Have you ever gone through a period when all you could think about was the pain you were feeling? Moments when your heart was so tight that you didn’t feel like doing anything but crying? Probably people close to you tried to say that you had to get up to move on. However, there is no switch that you can turn on or off to stop experiencing pain. There is a whole process until you can get over it. You have the right to suffer and only then will you be able to break free. Want to know how this can happen? Then read the text to the end.
In today’s text we will cover the following topics:
- Suffering shapes your character
- What makes you empathize
- You need to go through this experience
- Don’t try to escape suffering
- Recognize suffering
- How do you become aware of your suffering?
- What do you do once you realize your suffering?
- 5 steps to free yourself from suffering
- You have the right to suffer and break free
Suffering shapes your character
Suffering can be caused by a painful relationship breakdown, the loss of a family member or sexual / emotional / physical abuse in a relationship. No matter what causes it, the fact is that they have an effect that shakes their core and causes pain, deep sadness, shame or suffering.
No matter what you went through, it made you who you are today. This made her stronger, more resilient, even able to be a pillar of support for others in need.
Makes you empathize
We can only experience true compassion and deep empathy when we experience something similar to the person to whom we are being emotionally supportive. And with each life experience, you will be able to be supportive for each person who experiences a problem similar to yours. Your suffering allows you to become:
- More compassionate;
- More empathetic;
- Judge others’ experiences less;
- More self-conscious;
- More loving and compassionate;
- More aware of relationships that are not good and able to put an end to them;
- More resilient under pressure;
Does suffering automatically allow you to become like that? No. You must do some healing work on suffering so that it becomes compassion, resilience and self-love.
You need to go through this experience
Your suffering has to be felt, experienced, lived. Buried pain does not turn into compassion and self-love … It turns into judgment, physical tension, illness, anxiety and depression. Compassion comes from healed pain. Whether it is immediately apparent or not, his suffering was worth it. And the gifts you get from your most traumatic experiences will only become more evident over time.
Don’t try to escape suffering
You will suffer in life. If you try to avoid it, it will only prolong or postpone suffering. Life is not about suffering, but suffering seems to be an essential component for our growth as conscious humans.
On the other hand, if someone wants a life without suffering, what they are really saying is: “I am afraid that I will not be able to deal with the challenges before me”. This way of thinking is not going to take a person far because life is full of obstacles and – clearly – the bad thing happens. Instead, wish for courage, strength and wisdom.
The key to less suffering is not to avoid it. The ideal is to be aware of suffering as early as possible, face the best you can and learn the lessons, in order to be free.
We must recognize – as soon as possible – what is uncomfortable, painful and scary for us. So, we must surrender to him. We can suffer less when we choose to see our suffering earlier.
- Don’t ignore what is painful
- Don’t ignore what’s scary
How do you become aware of your suffering?
Pay attention to your feelings. Are you worried all the time? Do you feel sad or incomplete most days? Are you very angry? Do you cry often? You say things like “why is this always happening to me?”
Life is not a bed of roses, but neither must it be of thorns. If you feel negative feelings most of the time, then it means that you are suffering.
Now, having a bad day does not mean you are suffering. That means you had a bad day. The truth is that only you know how you are feeling. If there is any confusion, ask your heart if it is okay. And then, listen.
What do you do once you realize your suffering?
First of all, as we said before, you have a right to suffer. You do the best you can. You pray for courage, strength and wisdom. You call your closest friends and family for advice and help. You look for other people (professionals, advisers …) that you think can help you. You think positive. You make a plan. So, you do your best to end this “suffering”.
5 steps to free yourself from suffering
There are many people who, before entering a state of suffering, received more subtle signals to indicate that they are not on the right path, but because they refuse to pay attention to their inner voice, they ignore and end up attracting suffering to life. from them.
On many occasions, suffering is an excellent teacher. Going through suffering is the only way that many have to become aware that they are not doing well along the way and that some things need to be resolved.
Most of us have suffered at some point in our lives and, inevitably, as an act of survival, we realize that “we have suffered enough”. As a severe awakening, we confidently determine that, because of our painful situation, we want to be free. You have the right to suffer, but you also have the right to be free. If this is your case and you are currently suffering, you can take the following steps to break free:
1. Think about your current situation
Do an analysis of your life and see if you are really living the life you want. Answering these simple questions can help you learn: do you like the place where you live? Do you like your current partner? Do you like your job? Do you have good relations? Did you like your current situation? Do you love yourself? Living the life we don’t want and ignoring our soul’s messages, sooner or later has serious consequences on our emotional. If you don’t like your life or any aspect, do something to change it!
2. Think positive
If you want to be free from suffering, the first step in achieving this is to become aware of your limiting thoughts and change them to a new mental programming. What does that mean: negative thoughts attract negative things, whereas positive thoughts attract good things. So when you’re having bad thoughts, try to switch to happy, positive thoughts. Be a positive woman .
3. Learn to focus and live in the present moment
This is very important because normally when we suffer, it is when we divert our attention from the present moment and make mental journeys to the past or the future; because in the present moment, we have the key to free ourselves.
4. Take control of your life
When you are suffering, you usually believe that everything bad happens to you. You may also think that you are worthless. Let go of those negative thoughts that destroy you. Do activities that you enjoy doing and that you may have abandoned and, in addition, look for realistic goals and fight for them. Only then will you find meaning in your life.
5. If you can’t overcome it yourself, go to the psychologist
Emotional pain can be the result of a more serious problem, such as depression or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Therefore, you will need to go to a psychologist to guide you and help you out of this situation that is causing great emotional pain. But remember, you are the person who has to overcome it, and the psychologist will only provide you with the tools you need to accomplish it.
You have the right to suffer and break free
As we saw in this text, you have every right to suffer, to go through the grieving process. Each has its own time and this must be respected. Embrace suffering and learn the lessons it has to offer. However, don’t let the suffering go on too long in your life. Free yourself and try to find a new meaning in your life. Only then will you find your happiness and you will feel much stronger than before.