Many boys want to develop in the direction that girls like when chasing girls, but it’s actually quite difficult to become such a boy. So, instead of thinking about how to become what they like before chasing girls, it’s better Be a person who makes them feel uncomfortable. After all, not being disgusted is the threshold to success.
Adhering to the principle that the predecessors stepped on the pit and the rest is relaxed, the boys most disgusted by girls can be roughly divided into the following three types.
1. Short and fast
Short and quiet means that the time to know each other is shorter and the relationship is relatively dull, but the confession is extremely quick.
More vividly, when I went out in the morning and saw a girl I liked, I couldn’t wait to deal with others in the afternoon, and in the evening I wanted to roll the sheets when the spring was overwhelming.
Friends, your rhythm is too fast, I’m afraid of the girl.
Psychology classifies this as bloody, what does it mean? Let’s take Marshal Canopy as an example.
In an unfamiliar environment, I can quickly get acquainted with people I meet for the first time. I don’t have much sense of distance in my heart. I am active and enthusiastic, and I know and build relationships with people quickly. This kind of exchange has breadth but not depth.
This can work in workplaces and parties, but feelings are another matter.
If you want to stay in love with the girl for a long time, you must put away this kind of general acquaintance operation to avoid giving the other party an impression of exaggeration and anxiety. You have to hide for a while, right?
2. Install X
Understandably, pretending to be X is in a sense a way of showing oneself.
Psychologist Malos analyzed the needs of people and put forward Malos’ hierarchy of needs.
That is, physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs.
Self-actualization is the most advanced requirement.
However, there are tens of thousands of ways to show, why choose a dead end?
Do you know, when we talk about it, if we can, the other party’s saliva can spit on you.
Girls are naturally sensitive, let them detect it the first time you start to pretend to be X.
Although they were polite and smiled, in fact, we were already on the blacklist by the other party at this time.
Therefore, we need to be truthful and realistic, not ashamed, but to lower her expectations of us, so that we can pursue better later.
3. No opinion
Worry, grief, uncle…
In short, most of the vicious words we can imagine will be used to complain about innocent people.
In the past, it was always said that men should be self-reliant, which means nothing more than self-reliance in life, and being strong and unyielding in the face of difficulties.
No way, this is the society’s expectations of men since ancient times, and over time has become one of the criteria for judging whether a man is man or not.
Imagine what their feelings would be when the words “all do”, “don’t know” and “whatever” appear repeatedly when the other party asks me for advice.
The relationship we have worked so hard to get closer is most likely to be destroyed by this. Because it is nothing but immaturity and lack of thought.
I know that some friends are indecisive because of their growing up environment and other reasons.
In fact, lack of opinion is not a constant level. As long as we give more hints, exercise more daily, do things decisively, and when we encounter any need to make a decision, we will do it independently.
For example, when buying clothes, choose the one you like, and don’t ask others for help.
For example, when ordering food, choose less and more.
As time goes by, opinions will gradually develop.
In fact, in addition to the three most disgusting categories, girls also value certain details. Everyone must know this.
