Intimacy and postmenopause. We never talk about it, but not because it is a world that does not exist. Love continues even after the age of 65. Here’s how to maintain intimate health and satisfactory sexual health.
Intimate and sexual well-being are two essential components of health in a general sense, understood as a “state of complete physical, mental and social well-being (the definition is from the World Health Organization ). If in menopause you have experienced some intimate discomfort and discomfort that may be typical of the end of the fertile age, because they are linked to the physiological reduction of hormone levels, you know what we are talking about.
In postmenopause, however, if you have taken care of yourself in previous years, the music could be different and everything could find its balance, even the intimate life and, consequently, the sexual one. We never talk about it but there is one even at a mature age. Would you like to know more?
In this post we will talk about:
- What is postmenopause
- Postmenopausal intimacy
- How to experience a peaceful postmenopause
- What to do to maintain postmenopausal intimate health
- What to do to maintain postmenopausal sexual health
- Because love is also important at a mature age
What is postmenopause
The term postmenopause refers to the period after 12 consecutive months without menstruation that you need to count to actually tell you in menopause . In this new phase of your life as a woman, the ailments that may have bothered you in previous years, because they are linked to physiological hormonal changes in view of menopause , could diminish or disappear completely.
We are talking about hot flashes, swelling and water retention , tendency to gain weight , insomnia , mood swings and anxiety but also intimate annoyances that could have had a negative impact on your life as a couple .
We use the conditional because every woman is different and therefore every menopause is different too . This means that it is not possible to identify traits common to all women within this long and gradual journey. But there is also another reason why every menopause is different: regaining good intimate (and consequently sexual) health in postmenopause can also depend on how well you took care of yourself, your well-being and your health during your life and during the last years before the climacteric.
Without a doubt, not giving up the good habit of making regular visits to a gynecologist for the entire period preceding the last period, it is one of the most effective ways to keep your body changes under control and understand how to maintain health, too. of the intimate and sexual sphere .
With the arrival of menopause, the life of a couple could have undergone a “shock” because the physical and psychological changes that the end of the fertile age could bring with it can also affect the relationship between two.
The reference is to some typical disorders:
- Vaginal dryness
- pain during or after intercourse
- Loss of desire
These disorders that many women in perimenopause and menopause experience, in fact, can constitute important “deterrents” for the search for a serene and satisfying intimacy with their partner .
If not properly investigated and treated by a gynecologist, these intimate discomforts can worsen in postmenopause because with the passage of time the vaginal walls are subject to a progressive thinning of the tissues . It means that, drier and less elastic, they can be more easily exposed to redness and micro-lesions, which in turn can be fertile ground for inflammation or infections .
For 1 in 2 women in menopause, moreover, this situation can be the signal of the presence of a chronic pathological condition which is essential to keep under gynecological control: l ‘ Atrophy Vaginal vulvo .
How to experience a peaceful postmenopause
Your intimate health and well-being as a postmenopausal woman is highly dependent on the degree of care you have taken of yourself in previous years through a healthy lifestyle. We refer to:
- Periodic check- ups to the gynecologist and preventive screening
- Proper nutrition and proper hydration , physical activity , no smoking and moderate alcohol consumption
- Ability to learn new things , see the positives of maturity and keep the brain active by cultivating intellectual activities.
If this was not the case in previous years, postmenopause is now a golden opportunity to learn to take better care of your body and psyche . What we have listed above are some simple guidelines that it is never too late to follow. You will see that your mood will also benefit.
What to do to maintain postmenopausal intimate health
In postmenopause it is essential to take care of your intimate health as well as to do it throughout the fertile life span. A few but important rules can prove to be fundamental for maintaining a satisfactory well-being of your private parts. We list them below but the most important step to take care of your intimate health in a serious and responsible way is always to make an appointment with an experienced gynecologist in menopause (find the expert closest to you by clicking here) .
- Take care of intimate hygiene using delicate and specific detergents for this phase of your life as a woman. In this age, in fact, the mucous membranes become more sensitive (sometimes even fragile) due to the drop in hormone production which also changes the pH of the intimate environment (naturally acidic around 4, after menopause it tends to become neutral, up to 7, therefore less effective in acting as a barrier to bacteria)
- Ask your gynecologist for advice on cleansers and treatments (such as vaginal douches) to use: do-it-yourself can be harmful to health, so be wary of advice and word of mouth among friends
- Do not underestimate irritation, burning, itching and blood loss but refer them to the gynecologist. The specialist is the only one who can formulate a precise diagnosis and rule out that they are disorders due to Vulvo Vaginal Atrophy or the presence of infections.
- Even if you don’t notice anything different than usual, make an appointment periodically with your gynecologist. During the routine check-up, the specialist will regularly undergo medical and diagnostic tests that he deems appropriate based on your health and age.
What to do to maintain postmenopausal sexual health
The gynecologist can also help you in maintaining satisfactory sexual health. If during perimenopause you have realized that sometimes love can be more difficult than usual or painful and you have not immediately asked for help, in this new phase of your life as a woman, do not make the same mistake.
In postmenopause, when the body regains balance after the hormonal “storm”, not only is love possible but it can also
be even more beautiful! Whether it’s the life partner you’ve built a family with or a new relationship that blossoms just when you didn’t think about it anymore, mature love can even be more fascinating and fulfilling .
Relieved by the thought of contraception, more confident than you and free to love without taboos , you can finally regain full possession of your life as a woman: the children are now grown up and many worries and discomforts of perimenopause are alleviated, leaving you freer to focus on yourself herself and your relationship.
What to do then to maintain your sexual health? While this may embarrass you, find motivation to ask your gynecologist how to take care of this very important aspect of you and don’t be ashamed to report any difficulties.
There is a lot that can be done to improve sexual health and smile again even in intimacy but it is only up to the specialist to indicate the appropriate treatments. Here’s what you can do:
- Ask your gynecologist for help: waiting “for him to pass” in the face of difficulties or moments of embarrassment in front of your partner will not help. To get you really help, however, establish a frank and sincere dialogue with the specialist , which allows him to understand your problems clearly. The gynecologist is there to help you and not to judge you.
- Talk to your partner : tell him how your body has changed but also what hasn’t changed. That is your desire to keep alive the understanding with him , the love and affection you feel and the joy of having him next to you.
- If this can reassure you, let him accompany you to the visit to the gynecologist : you could feel more serene and your partner more involved and reassured in solving the problems that can cloud your life as a couple.
Because love is also important at a mature age
There is little talk of sex after the “door” , out of modesty and that die-hard cliché that sees sexual life as a taboo after a certain age. Yet sexual health is a right, at all stages of life. For this reason, having satisfying relationships even at a mature age is essential for maintaining psychophysical well-being. Indeed, love is particularly important after menopause because: