Have you heard of vaginismus? Many women do not know what vaginismus is, but they suffer from this little-known dysfunction, which causes pain at the time of sex , greatly disrupting sexual life. For this reason, in this article I decided to talk about the subject, explaining what it is, what the causes are, how to identify the symptoms and, more importantly, how vaginismus can be treated.
What is vaginismus?
Vaginismus is an involuntary contraction of the muscles around the orifice of the vagina, causing pain, difficulty and even inability to have sexual intercourse. This spasm does not have an associated physical cause, it can exist since the beginning of sexual life or be triggered later, caused by some experience lived by the woman.
It is estimated that today 5 to 17% of the world’s female population suffers from this disorder, which may be a far cry from reality. The taboos that still exist in many relationships when it comes to talking about sex in pain lead women not to investigate symptoms and seek treatment. Some studies show that less than 30% of patients with symptoms of vaginismus consult for this problem.
The result? More insecurity when having intimate moments with the partner, causing feelings of guilt, frustration, anger, rejection and, consequently, more distance between the couple.
Watch the video below, in which I detail vaginismus better, its causes and treatment:
Some women are so embarrassed or ashamed of suffering from vaginismus that they do not seek treatment. However, when you have the symptoms of dysfunction, remember that the appearance of it is not the woman’s fault, and it can be easily treated.
Vaginismus and dyspareunia: are they the same thing?
Dyspareunia is another important term that you should know if you feel pain during sex. This is the name given to pain that can occur before, during or after intercourse. There are several causes for dyspareunias , such as infections, atrophy, malformations, lack of lubrication, urinary, intestinal and gynecological problems and even emotional causes. Yes, vaginismus can be a diagnosis for dyspareunia, since in many cases there is an overlap between these two disorders.
The most important thing to remember is that, regardless of the diagnosis, you should never feel guilty, embarrassed or embarrassed for having pain during intercourse. The right way is to seek information about symptoms and seek medical treatment, which may be simpler than you think. We will continue talking about these points in this article!
Causes of Vaginismus
Most of the time, vaginismus has a psychological cause. The disorder is common in women who have had a very strict and religious education, as well as those who have suffered trauma and abuse. For women who begin to experience symptoms after a healthy sex life, the cause may also be related to stress or a heavy burden on themselves. At the time of intercourse, patients contract the muscles of the vagina so much that it makes penetration of the penis very uncomfortable or even impossible.
Symptoms of Vaginismus
- The most common symptoms of vaginismus are:
- Involuntary contraction of the pelvis muscles during sexual intercourse
- Pain during intercourse
- Difficulty handling the region
- Low self esteem
Treatments for vaginismus
When observing the above symptoms, it is essential to seek a gynecologist to rule out organic reasons, such as those that cause dyspareunias. If it is concluded that the dysfunction is in fact vaginismus, it is important to seek emotional support and ways to get to know your own body better. In most cases, it is necessary to count on the help of psychotherapists, sexologists or physiotherapists specialized in the pelvic floor and who work with treatments such as Kegel exercises (or pompoarism ).
The time and intensity of treatment depends on each case and it is worth remembering that only medications, such as local anesthetics, are not enough to solve the problem. Despite fighting external pain, enabling the relationship, they do not solve the disease itself, making it even more difficult for women to overcome the dysfunction.
The partner also plays a fundamental role in healing, especially in providing support and accepting that sex with pain is not a woman’s freshness. It is common for couples to postpone treatment, looking for other ways to have sexual pleasure or to relax during sex (such as using tranquilizers or alcoholic drinks). These behaviors will not help women to find true sexual satisfaction and to feel good about themselves. So, if you feel pain during sex , don’t be afraid to take care of your health and get help as soon as possible.