We women, as well as men, are very concerned about having a pleasant intimacy, both for us and for our spouse. And in that effort we sharpen our ears for any information on the subject that may be useful to us. We spend on products that promise to become professionals in the arts of love, however, the truth is that it does not require so much effort.
We think that certain physical characteristics are sufficient to guarantee the interest and pleasure of our other half, but, while it helps, I have to say that love, even carnal, is not as superficial as it seems. And personalized attention will always be much more pleasurable than those mass productions that convey nothing.
Everything we need to become a top 10 lover is in ourselves. The difference is whether or not we are willing to explore it. And as I consider you my friend and confidant, dear reader, I will share some of the ideas I have about it. Yes, you have certainly paid attention to other advice, but give me a chance to tell you mine.
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The characteristics of the best lovers:
Let’s start with the obvious: the first thing needed to enjoy something is to want to enjoy it. So, if you are there, but think you have better places to be, then go out, because nothing good comes out when things are not done with passion and commitment. When we think about the best night of our lives, it always includes will, a lot of will.
Then, another important factor enters. Know what we like and what our partner likes. A professional does not become a professional out of nowhere; to be an expert in any subject it is necessary first of all to be familiar with the subject to be dealt with. Experts always ask, analyze reactions, know the results and make the best decisions to achieve success.
Now about dedication, someone who gives an exclusive service knows that it takes time. For example, girls, have you ever been to the salon, paid dearly and the hairdresser finished your hair in a few minutes? I don’t know about you, but I am very angry and dissatisfied. At least a head massage, a conversation, to feel more confident. If we’re going to spend it, it has to be worth it.
- Both win
It is not just about the needs and interests of one, any relationship needs that both feel they are winning. Otherwise, the feeling is that they took advantage of us, and that is not good for either. Besides that it shows selfishness and little interest. Pay attention to the message you are sending.
Willingness is another IMPORTANT point in intimacy. It is like when you go to a party and do not participate in the celebration: believe me, no matter how good the gift you took, no one will enjoy your company. So, my recommendation is that you are – as long as you are comfortable with it, of course – someone willing to have as much fun as possible.
The secret is not a secret, we are two and, as such, both count. Sex can be a taboo subject, but one that we must overcome because many things depend on it. Our survival, our health, our state of mind, is even able to reinforce the emotional bonds with our spouse. Therefore, wanting to enrich our sex life through better performance is not something shameful: it is making love, neither more nor less.
Read Beyond just sex: Finding true intimacy with your spouse
Translated and adapted by Sarah Pierina from the original El secreto so that you and your spouse have an intimacy of 10 .