We often prefer to talk about love, intimacy, or use other ways to define this topic more subtly. But why not tell it how it is?
This article was produced in collaboration with our staff of medical specialists
The menopause is a normal step in the life of every woman, she brings physical and emotional changes that can lead to both personal changes in the ‘ intimacy after 50 . For some women, in fact, the long and delicate passage that leads to the end of fertility can be particularly difficult and stressful . Stress that can become the main cause of small personal crises and in the couple relationship .
Relieve stress: love can help a lot
Other than a way of saying, intimacy can really be a powerful anti-stress and help you get through a difficult time. There are many scientific studies that confirm this and reaffirm how sexual health is essential for a peaceful life.
So, if you can and if you want, don’t give up on your partner’s special attention just because that bacon that wasn’t there and now doesn’t go away, a few too many rolls on the arms or those swollen legs that always make you feel heavy and not very pleasant. Give yourself a benevolent gaze and emphasize what is pleasant in you and what makes you special in the eyes of your partner.
If menopause has not brought you a decrease in desire, do not give in to prejudices and fears. Continue to enjoy moments of intimacy because they are good for mood , good for love and can bring many benefits to the cardiovascular system as well (according to research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine which confirms the reduction in the risk of heart attack and training thrombus) as well as helping to promote good sleep and satisfying rest. In addition, it consumes calories and tightens the muscles, keeps the skin young and above all has an anti-aging function also for the genitals becausepromotes blood flow and tissue rehydration.
If love in menopause is no longer so easy
For some women, the arrival of menopause also corresponds to a change in their predisposition for sex. The loss of desire is a very common problem for which women constantly seek a confrontation and a relief. Social groups dedicated to menopause and major specific sites are often places of heartfelt confessions on the subject.
The reasons? More or less those related to minor menopausal disorders:
- vaginal dryness
- pain during intercourse (dyspareunia)
- decreased desire
- difficulty in achieving pleasure and fulfillment
If you experience these discomforts, you know how emotionally heavy it can be to always say “no” to your partner, sometimes triggering arguments, long faces, misunderstandings, negative thoughts.
What you can do is talk to your partner about it, explaining how you have changed and that this change is due to the drop in estrogen and not your desire for him. . Immediately afterwards, also talk to your trusted gynecologist or contact a new specialist, for a second opinion or just to get feedback from those who deal more directly with menopause .
You have to work hard to overcome the discomforts: sex in menopause is good for you
Having a satisfying intimate life even after the age of 50 , when the body changes and a new season of life begins (long and still active), is essential:
- for psychophysical well-being
- for mood because it keeps depression and anxiety at bay
- for emotionality and emotion control. Feeling loved gives security .
In general, we could say that having satisfying relationships affects the quality of life. One figure explains the reasons: today the average life expectancy for women is over 80 years, of which 30 have passed in menopause (source Italian Society of Gynecology and Obstetrics). The alternative, therefore, would be to give up sexuality for 2 or 3 decades. This cannot and must not be.
In addition, numerous scientific studies reveal that love helps you stay young and has a positive effect on the maintenance of intellectual abilities and memory .
In menopause, take care of your body and your intimacy
Regularly undergoing a gynecological examination is a rule to be dutifully observed throughout a woman’s life to check her health. And in menopause, in particular, the appointment with the gynecologist should never be forgotten or postponed.
Even intimacy should be treated , like how to heal your body and your appearance. When you think it’s too late to feel pleasure again, that’s when you need to be aware that you don’t want to give it up and want to “break the silence” (without feeling embarrassed!)
There is a lot that can be done to keep menopausal ailments at bay and, consequently, find pleasure under the sheets by managing those annoyances that can ruin your intimacy. It is up to you to want it: only a frank and sincere conversation with the specialist, without embarrassment or modesty , can help him in the diagnosis and solution of the problem.
If menopausal sex is difficult, your gynecologist can help you
The discomforts associated with menopause are destined to disappear once the body has found its balance and passed the transition from premenopause to actual menopause (only evident in the absence of a menstrual cycle for 12 consecutive months). This generally allows you to experience a peaceful postmenopause for life as a couple .
But this is not always the case: in 1 out of 2 cases vaginal dryness and painful intercourse are not only a consequence of the reduced production of estrogen (which determines less natural lubrication) but are also symptoms of Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy. The solution is one: book a visit to the gynecologist as soon as possible. If you haven’t seen yours in a while, you can find a list of specialists by clicking here .
It is a pathological condition which, if left untreated, can worsen over time because it causes a thinning of the vulvar tissues which become more and more fragile and less elastic. In this sense, early diagnosis is essential to identify an adequate path to treat Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy and its effects . The search for pleasure, as you can see, first of all passes through the visit of an experienced gynecologist in menopause : do not continue to give up on love!