Marriage is a strong bond between husband and wife. Allah loves the eternal stability of the Ta’ala, dislikes separation. Ershad says: ‘ How do you take it back? But you have become partners with each other and have taken a firm commitment to you. ‘[ Nisa: 25]
Because of this agreement and affidavit, Islam affirms certain responsibilities and rights between both spouses. Implementation of what will make bridal life happy and lasting – no doubt. Almost all of those rights are summarized in the Qur’anic verse: ‘Just as women have rights, they also have rights according to their principles and principles. However superiority over women is on men. Allah is Mighty, Wise. ‘[ Bakara: 221 ]
Allah has mentioned in this verse that everyone has authority over everyone. Although superiority is a consideration of men in terms of obedience and guardianship and guardianship.
First, the rights that both spouses have in common:
১. To show mutual honesty, loyalty and goodwill in the marriage
Those who have the most intimate friendship, erotic relationships, greater fellowship, the most exchanges are husbands and wives. In order to give the relationship a lasting look, good character, mutual respect, humility, humor, humor and misplaced remorse are inevitable. And to abandon all acts, sayings, and uses which are either about or perpetuated forever. Allah says: ‘Be kind to them. ‘[ Nisa: 1 ]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘ Whoever is good to his family among you is best. I am good to my family ‘[Ibn Majah: 3]
Living in harmony with one another is a broad term. All rights exist in between.
2 Enjoying each other
All the preparations and all the materials available for this. For example, use of fragrances, fragrances, and avoidance of deodorant and dirty clothes with good hygiene. Husband and wife should keep an eye on these things. Moreover, they are also part of living a good life. Ibn Abbas said. He said: ‘ I like my wife’s decoration for her, just as I wish for my wife.’
However, to ensure this right to each other, both should avoid forbidden relations and forbidden objects.
। Protecting the privacy of the marital relationship
It is best not to discuss the physical problems with others. The secret of enjoyable things between husband and wife. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘ On the Day of Resurrection, the most inferior person in the court of Allah is the one who meets his wife and whom he meets with his wife, and then he goes about revealing his privacy. ‘[Muslim: 25]
না Wishing each other good, giving advice on truth and patience
To cooperate with one another in obeying God. Both spouses are more entitled to advice from one another. It is the duty of both to save the couple’s life. The implication of this is to cooperate with each other in maintaining harmony with their relatives.
They are both equal, supportive of the upbringing and education of their children. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘ Help one another with good deeds and good looks. ‘[ Maeda: 2 ]
Secondly, it is the duty of the wife towards the husband:
Islam has imposed certain rights on the wife of a happy couple, in order to maintain a happy bridal life, orderly family, a bond of affection and affectionate husband and wife. Here are some of the important ones.
১. Obedience to husband
It is the duty of the wife to obey her husband. It is not any loyalty, however, in which case the following three conditions of loyalty will exist.
(A) To obey the husband in all matters that are good and honest and not contrary to the law of God. Obedience to a Creator is not valid in disobedience to the Creator God.
(B) Obedience to the husband in the matter of his wife’s ability and ability. Because Allah does not assign people extra responsibilities beyond their means.
(C) Obedience to the husband in the direction or the possibility of any loss in fulfilling the demand.
In obedience, Allah says in the Holy Qur’an: ‘ Men have superiority and authority over women. ‘[ Bakara: 221 ]
Allaah says: ‘ Men are the rulers of women. This is because Allah has provided for them the difference and excellence. Secondly, men are the ones who take the cost. ‘[ Nisa: 1 ]
In addition, through this loyalty, the marriage gets stability, the family is on the right path. The Prophet Karim (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) acknowledged the obedience of her husband, saying: ” A woman who performs five-five prayers, fasting during the month of Ramadan, and takes care of her own shame and obeys her husband, will enter any door of Paradise as she wishes. ‘[Ahmad: 3]
It is the duty of the husband to follow the law of God in exercising all these rights. To advise on the welfare and good character of the wife on the basis of the mind and choice of the wife, or to refrain from considering benevolence. In this, the wife will be obediently and with gratitude.
2. Location of husband and wife
It is inappropriate to leave the husband’s house without the need and permission of the husband. He addressed the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) – all women included: ‘Stay in your own house, do not show yourself to be like the beauty of ancient times. ‘[ AH : 9 ]
Benefit of the wife and where there is no harm to her, do not obstruct the husband in such work. For example, with a screen, avoiding the aroma and beauty display will not prevent you from going anywhere. Ibn Umar said. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘ Do not prevent the servants of Allah from going to Allah’s house. ‘[Bukhari: 1]
Abdullah ibn Mas’ud’s wife, Zainab Sakafi. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell us: ‘If one of you wishes to go to the mosque, he will not use perfume. ‘[Muslim: 3]
৩. Take care of your own house and your children
Protecting the husband’s wealth. It is not possible for the husband to present any such absurdity or necessity. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘The wife is the caretaker of her husband’s house. He will be held accountable for this responsibility. ‘[Bukhari: 21]
৪. Protect one’s integrity and honor
In one of the earlier discussions we mentioned in a hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him) that he should never experience temptation or temptation.
৫. Do not allow anyone who dislikes her husband to enter her room
Whether he is a relative or a relative. Such as brothers and sisters. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘It is the duty of wives not to place anyone whom you dislike to bed. ‘[Muslim: 25]
Do not fast in the presence of the husband without her permission. Because, fasting is not – obedience is obligatory. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘It is not legal for a woman to fast without her husband’s permission. Likewise, it is not lawful for anyone to enter his house without permission. ‘[Bukhari: 1]
Islam has imposed certain rights on the husband and wife over the husband’s rights, the duty of the husband towards the wife, the happy bridal life, the orderly family, the bonds of selfless and rich spouses. Here are some of the important ones.
১. Pay the seal
The obligation to pay the seal of women. This right is not his own, his parents or anyone else’s. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ” Give wives to your wives with all your heart.” ‘[ Nisa: 1 ]
It is the duty of the husband to provide for the wife according to affordability and customary customs. This dependence may be less on the basis of husband’s ability and wife’s dignity. It can vary between time and place, according to Allah. And whoever owns the limited resources will spend it only from the limited resources provided by Allah. Allah does not order anyone to spend more than what Allah has given them. ‘[ Divorce: 1 ]
৩. Be kind and compassionate towards your wife
Do not be rude to your wife. To be patient with his tolerable mistake. As husbands, everyone should know that even though women hold all the possible seats of dignity, it is not possible to be fully refined. The Messenger of Allah (।) said: ‘ You are good about women. Because, they are caused by rib bones. The upper bone of the rib is most ‘curved. (The bone with which women were created) If you want to straighten it, you will break it. If left in this state, it will bend. So be kind to them, and take good advice about them. ‘ [Bukhari, Muslim, Riyadus Salihin :: Books 1 :: Hadith 21]
৪. Being self-respectful about the wife
Holding them in their hands and guiding them in the right direction. Because they are creatively weak, in any indifference of their husband, they themselves will be harmed and others will be harmed. This is why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned very carefully against the temptation of women. He said: ‘In my absence , I did not leave any harmful effects on women’. ‘[Bukhari: 1]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ” You are surprised at Sa’ad’s feelings and self-esteem. I feel more self-esteem in him, and Allah is more important in me. ‘[Muslim: 25]
Shaykhul Islam bin Taimia Rah. He said that the one who lacks self-esteem is Daiyusch (husband of an untruthful woman who tolerates his wife’s misdeeds) . The hadith says: ‘ Da’youch will not enter Paradise. “[Dari: 5]
The most important thing about a man is his family. The priority is his wife. Then other relatives and subordinates.
Finally, acknowledging the reality of the accident is to say that no family is free from problems or conflicts. This is human nature and nature. On the contrary, if one thinks his family is free or hassle free or fresh, he will make mistakes. This is because the only example of the best family or happy family in this system is the family and family of our Prophet (peace be upon him). There we see images of human guilt and error, where is the sanctity of another family?
The temperament of the wise-minded is to work thoughtfully, overcome the temptation, deal with anger and instinct with restraint. Because, they know, at any moment, the disguise of self-esteem can be a serious and difficult sin. And Allah does not do it at His finger. But he must apply his talents, tactics and intelligence.