Pain during intercourse: how to find out if what you feel is serious?

Every woman has ever felt pain during intercourse. The reasons can be numerous, from poor lubrication to physical or psychological problems.

The important thing in any and all cases is not to “let it go” and simply to continue having sex without looking for the reason for your discomfort. After all, feeling pain can be an indication of something that needs care. In addition, this situation often prevents women from feeling pleasure and reaching orgasm, reducing the quality of a sexually full and happy life.

Do you want to understand more about how pain during intercourse happens and what to do in such cases? Follow the post to the end!

Gynecologists live daily with several women complaining of pain during intercourse. Complaints range from severe pain, which prevents penetration, to mild discomfort, which makes you not feel pleasure.

Thus, what was supposed to be a moment of happiness, always becomes a problem. Incredible as it may seem, many women do not seek the source of this pain or are ashamed to talk about it, placing the “guilt” in the shape of their vagina or thinking it is a passing thing, among so many other reasons for not seeking help.

So, I decided to talk to you about this subject that is still taboo among women. In today’s post, we’ll cover:

  • What are the causes of pain during intercourse?
  • What to do when you feel pain during sex?
  • Does intimate gymnastics help to minimize the problem?

Stay with me and understand what is happening to your body so as not to lose your pleasure and improve your sex life.

What are the causes of pain during intercourse?

First of all, know that the pain during intercourse is clearly a sign that something is not going well. After all, the entire musculature of the vagina is prepared to have elasticity, even for the passage of a child during childbirth. Therefore, it is not normal to experience any discomfort during sex, unless something goes wrong or you are not properly aroused and lubricated. In fact, lack of arousal and lubrication are some common causes of pain when having sex.

The scientific name for this problem is dyspareunia. It concerns any pain that occurs during sexual intercourse, which may happen during penetration and also before or after. Even though it is not frequent, this type of pain is a warning from the female body and requires attention. The woman may experience pain in the vagina, but also in the bladder, pelvic area, urethra, anus and the entire region.

The ProSex institute, from USP, reported that 21% of women with an active sex life usually experience pain during intercourse. And this does not depend on the position at the time of sex, the shape of the vagina or whether or not to use a condom. Talking about it, therefore, is very important, as many suffer from silence, often aggravating a situation that, if the gap was evaluated by a doctor, could easily be resolved.

The woman may experience mild discomfort, burning or the pain itself. Often, pain in the relationship can be responsible for anorgasmia , which is the difficulty or total absence of orgasms during sex. Let’s learn a little more about the possible causes of dyspareunia.

Lack of lubrication

This is the most common reason for women to experience pain during sex, especially during penetration. This is because, when the vagina is not lubricated, there is friction that can even hurt the vaginal walls.

There are several issues that affect female lubrication. Among them, there are physical aspects, such as menopause, in which the body loses its natural moisture or other characteristics also linked to the body itself, such as having recently given birth, breastfeeding or when the woman is using medicines that influence hormonal rates. Women taking birth control pills also suffer from variations in hormones and a less wet vagina.

In addition, there are also emotional problems and lack of excitement. All of this can be solved with therapy, a good conversation with the partner (when there is intimacy in the relationship for that) and with intimate gymnastics. Upon knowing her own body, the woman will know exactly what excites her, in addition to being able to use vaginal exercises and pompoir movements to assist in lubrication.

Problems related to illness or other physical factors

Women who are suffering from any health problems, such as infections or treatments for chronic illnesses, such as radio and chemotherapy therapies, may experience pain during intercourse. In such cases, one should always count on medical assistance and, above all, on the understanding and common sense of the partner.

In addition, there are affections and problems in the vaginal flora, which leave the entire area of ​​the genitals sore. Here, too, care must be taken, especially so as not to create any kind of complication. Other times, the region is injured, either because it is in a postpartum, post-operative period or, even, there has been an accident.

Other diseases, such as endometriosis, myoma, cystitis, urinary tract infection and other problems in this region of the body, involving the vagina, uterus, anus and surroundings, are also possible causes for pain during intercourse . In addition, it is possible to have an allergic relationship, either to the condom or any other product used during sex. In any case, report the problem to your doctor and have habits or practice exercises that can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.

Few preliminaries

The couple who do not invest in foreplay, most of the time, will face the woman feeling pain during the relationship . This is because penetration will be uncomfortable, causing burning or even very severe pain.

It is always worth talking to your partner to talk about what stimulates your pleasure in the foreplay. After all, it is important to have a healthy sexual relationship, in which both feel comfortable and can enjoy full moments in sex. The lack of stimuli, which cause a dry vagina, can cause pain! And your partner must know this and learn to improve this important phase, which is excitement. Not to mention that this can be an extra spice for your relationship.

Another way to increase sexual arousal is to have knowledge and control of your own body. Women who practice pompoirism certainly gain in more lubrication and, consequently, in not feeling pain during the relationship when the reason is the lack of foreplay. Vaginal movements can advance the time enough for the woman to be ready for sex, especially when it is the case of a quickie or any other situation of this type.

But I emphasize one thing: it is all good to gain greater intimacy and involvement through the caresses of the foreplay. Never give up on that and your pleasure! And talk to your partner so that you two can achieve this achievement together.

Emotional issues

There is also the case of women who present emotional trauma or, still, lack the psychological balance to have a healthy sexual relationship. This is true both for those who have suffered severe abuse and also for those who are ashamed or afraid to talk to their partners and doctors.

When you simply “let go” of the pain that appears from time to time during sex or, still, you don’t tell anyone that every penetration is painful or burning, you are just feeding a snowball! It is essential that you find out what is going on, get to know your body and seek your well-being, which involves much more than satisfying your partner.

According to experts, vaginismus is a more common problem in young women and in those who have a history of sexual abuse or trauma. In some, the condition is so severe that it even prevents gynecological examinations. For those who suffer from this disorder, treatment should be individualized, depending on the causes of the problem. Therefore, the general guideline is to seek the gynecologist first.


Vaginismus is the involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles, to the point of not letting the penis or anything else overtake the beginning of the canal, like the speculum for gynecological exams. In general, this occurs for physical or emotional reasons, especially among women who have been abused.

To treat the problem of vaginismus, you need to seek medical help. Intimate gymnastics also helps a lot, as there will be greater control of the entire pelvic floor musculature, increasing the quality of female sexual health.

Your partner’s member is too big for you

Here we must emphasize that the size of the penis can influence the occurrence of pain. In this case, what may exist is that it is too big for its length. As for the width, if the woman is properly excited and lubricated, the vagina is prepared to have elasticity. But, when sex is more wild and the member is very long, it can hit the cervix, causing a slight colic after intercourse or even injuring.

If this happens frequently, try to talk to your partner so he can “take it a little easier”. If this is not possible during lust, try placing your hand on your partner’s pelvis. It will be a time to caress, but also to give a little limit to the depth of penetration.

What to do when you feel pain during sex?

When you are very swollen too, with a full bladder or close to your period, sex can also be very uncomfortable. So, here it is worth that great conversation with the partner and, who knows, maybe have a lighter game, without penetration, or have moments of fun together, which can already be part of the foreplay, leaving your body more relaxed so as not to feel pain in sex .

Pregnancy sex can make some women very comfortable, but most have an uncomfortable sexual relationship during this period. To relate to your partner, especially closer to having the baby, prefer more comfortable positions due to the weight of the belly, such as on the side.

For low lubrication or any problem related to arousal, you can make pompoir movements, even well before the sexual act itself, already at dinner time, for example. It is also worth using a lubricant.

Does intimate gymnastics help to minimize the problem?

Certainly, intimate gymnastics and pompoir movements help in several aspects to minimize problems related to pain during sexual intercourse. First, the woman knows her body and pleasure better, enhancing foreplay. Second, with control of the vaginal muscles, you can widen the canal during penetration or tighten it, increasing lubrication.

In addition, self-knowledge, increased self-esteem and all psychological and emotional characteristics are gained from the practice of pompoirism. With that, the woman feels more confident of herself, and I myself have seen several cases of those who started the exercises and stopped feeling pain during the relationship.

What have you been doing to improve the quality of your sex? Have you ever felt pain during intercourse? How did you act in this situation? Did you talk to the partner? He went to the doctor? Tell us in the comments or send me a message! Let’s solve any type of problem together and make your sex life much healthier!

by Abdullah Sam
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