The love comes, strong glue, it hypnotizes us for a while and then forces us to face with pure reality: nothing is eternal. And it is not that love cannot be, what is not eternal is that magical state of the beginning, when romanticism appears in its purest state and the butterflies that nest in our stomach only let us say ” I love you ” (for the twentieth time in the day), “How pretty you are” (in pajamas and disheveled) or “I miss you” (two hours after we said goodbye). This phase, unfortunately, does not usually last.
Over time, the enthusiasm and passion subside , the loving words begin to seem ridiculous to us, and if we are not careful, the relationship turns into a monotonous day to day that runs the risk of cooling off forever.
Sometimes many things are taken for granted. We think that living as a couple no longer requires effort, and this is a big mistake. The couple must be conquered every day because the worst enemies of a relationship are routine and boredom. Maintaining a certain dose of romanticism refreshes the relationship and reminds us of the good times lived. That is why it is important to take care of the details, surprise our partner from time to time and, above all, strengthen the bonds of union through fun and creativity .
The magic of gifts
Sometimes, the small details are those that reach us the most. The important thing is to show him that you care about his well-being and that you want to make his life pleasant.
- Appearing one day with a little gift for no reason is a surprise that pleases and softens. Some fun briefs, one of your favorite movies, some music?
- A good idea is to stick a photo of us somewhere where we know that our partner will always see it. Although the other person would never have thought of it, he will certainly smile with a certain nostalgia, every time he sees her.
- If our partner is one of those who is dying for a singer, a football team or an actor, he will be very excited that, from time to time, we surprise him with tickets to go see them and even more if he knows that we do not share his hobby. In return, we can give you a clue to something we particularly like.
- Who said that flowers are only for them? An unexpected bouquet looks good in any corner of the office and in our hearts.
- It is important that the couple also develop individually; This way reproaches are avoided and a healthier relationship is lived. One option to consider is to give the other an intensive ski course, a year in the gym or some painting classes, depending on their hobbies.
Make common plans
The question is to turn everyday life into something special or different.
- On holidays, for example, we can set up a special breakfast : music, fresh muffins, fresh coffee and a magazine to enjoy what we do fast, running, and often asleep and in a bad mood.
- If we have been out of town for a long time, it is very good to prepare a surprise weekend getaway . If the trip is longer, we will have to count on the complicity of the couple, but joint planning is also part of the adventure. And if we say at the agency that it is our honeymoon, the treatment will be much better and will make us relive our first honeymoon.
- If it is not possible to share a hobby due to lack of time or because our tastes are different, you have to give yourself imagination and find something to do together at home : DIY, giant puzzles, video dance classes …
- Cinema, theater or any cultural activity in common will bring us a little closer to our partner. And, if we notice that the relationship begins to cool, it is necessary to reserve a time each day to walk, chat or make plans together.
Romantics also at home
Every day there are many ways to say “I love you” without the need for words:
- Sticky notes with nice messages thanking each other for some detail, hidden in the pocket, under the pillow or glued to the bathroom mirror, reinforce communication and make us feel special. Sometimes it is difficult for us to say things, but it is necessary to do it. We all like that they love us, give us love and tell us from time to time.
- Preparing a dinner for friends at home can be an especially romantic activity if we plan it in advance and go into the kitchen together and with time ahead.
- And to make our daily dinners more exciting , each day it’s up to you to organize it. It is not necessary to leave the skin in the kitchen (you can make or buy it made) or choose expensive foods, the trick is to vary and surprise the other: a cheese platter with a good wine; a tasting menu of salads; an oriental-style dish; an assortment of smoked canapes …
- If we like to enjoy a good movie lying on the sofa at home, well covered with a blanket and with the light off, let’s do it, but sharing sofa and blanket.
- And a lot of attention to the bedroom , which should be our most intimate and romantic corner. It is important to decorate and set it properly: a dim light, some candles, the walls painted in a warm color, some cozy sheets, pillows that invite you to rest? There may be room for a small stereo, but what should never enter this room is TV.
Complicity at any time
The most bland day can become special:
- It would be nice to collect those songs from our wedding days , record a tape or CD for the car and go find the other at the office. Then we can park somewhere quiet and remember those times of our first romantic dates.
- Going out to lunch or dinner in an improvised way and trying out small restaurants is also a good idea to discover them together (we can even give them a score) and take the opportunity to have a pleasant chat.
- Having small details with each other’s family arouses feelings of admiration and respect. Accompany the mother-in-law to the doctor, help her sister with the move or invite them to eat on Sunday for no reason.
- When we go shopping together , we ask each other to come with us to buy underwear. Although men are reluctant and never recognize him, deep down he will love it.
- If there is something that really works in the couple, it is good humor . Enjoying providing wellness is a contagious attitude. Laughing together and finding the fun side to anger not only unites, but helps us to get to know the person we live with better and, most importantly, to stay together.
