Kindness: A powerful force that changes people

In an increasingly aggressive world, kindness has become synonymous with weakness. And it should be the opposite, because kindness is all the more necessary – today more than ever. To live better. With myself. And with others. It’s never too late to turn over a new leaf and be as kind as possible

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True kindness is an inner attitude that makes us feel good, opens up opportunities for us to get in touch with other people, creates a positive and calm environment. And it’s contagious. And when it is emphasized, it does not mean surrender, but the availability to listen and try to understand other people’s opinion, without prejudices. Being kind has become a real life choice. Never before has kindness been so necessary, without humane interpersonal relationships one can neither live nor survive.

In an increasingly cruel world, whose rhythm is becoming more frenetic every day and where indifference and unscrupulous competitive spirit have become the laws of survival, kindness has become a rarity. Although, when you look closely, kindness manages to survive with the help of thousands of small and banal gestures in everyone’s everyday life. In this global cooling of relations, kindness has become the courage of hypermodern times. A new act of heroism, in contrast to the firmness and ubiquitous cynicism, which is constantly practiced (towards ourselves, others and the environment) can help us live better. Because, behind the apparent weakness, kindness is a powerful and revolutionary force that can change people all over the world.

Thanks, please, sorry…

And the Dalai Lama has always said, “Kindness is my religion,” kindness is my religion. Of course, it is not a matter of the facade of kindness, but the real one, the one that comes from the depths of the soul. Intense, which means openness, attention, respect for others. These are not so-called good manners, which can sometimes make us happier and more aware. But it is true that formalities, as hypocritical as they can be, are more necessary than ever before, because they often help to avoid sparks and conflicts that can cause a lot of trouble among strangers. Feeling kind is good, everyone likes to be understood, treated with care and politeness.

Of course, we cannot imitate the Dalai Lama and his perfect calm, but we can try. The heroism of small gestures: to say thank you to a colleague at work and a saleswoman in a supermarket, turn off the bell on your cell phone in a restaurant and theater, hold the elevator door and wait for a neighbor… What would happen if we didn’t walk into the distance or into the ground while walking down the street and smile at each other? Or do we give a hug, like Free Hugs, which offers passers-by free hugs? Of course, this is not always easy. Kindness is a daily test, because, no matter how hard you try to be kind, there will always be those who will push and trample you on public transport, colleagues who will be noisy while you are trying to work, without any regard or words of apology. You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate. But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the book hold the elevator door and wait for the neighbor…

What would happen if we didn’t walk into the distance or into the ground while walking down the street and smile at each other? Or do we give a hug, like Free Hugs, which offers passers-by free hugs? Of course, this is not always easy. Kindness is a daily test, because, no matter how hard you try to be kind, there will always be those who will push and trample you on public transport, colleagues who will be noisy while you are trying to work, without any regard or words of apology. You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate. But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the book hold the elevator door and wait for the neighbor… What would happen if we didn’t walk into the distance or into the ground while walking down the street and smile at each other? Or do we give a hug, like Free Hugs, which offers passers-by free hugs?

Of course, this is not always easy. Kindness is a daily test, because, no matter how hard you try to be kind, there will always be those who will push and trample you on public transport, colleagues who will be noisy while you are trying to work, without any regard or words of apology. You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate. But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the book like Free Hugs, who offer passers-by free hugs? Of course, this is not always easy. Kindness is a daily test, because, no matter how hard you try to be kind, there will always be those who will push and trample you on public transport, colleagues who will be noisy while you are trying to work, without any regard or words of apology.

You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate. But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the book like Free Hugs, who offer passers-by free hugs? Of course, this is not always easy. Kindness is a daily test, because, no matter how hard you try to be kind, there will always be those who will push and trample you on public transport, colleagues who will be noisy while you are trying to work, without any regard or words of apology. You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate. But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the book colleagues who will be noisy while trying to work, without any regard or words of apology. You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate.

But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the book colleagues who will be noisy while trying to work, without any regard or words of apology. You may think that it is not easy to always be kind and then when we want to, you may feel stupid and decide that it is best to be kind only to those who deserve it and reciprocate. But the English psychologist Robert Levin in the bookAnd Geography of Time says that kindness is a feeling that takes time: if we have a little of it – we are less and kinder.

Bad reputation

In today’s competitive society, which separates winners and losers and where strength dominates, kindness does not seem to be the most ideal equipment for achieving success and gaining respect. Why does he have a bad reputation? It is considered that the trait of a loser is a thin protective barrier against someone else’s aggression: I will be kind to you and so you will not do me any harm – psychologists believe. Kindness even evokes feelings of doubt and distrust, we know it can be false and used deliberately. Or as a form of camouflaged narcissism: we are kind to be satisfied, to get what we want from others. Indifference and arrogance are so widespread that when we meet a kind person we first think he has some hidden goal. Widespread feelings of fear and insecurity instinctively create resistance to the most positive feelings and behaviors.

A gesture that comes back to us with good

But why should we be kind, what do we get out of it? It is an almost necessary operation. Society does not function without kindness, without it endless problems arise because it is difficult to live in a hostile, closed and distrustful society. The cardinal virtues of modern man are independence and self-sufficiency. But we all depend on someone else, we only exist when we are in a relationship with other people. Therefore, we need to rediscover a strong and empathetic man, whose well-being depends on the quality of the relationship he is able to achieve, and kindness can become a significant trump card that will help open up to others, create relationships, intimacy that we seek. Being kind does not mean humility and surrender. On the contrary! As experts note,

Kindness is contagious, if we choose to smile at someone, we can be sure that it will come back to us. And kindness, of course, can only be chosen, and never imposed. But man is a special being, trained to feel compassion and responsibility, and in that sense kindness becomes a form of social intelligence, our inseparable part.

 

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