the world. You are their home, their safest place in the world. If you think they are in danger, they should know that you will always do everything possible to defend and protect them. Make your children understand that under any circumstance, whatever it may be … they can always count on you, no matter what happens! You will always believe them.

 

by Abdullah Sam
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