I think a love phrase is really beautiful not when you read it and like it.
It’s beautiful when you re-read it and it broadens your heart allowing you to improve the way you live and love .
In addition to the “ official love phrases ” we have selected for you, every other word on this page, you will see, can prove to be a perfect phrase to share or simply reflect on.
Good reading, and good sharing ?
If you love someone you do not solve their problems, but you stay close to them while they face them (Giacomo Papasidero)
I think this is the most common mistake: protecting those we love by avoiding difficulties and problems or perhaps by solving them ourselves, in the first person, in their place.
In this way, however, you make the person you love weak, fragile, dependent on you and deny them the possibility of growing and becoming strong.
A process that also requires making mistakes and having to deal with suffering.
The point is also another, perhaps the most important: when you solve the problems of those you say you love, you do it for yourself .
If I can’t bear to see the one I love suffer, if I feel bad when someone has a problem and is sick, then I don’t intervene to help others , but myself.
I do it in order not to feel bad, since the discomfort of the other (in the face of his problems) becomes suffering for me. And so another love phrase comes to mind.
You can’t really love me if you can’t see me suffer (Giacomo Papasidero)
To love means to let myself be free to be what I am and to become what I want.
But life also often involves mistakes, problems and suffering .
If you can’t see me in pain, you simply wo n’t allow me to live, experience, try and also, of course, fail .
If you can’t see the one you love suffering, you will deny them time to understand and understand (sometimes we have to hit our heads several times before realizing our mistakes!).
Can you stand next to me while I cry?
If you can do it, if you don’t need (because otherwise you are hurt!) To stop my tears: then you can welcome them and me .
Then you can understand , you can set me free, you can love me .
And this will also be the most important moment in which to do it, as Catullus asked.
Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I need it most (Catullus)
Deserved love, Fromm suggested , lets pass the idea that it is not something truly authentic, something we receive “because it is me”.
But only because I ‘m useful .
In my opinion, love is not deserved.
Or if you prefer, we all deserve it .
I understood that behind every negative action, even the most despicable, there is always fear .
We see malice, where ignorance exists.
We can defend ourselves from bad people with love.
To do this, however, we must understand that badness is fear .
In life there are only two possibilities : Love and Fear .
Your life depends on this choice, which you make in every moment and which you can change or repeat in every subsequent moment.
Fear brings suffering and destruction.
Love brings happiness and growth.
The world will never be saved by rules, punishment, rigidity or aggression.
There is no violence that has produced something good without creating as many disasters.
Love is the only solution , to paraphrase Fromm , to the problem of human existence, or rather to suffering and all evil.
When someone makes a mistake and you think they “don’t deserve” your love, then it means they really need it .
And what love will it be that we deny precisely to those who need it?
When I love I want the happiness of the other.
When the other is suffering (and for this reason he would not “deserve” your love), in reality he has only one possibility to save himself from the pain: love .
It won’t be yours to save him .
But if you love, you will offer that person the opportunity to change their life .
It is not up to us whether others will take this opportunity.
But we can always offer it.
And I’m sorry if it’s a little.
In love, as in art, constancy is everything (Ennio Morricone)
Reflections by Alessandra Barigazzi.
The consistency is everything in love.
Love is a decision.
And the decision is such if it is consistently pursued for a certain time .
How much time? What is necessary for the realization of the purpose which that decision tends.
If I believe I love one or more people, but faced with the difficulties that relationships inevitably present, I change my decision and stop loving, I no longer love. .
Love has two pairs of seemingly opposite characteristics.
The first: it asks for a lifetime to be learned and practiced.
But it can also be put into practice in an instant , and that instant of love will have an infinite value that no one will ever be able to erase .
When I had my son, I expected so many things.
And I’ve made so many mistakes.
At one point I wondered if he wouldn’t have grown better without me. Then I realized: my expectations had to be educated, my love had to mature .
Together with my baby, I had to go on a growth path.
At the same time, our history full of errors was studded, moment by moment, with myriads of tiny gestures of love that had an infinite meaning.
When he grows up, he will be able to say that I was so wrong with him. He may even say that I ruined his life.
How many children attribute this to their parents.
But he can also choose , if he wants, to remember how much I loved him, how much love has passed between us .
Tiny and immense gestures, like when, a few days ago, just around my birthday he, seeing a pack of dog hygiene bags in a shop, decided to use his coins to give it to me.
I swear to you that this gift is one of the most beautiful I’ve ever received, despite having had a few thousand times more important economically.
The second pair of apparently opposite characteristics is that love requires a tenacious and unstoppable constancy (as Morricone said ) and also, on the contrary, a formidable elasticity, a continuous availability for change .
If you want to learn to love, you must never surrender to your own meanness, never be discouraged by your mistakes. Trust is needed .
In short, all these oxymorons make us understand that love is never taken for granted, it is never boring .
Do not judge as wrong what you do not know, take the opportunity to understand (Pablo Piacasso)
Reflections by Deborah Cavalieri.
I still remember my first contact with a surfboard at the age of 9: while I was walking with my cousin and suddenly the waves of the sea brought to shore a very worn surfboard and even a little broken.
After I worked hard to get my parents to let me try and that I would be careful they let me. What wonderful emotions I felt at the thought of being able to try even if the best was yet to come.
And do you know how it got there?
With a lot of effort, with patience, concentration, perseverance and self-confidence .
The confidence that by dint of not giving up I would be able to balance on that board by learning to ride the waves.
That day I could have listened to the opinions of others, I could have been satisfied with the emotion I felt in finding that surfboard, and then left it in a corner for fear of negative judgments and continuous disapproval, on the part of those who saw us alone something wrong with my choice.
Instead I didn’t give up, I wanted to understand, discover, try, in one word I was simply loving. Loving that moment that I didn’t know what it would bring or transform in me.
Life is a continuous choice and I have chosen to continue to want to carry on what I believed and hoped for with determination and love.
If I love I am happy, if I love I am confident, if I love I am positive, if I love I am one step away from becoming more aware every day and consequently strong.
If I love I don’t need to judge because love makes everything perfect .
So we do not get lost in judging something wrong, right or not but we transform every moment into love , into an opportunity to be surprised by what we will understand and will happen thanks to our love in one’s life path.
” Love to love, not to have something in return, otherwise it is not love ” (Leo Buscaglia)
Reflections by Gianluca Soffietti .
It is the invitation to love written in the book ” Live, love, understand each other “.
I was very impressed by the absence of two letters: “SE”.
Since we were children we are educated with the “IF”: if you are a good Santa Claus he will bring you gifts, if you behave well you can play football, if you make me angry then it means that you don’t love me …
Continuing to grow, the “SE” is always present and, indeed, strengthens.
I am polite with you if you are polite with me, if you talk to me screaming I do the same, if you return my greeting I will continue to greet you, if you behave as I like, I will continue to go out with you, if you are available to be close to me as much as I ask, I continue to be your friend …
The “SE” implies a condition , a pact.
I greet you on condition that you do the same, I love you “as long as” you do the same. I do something only if I get something in return and this something is useful for me .
What does it mean that it is useful for me?
It means that I have a specific interest : you not only have to say goodbye but you have to do it as it should be done in my opinion, according to my rules, my conditions, according to the times and methods that I expect and which are right for me and objective.
If you greet me without smiling or with a low tone of voice, it will not be a good greeting for me, for example, when my rules require you to greet with a smile and a firm tone of voice.
It doesn’t matter if you are tired at that moment or are simply cold and voiceless, your greeting is not good and next time I’ll think twice before deciding whether to say hello again.
Another important point is this: What kind of emotions do I feel when my SELF is not respected?
When you greet me as I believe to be right: I feel positive emotions (happiness, enthusiasm). When you greet me in a way other than what I believe to be correct: I experience negative emotions (disappointment, disrespect)
Whenever my “IF” is respected I feel positive emotions and when, conversely, my “IF” is not satisfied, I feel negative emotions.
This applies to all the “situations” we live, from the most “simple” like the greeting, to the most “complex” like the couple relationship.
Buscaglia invites us to live the gratuitousness of love: to love in order to love and not to have something in return. If I love to have something in return, it is not love but interest .
To love by freeing oneself from placing conditions and not making the choice to love depend on what others do .
Only by eliminating the “IF” am I able to love you without placing conditions. Is it possible to learn to love for free?
One way is also suggested by Anthony De Mello who explains how to live perfect love .
“ Perfect love drives out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, there is no dependence. I don’t expect you to make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you ” (Anthony De Mello)
Reflections by Gianluca Soffietti .
There are two great emotions: love and fear .
Love is openness, availability, listening, welcome, understanding , patience, calm, strength …
Fear is closure, rigidity, judgment, impatience, haste, fatigue. Fear is always linked to suffering, to the fear of being sick and suffering.
I love and am happy.
I am afraid and I am sad.
Loving with the “SE,” on condition that “, is not love as it is believed but, ” disguised ” fear .
It is a deception.
How can we not live in fear?
Training for perfect love:
- I have no requests : it’s free . I love you without asking for anything in return, just for the sake of loving and I have no interest or conditions to enforce.
- I have no expectations : it is unlimited . Not only do I not ask for anything, but I don’t even have more or less implicit expectations, there are no limits or conditions that can prevent me from loving.
- There is no addiction , I do not expect you to make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you: it is infinite . My love, my being happy does not depend on you, on if and how you act towards me, if you behave as I expect or that you return my love. If my happiness does not depend on others, I have the strength to love everything and everyone infinitely .
Perfect love is unconditional love and drives away fear and suffering.
Another tip for how to experience unconditional love comes from a famous American doctor.
“When you cure a disease, you can win or lose. When you take care of a person, you always win “(Patch Adams)
Reflections by Gianluca Soffietti .
To love means to “take care of”.
If I train myself to love, then, I choose to take care of someone, myself or something . This is a choice I can always make because it depends only on me and not on external conditions that I cannot control.
I always have the freedom and the power to choose how to live every moment of my life. I can always choose to love and “take care of” without conditions.
To take care means to commit to knowing, understanding, listening, violating, doing concrete things to help someone, doing things calmly and carefully.
In some situations, making someone “just” feel one’s presence can be everything and be worth a lot.
That’s when I cure the disease, I can win or lose.
Diseases cannot always be cured.
When I take care of the person, I listen to him, I give him my presence, my understanding, my time, my words, my smiles, my hugs, my gaze, I give something extraordinary and unique and this cannot than lead to victory.
This approach is all the more true the more challenging the disease.
It may not be easy, on the contrary, it is often complex and requires commitment, but it is always possible .
When I don’t know how to take care of someone, I can ask myself : if I were that person, with their history, their beliefs, their experience, what would I want to receive?
To love means to do to others what I would like others to do to me.
When I love unconditionally, “I take care of”, I always win ?
One can learn to love unconditionally and be happy.
So why not do it?
It is a path, it requires commitment but it is possible for everyone.
One way to learn it, for example, is to enroll in Giacomo’s school .
I also recommend that you start doing a very simple exercise every day: the exercise of gratitude .
Every day, as soon as you wake up and before falling asleep, train yourself to become aware of everything you can be grateful for: thank the room or house you live in, thank the bed you sleep in, thank your body, thank your being alive , the food you have eaten, the company of any people you live with or whom you have met or heard, be grateful for being able to see or smell or taste the food, thank the book you can read or the music you can listen to.
The more you train yourself to be grateful for what you have every day, the more I would learn to be strong in love because gratitude removes the “SELF”, does not demand and does not place conditions ?
Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you (Jesus)
Reflections by Megumì Campanella .
When, about twelve years ago, I decided to “welcome as my spouse” the person with whom I had chosen to share my life, the priest who would marry us asked me to choose a passage from the Gospel that I would personally read during the ceremony. .
I had no doubts in wanting to share this passage from the Gospel of Luke with everyone present .
But who is this “enemy”?
- Enemy can be the shopkeeper or the telephone operator who, perhaps deeply stressed and frustrated, treats you badly and gets impatient at all your questions, even polite and kind.
- Enemy is the surly neighbor who never responds to your greeting and you don’t understand why.
- Enemy is the ex-friend or ex-partner who didn’t have the strength to stay close to you and betrayed you.
- Enemy are also the difficulties, uncomfortable situations, misfortunes, obstacles , often challenging and some seemingly without solution, that you encounter along your path.
When I was little my mother often told me that when I was prey to negative emotions of anger, envy, jealousy, frustration, my face, like everyone’s, became “dirty”.
At that age I was not able to understand the true meaning of his term so I hurried, worried, to look in the mirror fearing to find myself with a black face covered with soot! ?
Yet these words of his sometimes come back to my mind because, observing over the years others but also myself, I have “seen” clearly how the face of a person in the grip of anger and resentment is profoundly transformed, and certainly we do not become more beautiful and radiant …
And, looking beyond that stiff and almost unnatural face, I saw all the harm we do first of all to ourselves .
The evil that we do by rejecting a reality à which however, in addition to not change one iota, maybe we contribute with our anger, to worsen further .
The evil that we do when we choose to see the positive that lies behind every difficulty à , looking only at the negative sides.
The evil that we do getting lost l ‘ opportunity à , perhaps only, to contribute to free, if only for an instant, a person suffering from its aggression mask à and hatred.
A dear friend of mine, Deborah , one day introduced me to a wonderful phrase that often comes to mind.
“When someone makes you angry, it is as if an arrow has been shot at your heart. But they didn’t hit you, and he’s lying on the ground at your feet. Then you pick it up and hit yourself again and again, over and over. This is what happens with anger. Anything in life can cause a fight, but the choice to get angry or not is ours alone “(Chagdud Tulku Rinpoche)
Reflections by Megumì Campanella .
The image of the arrow by which we delude ourselves that we have been hit, makes me reflect on the fact that most of the times we try, with fear and conviction, to defend ourselves, even aggressively, from a potential threat, in reality the damage that we think we derive is only imaginary .
Not even to do it on purpose, just as I am writing these lines, I have just witnessed from my bedroom window a violent fight between one of my cats and the cat of a neighbor who comes every day “to visit” in our garden since childhood with mastery ?
It was a moment, the neighbor’s cat had just boldly crossed our gate and I saw my cat violently throw himself at him and then fight with hatred, regardless of the rain. (fear not, now each of them is at home on a warm blanket licking their wounds ?)
Often I also talk about it with my neighbor and, from our human point of view , we are sorry that, despite the fact that they both have a home , are loved and cared for, do not have to fight for food or for a kennel, they do nothing else than to hate each other and fight and, inevitably, get hurt .
For what?
For an ‘ illusion.
For the same illusion on the part of both, that the ‘ other pose a threat.
Another of my cats, a very territorial sissy, is defined by many as very aggressive.
In reality she is very affectionate and very tender, but very fearful and sees a threat in everything. A trifle is enough to make it swell and make it put into demonic screams to frighten the whole building.
And, of course, most of the time, there is no trace of real danger …
What about us humans?
Do we behave so differently when we feel threatened?
Before throwing yourself angrily at your “enemy”, as my cat did, I advise you to stop and reflect to identify (perhaps in writing) first of all exactly how and in what way you feel threatened , in what the behavior of that person or the situation you face you think may harm you and why it is a problem for you.
And if for every problem there is a solution (and for every problem there is at least one solution ) you’ll see that, paradoxically, the ‘ idea of ” enemy ” will not have a pi ù reason to exist.
In reality, in most cases (of course I am not referring to situations of real danger and physical threat, from which you must naturally defend yourself), the belief that someone or something can harm you, is something that you create in your mind.
As you acquire every day more security, strength, capacity à to find solutions, independence and serenity à , as they learn to recognize the ‘ opportunity à behind the difficulty à and obstacles , the more you will be able to see the “enemy” to those who really are: people who, like you, desire to be understood, listened to and loved, human beings who, just like you , are sometimes afraid and feel threatened , suffering souls who have not yet found or do not know the way to be happy .
And, you have no idea of the difference you could make , in the life of each of these people, but especially in your own , starting to give love instead of responding with hate, offering understanding and listening rather than turning away with rejection, and giving at every opportunity your contribution despite everything, rather than condemning.
“Giving means being rich. Not the one who has a lot is rich, but the one who gives a lot “( Erick Fromm)
Reflections by Serena Sironi .
These are just a few words, but several times I happened to quote this phrase when talking about love and selfishness.
Only those who are rich can donate .
And how could I do it if I have nothing?
Those who are poor will try to take in order to feed themselves.
After all, he has nothing, how could he not?
And so far it all seems obvious.
But you could tell me, true, but those who are rich may not give and think only of taking to increase their wealth. Selfishness…
Yeah, but will this person really be rich?
The truth is that selfishness leads to accumulating what we want, but it does nothing but impoverish people and now I’ll explain why ?
Think of a bank account, you could even have a million euros, but if you don’t invest the money loses value.
Accumulating them without investing them makes them useless .
And how could a useless thing have any value?
This is how a selfish person thinks he is rich, but when he goes to buy bread he will find that that money cannot buy anything anymore .
Now they are just worthless pieces of paper and that person realizes that they are immensely poor .
A person’s wealth does not depend on the money he has, but on the value he has!
Like a large bank account, it does not make those who own it rich, but those who invest it.
If I use my account money to grow a business, for example, I am producing double wealth.
The company grows and my capital too.
1 + 1 = 3 or maybe more ?
Loving is like investing one’s wealth to make it grow more and more.
“The more the conscience expands, incorporating others and the whole world into itself, the more the individual understands that the needs, needs and well-being of others are his needs, his well-being and his needs” ( Daniel Lumera)
That’s why ” not the one who has a lot is rich, but the one who gives a lot”
When we understand all this then we feel the true value of love.
That is the moment when our consciousness expands and we feel hunger coming. This time, however, the hunger is not to take, but to give.
Love, not selfishness, because the good of others is our good .
Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the first condition for the ability to love (Erich Fromm)
Reflections by Pamela Bembi.
Fromm , in his book “The art of loving”, clearly writes how this wonderful engine that unites everyone, indiscriminately on the face of the Earth, is an art that is learned like music, painting, writing, poetry, engineering, and as an art, can only improve with practice, action, commitment, understanding of its very nature.
Love, the most sought after of man’s needs, requires commitment and energy, we make the mistake of living it as a part in itself, detached and independent from the rest of our interests despite its truest nature. For this reason, perhaps, the path of love is the most sought after but, to quote R. Frost, the least traveled .
The ability to be alone is not understood as the will or the choice to suffer, to deprive oneself of something, to isolate oneself, but to undertake a real love story first of all with oneself.
Do you love yourself?
Loving yourself is not a form of selfishness, self-centeredness, but a form of attention and gratitude to life.
You see, in this moment you are reading and your intellectual, perceptive, emotional faculties are in motion together with the breath, the beating of your heart, the movement of your body.
How much awareness do you have of this?
Ability to be alone is equivalent to feeling good about yourself , becoming aware of the sense of your own “I” which gives color, shape, direction to the reality you live.
Being comfortable with yourself requires care, attention and above all listening to get to know each other better.
How can I know what I need if I don’t listen to me?
How can I listen to myself if I don’t put my commitments on pause, I don’t dedicate time to myself, I don’t understand my emotions?
And from here, the beauty begins, the distinctive trait of love: giving .
By giving one receives, forgetting oneself one finds oneself (Francis of Assisi)
Reflections by Pamela Bembi.
If you understand yourself, your nature, your uniqueness, your worth, then you will see the same uniqueness in the eyes of others .
Your giving will never be a privation, but a free gift that draws its pleasure and its richness in the very act of giving.
This is why if I love myself, I am capable of loving , this is why love for oneself precedes love for others. I cannot give what I don’t have because then yes, giving sees a kind of sacrifice, privation.
In my life I have had volunteer experiences that have led me to live very different realities from mine, I have encountered different cultures, different ways of living and thinking, but I have not fully accepted this precious gift.
Maybe I was too young to understand, maybe how the fruits on the trees slowly reach their maturity before being picked, even these experiences were like fruits that today come to me with a different maturation.
The fruit that I now reap is not of the sacrifice and deprivation of my comforts as I lived then, but of carrying me for what I am without depriving myself of anything .
So what does “forget” mean?
It means undressing one’s selfishness , from appearances that only make us more vulnerable, from the need for approval, from the absolutist conception of good or bad, right and unjust, from comforts.
Under these “clothes” that are tight on us, there is the true man, the man rediscovered, renewed, capable of giving because he loves himself and knows how to love in turn .
What do you get?
Love knows many ways and ways in which to manifest itself, it doesn’t know just one way. Sometimes it is direct and straightforward, other times it is light and silent, but it goes straight to the essence of man.
In a book, I read a sentence that went something like this: “ Taking people to heart is different from filling your heart. I don’t use others to fill, but I love making freedom possible ”.
Here, I can mention Buscaglia . I have read his books indeed, I drank them as one drinks fresh water in the desert.
“ Maybe love is the process by which I gently bring you back to yourself. Not to what I want you to be, but to what you are ” (Leo Buscaglia)
Reflections by Pamela Bembi.
You see, after understanding that “I” am the perfect “myself” if stripped of useless clothes (process), I am able to understand, to welcome, because I have made room in my heart.
There is nothing more beautiful than talking openly with a person without feeling the feeling of being judged but feeling free to say and be what you really are.
” Not what you want to be, but what you are ” … what a liberation to be able to throw away all those different masks intended for different contexts!
What a liberation to be yourself everywhere then, to always feel at home!
But if I choose this for myself because it frees me, why not do the same with others?
Accept them for what they are and not what I need to see? Gently…
I don’t use but I love, I take people to heart.
I truly understood that loving is an art that you never stop learning , that it is demanding but full of deep and true joys, that it is intimate but for this reason it does not deserve to remain hidden and divided from one’s way of doing and acting, it is a way of life, of being, a life choice applicable in any context.
Love is not a static emotion, not even a virus that brings with it suffering, illusion, anger , resentment, disappointment … love is life, joy, movement, it is … love .
Love phrases: the 15 most unusual
I honestly think that the love phrases you have read are quite unusual , you can’t find them easily on the sites today or in the social posts.
Precisely for this reason they will be much more meaningful : you can share something different from the usual and above all you can really reflect on the meaning behind these words.
When you read a sentence about love, don’t just share it.
Live it .
Think about it, make it yours, or rather, make love your own more and more deeply , thanks also to that sentence that offers you a point of view that you may never have considered.
( This article has been written by Giacomo Papasidero.He is the author of website; www.diventarefelici.it).He is professional blogger in Italy.
