The pacifier is an attachment object that parents turn to so that their newborn baby can calm down with the sucking reflex. As the baby grows, he continues to have the pacifier as an object of attachment and when the teeth begin to come out it can become a problem since it can deform the natural exit of the teeth and even the palate.
When is the best time
Regarding whether or not to remove a child’s pacifier, there are opinions for all tastes. There is no specific time and you know your child better than anyone to know if he is ready or not. Specialists recommend removing the pacifier from babies between 12 and 18 months, since from one year on, a child’s developmental needs no longer include sucking. When the child is no longer breastfeeding and able to go to the bathroom (even a little after 18 months), it may be a good time to stop using the pacifier.
From the age of two, children develop strategies to handle emotional distress, so the pacifier is no longer necessary. They gradually eliminate pacifiers as they develop skills to replace them. Most children voluntarily give up the pacifier by age 3 or 4.
How to say goodbye to the pacifier in 3 days
Allow your child to have the pacifier for three days, but with certain rules. These would be the guidelines …
In the morning and before bed, explain to your child that he can do many things that make him older. Tell him it’s a good idea to give up the pacifier, and that in three days it will be time for him to say goodbye for good.
Tell him that you know he can do it and that you will work together to achieve it. Keep the conversation going for 30 seconds and don’t make it sound like you’re asking for permission. If your child responds, reflect on the feelings this generates for the little one and then continue. Don’t worry if your child gets anxious if he receives a warning. You will be warned and it will be easier.
Repeat the same 30-second conversation twice a day, just replace “in three days” with “tomorrow.” Don’t try to sell him the idea. Keep your tone firm and loving.
Remind your child that it is the third day and it is time to collect and put away all the pacifiers. Act like you’re on a scavenger hunt and ask your child if they’d like to help. Even if she refuses and protests, she proceeds to collect her pacifiers, put them in a plastic bag and put them in a drawer for the “recycling truck” to go after them.
Explain to your child that pacifiers will become new toys. Children recognize that recycling is useful and smart, and they will be much less upset than if you simply throw their prized pacifiers in the trash. Be empathetic, but firm. In 48 hours you will have overcome the loss of pacifiers.
You will see that removing the pacifier will have been much easier than you imagined before starting!