Those who value themselves are safe from others; he wears a breastplate that no one can penetrate.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Self-esteem is one of our most important internal resources and very deeply determines the quality of our life.
If we don’t consider ourselves capable of doing something, we will have built the first mental block that will put a spoke in the wheel.
The exercises that we will see go to work on the esteem we have of ourselves by removing that mental block.
But before seeing the 5 exercises on self-esteem, it is essential to understand something more.
Why are self-esteem exercises useful?
Before moving on to the exercises, let me tell you that they will not be the usual things you read around.
I’ve decided to share some of the best self-esteem exercises with you and leave the usual nonsense online.
But why are self-esteem exercises, especially writing exercises, so effective compared to watching a video?
Writing has an overwhelming strength to work on ourselves and allows us to go much deeper than just listening to or just watching a video.
So take your time and equip yourself with a pen and paper.
If self-esteem is a problem that you have been carrying around for some time, I always recommend that you dedicate a special notebook to work on yourself .
Now let’s see the 5 exercises for self-esteem.
# 1 The exercise of mindful vision
The first self-esteem exercise involves involving other people.
If you’ve tried to improve your self-esteem before but failed, outside help to recalibrate your ego could make a difference.
Contact 5 people of your choice, perhaps even by message, and ask them to answer these simple questions (you can copy and paste).
- When you met me, what were the first things you thought of me?
- What do you think are my best features?
- Is there a quality you envy me and would like to have too?
- How do you see me when I relate to other people?
This simple exercise, which other people will actually do for you, is very useful for identifying any roles you cover and their masks .
When you have received a response from everyone, analyze the responses and see if, and how much, your view of yourself is misaligned.
If you notice any recurring response, different from what you think about yourself, you probably need to work on your ego .
# 2 The exercise to recover self-esteem from the past
This exercise is one of my favorites and will allow you to re-evaluate many experiences from your past.
Grab a pen and paper and write an event from your past that you remember with some anxiety or grief for every 5 years of your life.
Write down a memory from when you were 5, when you were 10, when you were 15, when you were 20 and so on, obviously stopping at your age.
It is not important to follow the lineup pedestrianized, even if you have to move 3 or 4 years it’s okay.
The important thing is to identify at least one memory for each age group .
Once you have created this memory puzzle, analyze each memory by writing down the emotions you felt during the event.
Then, think about those emotions by reflecting on their nature and the nature of the people involved.
For example, if when you were 15 you made a bad impression at school, in front of your class, re-evaluate the people involved and how they behaved .
You may find that the event was not that relevant and that reviewed today, with awareness, it could be easy to overcome the negative influences it carries with it.
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# 3 The PPG Journal: Forgiveness, Purpose, Gratitude
If you have already read my other articles on self-esteem you will already know that the personal diary is a very precious tool to work on yourself.
What I propose to you in this exercise, however, is different.
For seven consecutive days , make it a habit to write down one thing you forgive yourself for, a resolution to do differently, and something you are grateful for each night with pen and paper.
In fact, when our self-esteem is not optimal, we criticize ourselves too much and our internal dialogue is very bad.
An example of the exercise could be.
- [FORGIVE] I forgive myself for not talking to that girl in a casual way.
- [ABOUT] Next time I’ll be more relaxed in the conversation.
- [GRATITUDE] I am grateful for having had the opportunity to see her.
Exercise works best for at least 30 days , but making commitments that are too long can be daunting.
But I am convinced that at the end of the week benefiting from the rereading you will surely be encouraged to continue.
# 4 The No’s exercise for self-esteem
This self-esteem exercise might be a little annoying, however it is certainly one of the most effective.
Grab a pen and paper and make a list of 10 No’s you have taken in your life .
For example, the outright rejection in front of everyone from the person you liked or your boss denied the pay raise.
Once this is done, strive to find a lesson from these No’s that you have received, wondering what you would do differently now.
Turn those No’s into wisdom and lessons to learn from to grow.
# 5 The exercise of time travel
This self-esteem exercise will take you another step into the past.
Grab a pen and paper and write down all the things you didn’t have exactly 10 years ago.
Write down everything that comes to your mind that encompasses every area of your life, from work to relationships.
The list could include a particular friendship, relationship, job, object, mindset, habit, sport, home, place, or experience.
Try to range in every area of your life and write down everything you now have but did not have 10 years ago.
This exercise is to raise awareness of your goals so that you can focus on your successes rather than your failures .
In fact, when we suffer from low self-esteem, we have a strong tendency to see only what we do not have, leaving the beautiful things we possess under the radar.
Want more self-esteem exercises?
These 5 self-esteem exercises were just a taste, if you want a structured path to increase self-esteem, take a look at my free Mini-Course to have self-esteem .
In the path via email I explain how to increase self-esteem step by step, giving you exercises and practical indications.