How to teach children to sleep and how to improve the quality of their relationship with them

Our emotional brain is the part responsible for regulating our emotional enjoyment, but also for determining what is important. It is directly linked to our autonomic nervous system. If we are all the time running away from something or running after something present shots of adrenaline and reactions like palpitations, paralysis of the gut and muscle tension, which I call the urgency syndrome ,. But then, would it be possible to have a healthy life and reconcile that with the development of our children? So, depending on how you use your emotions, a lot of stress accumulates, you lose track of what is really important and you don’t get the results you’re looking for, having a healthy life is a process that requires constancy and permanent recall of what is important.

          If we are anxious and unable to be present at the moment and hinder the development of our children, making our relationships difficult:

It is absolutely clear to any observer that children need attention, they seek attention as something constituent in the construction of their humanity. They learn by imitating the behavior and feelings of their caregivers. 

          Your attention is increasingly sought after by all types of media. If you don’t learn to take control of your attention, it will be delivered to be bought in the market. Sold to advertisers who are attracting it, whether Facebook, Whatsapp, Netflix, Youtube. Not to take control of your attention is to lose control of your life. And worst of all, losing your meaningful relationships. I emphasize the meaningful adjective , because the relationship with the children is not something that has been conquered forever. Like any relationship, it can become superficial. And when the relationship with the children is superficial, it turns into anger in adolescence, indifference and abandonment in adulthood.

          It is a myth to think that family life is in opposition to professional life. If we analyze in depth, we will recognize that human beings are not machines, our energy cycle needs rest and renewal. If we look at how athletes train, we learn that rest is part of strengthening the body. The emotional brain is the same: our emotions need intensified moments of sharing and meeting, of love and solidarity to be prepared to be clear about choosing what is really important among thousands of small tasks.  

          If, on the other hand, you take control of your attention, you can easily cultivate loving moments, depth with your children and at the same time have more precision and clarity of goals, as well as meaning in your professional life.

          What to do then to be able to hold the reins of our attention, keep it here and now with the children, living significant moments.

There are four simple steps that can help you get the best control of your time and bring about a better performance in the relationship with your family:

1). When you wake up in the morning do not look at social networks and emails, before you have focused , aligned with what is important and have shared affection, even if it is only for a few minutes. Work first on what is most important to your results, take care of yourself and your loved one first. The time to look at networks and emails is the second part of the morning after being loving and productive. 

2). Taking scarce time into account, try to determine at least a portion of that time for your children, 30 minutes to start, 1 hour is considered an average time , this is something that will make a huge difference for the child and for you. Rather, it is interesting to write down everything you have to do on paper. With this listing you will be able to better organize your time and streamline your goals. The key step is communication, when establishing the minimum period of time that you will dedicate to your children, you have to assist your practice and seek to make the most of that time, so as to satiate and maintain control over each task.

3). Drop the whole idea of ​​gain and priority, drop the cell phone, and just be present with your children at this stipulated time (if necessary it is feasible to use an alarm clock). Try not to think about the other things, but in the moments that you are directed to them, do not blame yourself for the unforeseen events and try to compensate afterwards if any occur.

4). Now say goodbye to them with love and solemnity , until the next moment of play with dad or mom. And focus on the work, look at the list and see what is really important to accomplish, if you are having trouble sorting, look first for the degree of relevance and then for the degree of complexity, if possible going from the simplest to the most difficult.

by Abdullah Sam
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