1. “I lack something to be happy.”
Every mistake and difficulty has a message. But some people miss it because they are too busy beating themselves up and worrying about trivial things.
To be upset about what you don’t have is to waste what you do have. The happiest people are rarely the luckiest. They may not have the best of everything in life, but they make the best of what it offers.
Many people give up precisely because they focus on what they lack and how much more they need to do to achieve their goal. Instead, you should focus on what you already have and the path you have already taken.
2. “My dreams are not destined to come true”
Don’t let people who gave up on their dreams get in your way. The best thing you can do in life is to listen to your intuition .
Don’t be afraid to take calculated risks, and don’t choose safer, easier options out of fear that things won’t work out. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting the same results.
Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions speak louder than your words. Do something every day that you will thank yourself for in the future.
3. “I’m stuck in relationships with people who hurt me.”
Life is too short, so take care of yourself. If someone is constantly treating you badly, set boundaries in communication out of respect for yourself. It will hurt, but in time it will pass.
Often we leave not because we are weak, but because we are strong. And we end relationships not so that others will realize our value, but because we finally understand that we deserve better.
4. “I wasted my time on a failed relationship.”
Some people are not meant to stay in our lives for long, but that doesn’t mean relationships with them were a waste of time.
When we don’t get what we want, we learn what we don’t want. We rarely lose friends – we just gradually learn which ones are real. Don’t demand that others make room for you in their lives. Because those who understand your value will do it themselves.
Remember that when things are going well, our friends know who we are, and when things are going bad, we know who our friends are.
5. “It will never get better”
There is no person who handles every challenge perfectly. That would be contrary to human nature. Humans are designed to be upset, sad, burned, stumbled, and fallen. Because that is part of life – to face problems, learn to deal with them, adapt to them, and eventually solve them. It is this process that shapes us into the individuals we become.
When you find yourself isolated and it seems like you’ll never find your way out of the darkness, imagine a caterpillar in a cocoon growing wings. Just because you’re having a bad day today doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be the best day of your life. You just have to get to that tomorrow.
6. “Failure is bad”
Sometimes you have to fail a hundred times before you succeed. No matter how many mistakes you make and how slowly you move towards your goal , you are still far ahead of those who do not even try.
Don’t dwell on one failed attempt, or you’ll miss out on opportunities for all the others. Think of all your ideas that didn’t work as stepping stones to the one that does. And remember: failure isn’t about falling down, it’s about not getting up and continuing to act.
7. “Everything good will come to me by itself”
In many ways, we are who we choose to be. No one is going to come and save us, we must save ourselves. No one owes us anything, we must earn everything we need. No one knows what we want, and no one but us will regret what we did not get.
So don’t leave the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket and wait for someone else to provide you with the perfect life. Become its creator yourself. The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the better you will be able to create the future you want.
8. “My past determines my future”
We have all made mistakes. We have been lied to, taken advantage of, forgotten about. We have accepted bad treatment that we did not deserve. But we should not regret it, because the wrong choices teach us a lot. We understand who we can trust and who we cannot. We learn what true friendship is. We learn to see when people are lying and when they are being sincere. We find ourselves and begin to appreciate truly wonderful people when they appear in our lives.
Even though some things can’t be fixed and some people will never apologize , we now know what to do better next time.
9. “I don’t need to meet new people.”
It sounds harsh, but you won’t be able to keep everyone you’ve ever made in your life. People and priorities change. While some relationships grow, others fade. Appreciate every opportunity to make new connections when old ones naturally fade. Trust your decisions. Be willing to step into uncharted territory and explore it boldly when you meet new people . Some of these people may change your life forever.
10. “I can’t live without those who are gone.”
If someone came into your life and changed it for the better, and then for whatever reason left you, don’t resist the change. Be grateful that your paths crossed and you were happy together, even if it was for a short time.
Life is about change. People do come and go . Some come back, some don’t, and that’s okay. Just because someone left doesn’t mean you have to forget about those who stayed. Appreciate what you have and remember what was with a smile.
11. “I’m not ready for change because I’m not good enough yet.”
No one feels 100% prepared when a great opportunity to make a difference comes along. Because most of these opportunities force us to step out of our comfort zone.
So stop beating yourself up for not achieving something. Start accepting it. Not feeling good enough today means you want to be better tomorrow and love yourself fully so you can live a more fulfilling life. It means you’re committed to healing your heart, expanding your horizons, and sharing something with the world. You’re ready. You just have to get started.
12. “I have something to lose”
At the end of our lives, we are unlikely to regret the things we did as much as we regret the things we didn’t do. So it’s better to look back on the past with the thought, “I can’t believe I did that!” rather than with the thought, “If only I had done that.” It’s much easier to live with a mass of mistakes that taught us something than with a mass of regrets and empty promises to ourselves.