We live in a very hectic and hectic time, in which the demands on each individual are constantly rising. However, the uncertainties that affect our work and personal lives are also growing. It is this fundamental ambivalence that can cause stress, its ubiquity, and its creeping effect on many of us. How to deal with stress? You can find out in the article by soft skills teacher Lenka Kolajová .
The surrounding world is very changeable and often chaotic. Most people try to meet the rising demands and often do not realize in time that we are not able to withstand this above-threshold stress indefinitely.
We often look for the causes of the most diverse psychosomatic problems and difficulties in somatic physicians’ surgeries, and we are very surprised if all our tests are negative. After all, our head hurts every day, we really suffer from stomach upset, we are so tired that we can barely get up in the morning, etc.
It is known that in developed countries there is a clear increase in nervous breakdowns, exhaustion at work and diagnoses of depression, regardless of age and profession. They do not see such an increase in third world countries. Why?
Values such as being successful, having a significant position, making more and more money, owning movable and immovable property and living in prosperity are what force people to constantly pursue these “values” and push forward.
The psyche is also burdened by a lot of information that is rushing at us from all sides and which we have to process, sort and even respond to some. In this hustle and bustle, there is no time to realize our own values and the meaning of why we are here and what we really want.
Stress is part of life and cannot be avoided. It becomes harmful especially if it lasts too long or is too frequent. In this case, we do not have the opportunity to relax and gain new energy. This then destroys us and can ultimately lead to the failure of the organism.
How to get rid of stress and gain new positive energy?
STEP 1: risk awareness
By stress we mean the body’s response to excessive stress, and this is completely different for each of us. Some are crying, others are not sleeping, others are overeating, etc.
Also, the symptoms of stress are varied. These include impaired attention and inability to concentrate, forgetting, excessive self-control, inability to make decisions, self-confidence and abilities, anticipated failure, loss of self-confidence, emotional lability and others.
STEP 2: Identify the causes
At this stage, we often need the help of someone else, because we are not always able to open our eyes and admit what the core of the stress we may be.
This is especially difficult because we touch ourselves, our self-awareness and the image of ourselves that we work hard all our lives. It is difficult for us to admit that we have taken on too many tasks that we cannot handle, that we hate our superior and that it is beyond our power to come out with this type of person, that living with parents is not as easy as we imagined, etc.
The cause is very often not just one, but the whole set, which is difficult to navigate and it is difficult to determine which is the most important, the most stressful. However, this is often not the most important thing for this phase.
STEP 3: situation analysis
Here we can talk about certain skills of internal processing. Again, not everyone is able to deal with this situation on their own and it is appropriate to ask for help if we know that we are not doing well. I do not mean only professional help between psychologists, psychiatrists and psychotherapists, but often it is enough to go to a good friend, someone from the family or confide in a completely stranger at a chance meeting.
At this stage, we need to clarify what is happening around us and within us, why it is happening, what we want to achieve and how best to achieve it. We can even make a list and work out its positive and negative consequences. It is a matter of the most objective mapping of reality, not a subjective experience.
Answer any of the following questions:
How would an independent observer perceive my situation?
How is my vision of the situation different from an independent observer?
What distorts the true state of the problem?
What are the circumstances of my problems?
What are my experiences and what are the facts?
What is the cause and what is the consequence of the situation?
What is a list of my current problems?
STEP 4: finding a solution
After clarifying what we want to achieve, what we want to change and what our goal is, we need to be able to systematically solve the problem. There are always many solutions and we can decide on one of the options ourselves or again with the help of our “mentor” – a psychologist, therapist or a good friend.
It is a matter of carefully considering the advantages and disadvantages of each of the possible procedures, possibly various combinations, so that it suits us as much as possible within our living and personal conditions.
How to achieve a feeling of mental harmony and composure? How to get rid of negative feelings such as disharmony, fatigue and anxiety? There are two ways:
- NATURAL WAY: plenty of time without hustle, proper lifestyle, sports activities, alternation of mental and physical effort, a positive approach to life, a sense of humor, social background …
- INTENTIONAL WAY: doing what brings me joy, relaxation, rest, concentrating thoughts …
To top it all off, we will now find a lot of literature, but also courses and training groups where we will not be alone in the fight against stress. And if you do not want to collectively manage stress, then it is possible to contact a psychologist, psychotherapist and individually find and set such steps that will put you in a state of harmony and balance.